| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 5/25/2009 8:47:45 PM | | I've seen that a lot of men check out my profile, and yet no response. So, what is up now? Is it to vague or too much detail? Not enough personality? What? It bother's me. So your thoughts please. Thank you in advance. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 5/25/2009 11:40:40 PM | Well, since it would be hard covering your tatoos in hot cali, you are limited to those who wont mind them in public. Personally, its not for me, but lots of guys dont care.
Profile is bland, you can put most of it up in interests and then talk about a few, there was no interest there, just boredom. You got a cute face so keep then lookin at your profile longer. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 5/26/2009 12:31:40 AM | | Yea I am aware that some men don't like it, thankfully there are those who do. Thank for the complimate and I did try to add, so what about now? | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 5/31/2009 2:30:01 PM | Just was browsing the site saw your forum. I too have the same problem.
My suggestion to you would be not to show all you have all at once leave some mystry.
The photo with the friend is the best one with your smile and cruly hair.
I am much older then you I find most men like tatoos but want them to be a surprise.
Be simple and tone down the jewelry it clashes with the tatoos.
Good luck with you fishing. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 5/31/2009 11:07:10 PM | | Ohh thank you and I did take your suggestions to heart. I deleted some pictures that showed too much. By the way, I check out your profile and you seem like a lovely person. I guess we are just going to dry spell and hopefully it will end soon. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/4/2009 4:33:07 PM | Hello!
You're cute! I do like the 2nd and 3rd photos better, because they show your features better. Nice hair and nice eyes.
Don't worry about that men aren't responding, but looking. That is how the site goes. Unfortunately, we can see that a lot view, but of course they don't all write...the reason is they look at tons of thumbnail photos and then write, or some read the profiles and then write. LOL. It's just the way it goes. I do the same. I look at a a lot, but it's because I can't see their face...then you have to read to see if you're on the same page otherwise.
The profile is short and sweet and right to the point. But you left out describing the kind of man you're looking for. How will he know to write to you?
You sound well rounded and no, you didn't talk too much.
Take out your mileage and age restrictions. You never know who is out there..even just for a friend.
Best of luck to you and good luck in our search and life.
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/7/2009 3:31:39 PM | | Thanks for the advice and I will add more in what I am looking for. But honestly, I have my restrictions for a reason, getting to know a much older/younger man does not interest me at all, I enjoy men my own age. I am here for someone to date, not just make friends with, and so I don't understand why would I take out the milage part. Please explain. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:17:44 PM | I read through your profile , and figured i would just suggest a lil' re-write? Now, if my rewritten version doesn't work better/ getting more attention, just go back to the old one...
HERES YR PROFILE.... I fixed some spelling/punctuation... and re-worded small things... now follow me on this... I removed some redundant statements and made your interests, etc sound more enthusiastic! also, while you are most likely VERY busy, its not the best thing to NEGATE potential dudes before they even contact you, so showing that you have the energy and passion to meet new people should be emphatically shined up...I also moved your paragraphs about your interests to the fore-front and moved your career stuff and about being strapped for time to the second to last paragraph.
Your pics seem fine by me... I would just go with 3-4 of your favorites; don't hide your tattoos! Go with friendly and fun ones...unless your not friendly and fun?
This took me about five mins, I hope it helps and I wish you success in finding what your looking for!
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I am an open minded, easy going woman who is determined and witty. I'm focused on my goals and am curious, intelligent and adventurous ; I would try anything at least once!!!
Traveling is something I love! I just came back from San Francisco/Napa Valley. It was a fantastic trip and hope to go back soon! I saw a bit of Little Italy, Chinatown, Castro District, Alcatraz, and wine tasting...it was sooooo much to see and do. LOVED IT!!! Now, I'm currently planning to go next year to visit my family in Mexico. I haven't been there since I was a teen and want to appreciate my dads roots.
I enjoy going to the movies, anything with good comedy or action is great. Since I have a few family members and friends who are artists, I love going to museums, plays, and concerts. Also, going out to eat and trying different food is fun; I just had my first ostrich burger. It was interesting...
I'm a pharmacy technician (and I love what I do!) but I want to be EVEN more involved in the medical health field, so I have gone back to school. I will be studying to be a registered nurse. My time is currently split with work and school. However, if the right person comes along,
I will make time for him...
