| What do you make of this?
Posted: 5/26/2009 7:28:23 PM | Hello Pond!!!
I'm in a weird position with a woman I met on POF and could use some input.
We've been dating since Jan 09, we get along great, we never fight and have never had any bad words.
We've enjoyed eachothers company, have some things in common and we're very affectionate with eachother.
She says I'm not th right one for her, she says that when I'm around she has a strong desire for me but when I'm not around she doesn't think like that.
However, when we are apart and talk on the phone she says she misses me, she ends conversations with I Love You, as do I.
She's a beautiful, intelligent, educated woman and thats one point she brought up is my education.
My financial situation isn't great either, I'm a single Dad of 2 kids I have full time.
But I tried to compensate for any shortcomings, such as taking care of her house, getting her kids off the bus when needed and taking care of her(I'd give her full body messages) when her back kept her from work, I actually set her up at home so she could telecommute.
When she did go to work and because I had the time I would clean her place for her also.
If anyone saw us and the way we act with eachother they would say we were in love.
And I am, she has said she was too. But again I'm not what she wants.
I finally said ok do what you think you have to do, I can't be friends with benefits.
I can't get her out of my mind, the last two weeks I've had bad stomache pains and the only relief I could get was to go see her.
And again the way we are together is wonderful, again still not what she wants but she loves me.
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| What do you make of this?
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:58:40 PM | Wow! What can one say when one arrives at a different space then the other. One could say that you now know the essence of what you are looking for and to keep looking. it is hard when you are emotionally attached and from the depth of withing in so many ways....
Maybe set her free and she may come back...I wish you well with much light, joy and most of all love on your journey...JD | |
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| What do you make of this?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:41:02 AM | | wow...that is very confusing...as we are.... looks like she may have comitment issues maybe scared...maybe doesnt know what she wants...maybe confused about her own feelings...good luck hun...im sure whats ment to b will b | |
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| What do you make of this?
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:45:11 AM | | there's all kinds of types of relationships, so define this one for her then define it for you, you may find differences and similarities and then you both get to decide if either of you is willing to adjust your definitions to synchronize them, otherwise neither party will be satisfied, unless dissatisfaction is ok. | |
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