| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:50:03 PM | my girl friend is an escort
and she has been seeing this guy
and she hasnt told him what she does for work
my question is should she tell him or not
and how do males think about escorts
and if it was you would you break upwith a girl if
she was an escort
or would you find it a turn on
or does it come down to how open you are
see me i wouldnt have an issue with my male selling him self
as long it was safe
but is the subject that to taboo
that you should tell your partner that your an escort | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:56:30 PM | Hmm, I'm a big fan of full disclosure, that's why I have underemployed/unemployed on my profile. Your friend should tell the guy she is an escort. Especially since she's an escort. Especially before they get hot and heavy.
Yes I would very quickly break up with a woman if she lied and did not tell me what she truly does for a living.
I'm definitely not interested in escorts. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:57:35 PM | Yes, I think most guys will break it off with you (ehem I mean you friend ??)
For me personally it is not that I judge you (friend) for it, but it's not something I would be willing to even entertain the idea of. I hate to think if I was dating here and she needs some mad money, she hits the corner atm (Her John).
I am sure some guys will find it a turn. I know guys that date girls from the mens club and THINK they b/f and g/f. And don't mind all the stuff she does to the men in the clubs in the back rooms. Pretty sick if youask me. JMO
Good Luck to you (damn, I mean your friend)
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"Raever"
Before you charge him for the night.
Killer LOL
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:00:04 PM | This turned out to be a more difficult question to answer than I thought it would, but ultimately I'd have to say that being an escort would PROBABLY be a deal breaker. It all depends on the person really. If I was having a blast (non-sexually) being with her, I could see how I might overlook it for a while, but I doubt I'd plan long term.
The hiding of being an escort would most certainly be a deal breaker. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:07:20 PM | Before you charge him for the night.
Agree with the others about being up front. There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship and being an escort at the same time after all its great money. There is however something wrong with sleeping with other people while committed, so if your that type of escort he will prob get rid of you unless he gets off on that type of thing. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:22:28 PM | | Nah I think I'd pass on the whole thing. You should be up front about it though. What's a relationship except trust? I have no respect for anyone that is a sexual escort. Forget the morality of the whole thing it's flat out illegal. Would your escort "friend" want to date a drug dealer? How about a pimp? | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 12:28:25 AM | Agreed, you or friend (why arent the friends ever posting?) need to be honest. You chose that life/job, whatever you call it, and have to realize its looked down on by many. If I found out, then likely I'd be out the door before my jaw actually hit the floor.
You can call it whatever you want, hooker, prostitute, escort, but how many nice ways are there of saying who re? | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 12:45:07 AM | You can still be friends with him, but he will probably leave. Best to tell him, because if he finds out on his own, he may try to get you to do some weirdo stuff before breaking it off, just to see how far you will go.
I had a long relationship with a woman who changed jobs every few months after the first year I knew her. It became rather a nuisance. I knew her flaky job history was rooted in some issues with her parents/ex-hubby, etc., but eventually it overwhelmed her.
What I'm saying is don't just state your job like it's some answer on Jeopardy. Explain how you got there...what career choices you TRIED, what worked, what didn't, how you personal life may have influenced your choice. Part two is the hard thing -- you have to explain what EXACTLY it is that you do. Everyone has a different idea and even if you work for an agency, other women do not follow the same set of rules as you do. Spell them out for your guy to know. The worst thing you can do is lie about your job. Part three is a tough one too -- where you do see yourself in a year or five years down the road? Do you want out? How can this be accomplished? Are all your friends in the business? Do they know? You simply have to take your guy all the way into understanding you job paramenters and how it affects your personal life.