I'm looking for a calm, stable, funny, intelligent man. One who is willing to try new things, and can either enjoy our time together by going out dancing the night away or staying in with a movie. Although I prefer men my own age and race, I am willing to expand my tastes a bit.
I hope to hear from you!
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I think this reads as a bit more fun, if you try this re-write out, tell me if it works for ya! | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/7/2009 7:06:23 PM | The only issue is that you are a BBW, not too many want BBW's and then the prefer not to say about kids?
This comes up as red flag, either you have kids or you don't.
The last pic of you was terrible, you are obviously pretty but that pic looks like you just woke up from sleeping in barn.
Get your hair did girl and show yourself off.
Hope this helps. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/7/2009 7:20:37 PM | | The biggest problem that jumped out at me was the fact that the "about me" section needed polishing, mayoroftempe has covered this, see his post. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/7/2009 10:25:49 PM | Thank you Blonderose and mayoroftempe, your two suggestion hopefully improved my chances of what I am looking for. GQSunset, I did delete that photo you mention and change the kids things. I just read a few other women profile, who aren't Mom who do want kids, and it just seem DESPERATE!! I don't want to lump in that catagory.
I am well aware that a) I am a fat chick and B) I have tattoos. So that comment of not being everyone cup of tea, well that is pretty much no duh. I don't care about the one who don't care for me, that is a huge waste of time. My concern is to the ones who are interested in me yet me not being approachable or showing myself off glowingly. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 11:48:56 AM | Why are we criticizing a person when we should be criticizing the profile? Now, if i see someone that isn't my particular 'look' I don't think telling them that helps in the least bit? to the person who says this particular individual is a 'bbw..' thats like me reviewing a profile with a short haired chick and eye color I might not like and saying,
'first things first, change that hair style and get some colored contacts! Because I find you unnattractive!'
That would be kinda rude...
We can only fine tune our profile, not who we are? if a picture isn't good, then i understand criticizing it, but to knock someone for just how they look doesn't help. It seems rather ridiculous actually. I don't understand the negativity on here towards people who are different.
*Andwhatif* is quite honest about herself, I don't see any reason to attack her for not being what YOU would like, its about her finding someone that would like her, for what she is?
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:44:41 PM | Hi AndWhat…a few suggestions…
1) I’m in the "give him a hint not a handful" camp on the tats.
2) Discovering what you have and why is part of the fun.
3) By baring it all, you’re taking out a lot of anticipation.
4) Also, there might be guys who aren't 100% bowled over by tats, but who are attracted to YOU. Once he meets you, he might find the tats (on you) attractive, too. By baring so much skin, you’re eliminating those guys right off the bat.
5) “Although I prefer men my own age and race, I am willing to expand my tastes a bit.”….He thinks if he’s not Hispanic you’ll just date him till someone Hispanic comes along.
6) Maybe leave out the “prefer” and try something like: “I’m Hispanic by heritage, but it’s not necessary that you are.” (you might put something in here if you speak Spanish. If you do, you might want to say that it’s okay if he doesn’t…and if he wants to learn, you’re a good teacher.)
7) Lots of people say “try new things”…such as?? Sexual things, hot air ballooning, para-gliding, what new things?
8) SPECIFICS are better than just saying “new things”
9) Overall pretty good….and don’t forget to put on your suit of armor and do your own FIRST FLIRTING. This is an equal opportunity web site.
Hope that helps. Best to you. DenverSky5280 | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 2:02:51 PM |
4) Also, there might be guys who aren't 100% bowled over by tats, but who are attracted to YOU. Once he meets you, he might find the tats (on you) attractive, too. By baring so much skin, you’re eliminating those guys right off the bat.
- This is the mindset you want to have to maximize your chances. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 2:56:25 PM | I think the last two opinions are completely wrong; its fairly obvious that this woman would like a man who actually finds not only her attractive but her tattoos to be more than just acceptable... so, if baring them makes her more 'obvious' to some, then that actually saves her the time of wasting it with someone who doesn't like her lifestyle/choices etc?