Then he can decide if he wants to fit into it or run away. Lies will only lead you to ruin. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:14:22 AM | I'd be too afraid she'd charge me or send me a bill when we break up lol. But all kidding aside I would not date an "escort." It's a very unhealthy job and I would not risk my health being with her (same for drug addicts, alcoholics, etc...) and I would not want to get attached to someone who is risking their life in their job (same goes with soldiers, police officers, etc..). That may sound harsh but I have to watch out for my well being. I understand people can still get sick or killed that don't do any of that but those just increase the chances.
You have to come straight forward with them. I would sugguest discussing it right away b/c that is definitely a deal breaker with most men. Like a previous poster said you have to tell them all that it includes. No lies. You're already technically cheating on your partner so you have to be absolutely honesty about everything. No white lies. Not shying away from the truth. There's just way too much craziness involved this. Jealousy, health concerns, trust issues, emotional detachment...the list goes on an on. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:17:31 AM | So your "GF is an escort" huh? Hrmm.. to me, that sounds a lot like; "My *friend* has this problem..."  But do correct me if I'm wrong.
and if it was you would you break up with a girl if she was an escort ?
I'd dump her like a tub of toxic waste. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:18:01 AM | | Hmmmmm.....even if I was able to overlook the fact that this woman has probable had more weiners than an oscar meyer jumbo pack, I would never be abl eto overlook the fact that she had lied, even if only by omission. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:18:20 AM | Hi,
I think if your friend is going to be sexually or romantically involved with said guy she is seeing he should know... before anything happens sexually, but maybe not on the first date or something.
AK | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:23:52 AM | Eventually, she will have to tell him what she does for a living, but there's no need in the early stages of dating. When they get to the point where they start getting serious, e.g. thinking about moving in together, it might be a good time to broach the subject.
I feel that men should be supportive of women's career choices, so in principle, it wouldn't matter to me what she did, as long as she was happy. In this case, I think it would depend on her ability to achieve a healthy work-life balance, and to leave her work at the office. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:42:21 AM |
Eventually, she will have to tell him what she does for a living, but there's no need in the early stages of dating. When they get to the point where they start getting serious, e.g. thinking about moving in together, it might be a good time to broach the subject.
NO NEED? When? Third date? 3 months, 1 year later? Thats absurd
I feel that men should be supportive of women's career choices
A slight difference between a cashier or real estate agent and PROSTITUTE, wouldnt you say? | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 2:11:22 AM | | She already lied by not telling him before they got into a relationship. Regardless of the five W's... it's doomed from the utter lying. Sad but true. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 2:22:53 AM | I think most men would perfer if their woman was a stripper over an escort. At least strippers are mainly look and no touch. But with an escort you have two types you have the full service who should just be called prostitutes but arent just because they accept visa and mastercard. and you have the companion ones. Both of these cases result in some sort of infidelity, be it emotional or sexual. If your "friend" is good at her job and works for a reputable business she most likely gets return customers and she does get to know them - these men arent strangers.
this should be told at or before first meet - this is not like saying hey I know I wear scrubs to work but Im really a dental hygienist and not a nurse - it is more Oh the thigh high boots .. they are work boots type of thing .. BIG HUGE DIFFERENCE
(and PS - if you cant tell no one is buying it that it is your friend this profile is toast for you now btw since this post will remain on there.. you have pretty much just given all viewers the assumption your an escort) | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 3:11:55 AM | That is very clever. There is no such thing as bad publicity. I pretty much knew the answer from the beginning, but I clicked on your profile to confirm. Please let us know if this works. I'm looking to supliment my bills by renting rooms because I'm carrying a huge mortgage. If your getting business, i'll try advertising here too.
Good luck. | |
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| when should you tell a male your an escort
Posted: 5/27/2009 3:59:22 AM | As long as she does not bring her work home with her and he gets a discounted rate whats the problem.
There cannot be any long term future in this any man with an ounce of self respect would not go along with this. Whats going to happen when she;s out for the night the guy will probably be climbing the walls wondering what she's upto then when he see's her big arguments etc if she's that comfortable doing she should have said from the start then no secrets or mis understandings. | |
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