Hiding a major appearance is not a good solution to meeting a 'good' person to date; this thinking it seems is keen on the idea that somehow her tattoos are negative or her appearance is?
so, her profile should be groomed to appeal to people she doesn't even want talking to her? that doesn't make sense... i think its healthy to be who you are, especially when dating. Thus, its good if she shines those aspects UP rather than makes then non-existent? The concept that showing less would somehow garner more attention is ludricious... any guy who would be HIGHLY interested in her would wanna see such things prior to meeting, it gives a sense of community, common interests, etc.
if someone was heavily into gymnastics, would you tell them to not have a leotard on in a pic? it could be a source of attraction to someone who might be into it....of course, if you don't understand why she is tattooed, and have an issue with it...
NO editing of her profile would help her in your eyes or world.... And I sense that most of us don't want to fit into your world to be acceptable to what YOU want, she wants to find what SHE wants... | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:20:30 PM | FWIW…The OP said she wasn’t getting any response. It might be because her tats unfairly stereotype her to many men. Your compare it to gymnastics and leotards, but gymnastics and leotards don’t have the same stereotype that tats do. That said, I wouldn’t recommend any women post a pic in a leotard.
The idea isn’t for anyone not to be who they are, it’s just the opposite…it’s to allow the man who’s looking at her to see the whole picture of her and not just the skin pictures. Hope that clarifies. DenverSky5280
p.s. Mayor...your tats are fantastic...(as I recall, your profile was pretty good, too). ..but same thing...I'd let her get to know you first. A hint, not a handful. HOWEVER....if you're only interested in someone who already loves tats, has tats, and you aren't interested in being open to the woman who isn't "there" yet but who might be in the future, then by all means flaunt what you've got. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:05:00 PM | the WHOLE pic of her would be with tattoos included... that would be an accurate representation. She obviously is proud of herself, her race, and her shape. So, I say flaunt what ya got!
When you have a half-sleeve as she does and seems to have a decent amount of tattooing (not 'tats') or as I was refered to, someone who is covered neck to foot, you can't really 'hint' to someone? Its a part of who you are. And if certain people THINK the stereotypes you are refering to, then why would this particular gal EVER wanna deal with such a person? She is of a particular race as well, and some people are stereotyped to feeling certain ways about that as well, should she not care and date or pursue someone who is ignorant and perpetuates those thoughts too? Makes little sense... She saves time/energy by NOT attracting such people.
I for one think that she has a profile that with just a little bit of shine can make the car purrrr... rather than conceal and hide what SOME might see as negatives, if she embraces the things that make her special... Well then, isn't she MORE acutely making herself attractive to the qualities she likes and is looking for as well?
Obtuse profiles where you are making yourself as bland, vanilla, and open to meeting ANYTHING that crawls outta the pond doesn't seem like a successful plan either. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:48:46 PM | im just being a sensitive A-hole, there really ain't nada wrong with saying 'tats'... just kinda a wierd word to use. I dislike it... but nothing really wrong with it? matter of semantics really.
I think this lady is gonna find a ton of guys if she goes with the pic of her with the glasses off; its a nice picture, flattering!
Hell, I say delete all of your words in the profile and just go with your last paragraph saying what you like.
And go with just that one photo. try it for a week, see the results...
I bet your doin' fine fine fine. | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:18:05 PM | | i don't see what the problem is? you have decent pictures, and your profile gives just enough info about you. i think you might want to register with some other dating sites ,if you are serious because i notice the same thing with my profile and i haven't put a picture yet. some of the me are just surfing and not serious about anything. why would the same person keep looking at your profile, and not send a message? | |
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| Many check my profile yet no Response
Posted: 10/10/2009 11:10:45 PM | Before, I get into this, I want to give a HUGE THANKS to mayoroftempe, your opinions were mine completely!! I couldn't have said better myself.
I have tattoos, and guess what, I had them done because I wanted to. I am not ashamed of them, in fact I LOVED THEM!! I love what they mean and represent to me. I am not going to hide it from anyone, what for? Why do I need to hide who I am? This whole topic of covering up my tat is not going to happen EVER!! I am not going degrade myself by making false advertisement of who and what I am. If I am going to hide them they I wouldn't have gotten them in the first place. Since I did and love them, baby they are going to be part of who I am and will be showen off. Its part of me and I am not embarrassed of myself. Obviously, if a man doesn't like a fat chick with tattoos then I am not his type. Why would I want to waste my and his time? Why is everyone so wrapped on the people we can't have, that is HUGE WASTE OF TIME! I am not looking for Brad Pitt, I am looking for Seth Rogan. | |
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