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Posted: 5/27/2009 12:39:30 AM | Are there any men over 40 that are really seriously seeking a long lasting relationship?
The ones I have met seem to have been hurt and not over it or just one here for something else. Maybe I am crazy but I still believe there is someone out there that wants the same things I do in life and wants to share it with me. So my question is are you that guy? | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 5:36:22 AM | Hi OP,
No you are not crazy,there are many men out there looking for the same as you,me for one.
Maybe you have just been unlucky and maybe you should try and search them out and not just wait for one to contact you.You have to give it some time and put a little effort in yourself and hopefully you will meet your match.very best wishes,
TI | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 7:03:55 AM | Yes there are gentlemen, out there looking for long term relationships, "but", as you said a lot are still hurting from past relationships, and it does take time, to heal!
There are still more "guys" out there that are hurting but they are out to find Miss Right Now, to fill a void in their lives, that is missing presently.
Relationships are not built in one day, they take an effort from both sides, the experiences from the past may intrude from time to time, but if the journey is worthwhile, the outcome will be worth the efforts of both, patience, and time can only tell.
Yes, I believe as you, there is someone out there for all of us, the search maybe long and tedious , but I am becoming more and more optimistic of that searches results.
Good Luck, don't give up, sometimes even the things we seek maybe right under our noses! | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 7:15:04 AM | | Yes there are. Just take your time have a good browse and chance a few hellos from time to time. You may be pleasantly surprised sooner or later. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 7:28:35 AM | | What's stopped you from being the woman that men are looking for? | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 8:56:15 AM | ^^^ That is an extremely good question.. It takes much inner reflection to find the answer though because what stops one from getting something is in the sub-conscious.. but when you realize what it is that has been stopping you OP.. you and your future mate will come together like it was the easiest, comfy thing that's ever happened.
I hope you have an easy journey through your mind. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 9:53:48 AM | I think there are a lot of middle-aged guys looking for a long-term relationship, but I wonder whether we're all looking for the same type of long-term relationship we had in the past.
Most guys in our age group on here have got at least one divorce and two kids under their belt. Most likely the kids are adults, the divorce forced them to take a new perspective on life, and they've been alone for some while and know how to make their beds and iron their own shirts.
Let's face it, the men you're most likely to be attracted to are probably fairly happy with their lives the way they are now. Maybe a new type of relationship is in order. Committed, exclusive, supportative, growing, sharing...
...maybe just not married and sharing digs. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 10:10:21 AM | HOPING, yes. SEEKING, no (as it doesn't seem to be going that way, and not from my lack of trying).
And, yeah, not in the context of living together (too much nit-picking). | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 1:48:02 PM | Yep, we're out there.
We're just not actively seeking like we did when we were 20 (coz it's more than sex!) | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 2:08:47 PM | Yeah, you're crazy. I could tell you something else, but then I'd be blowin' smoke up your as*. Men over forty that are available have probably had their heart broke or they wouln't be here....yeah yeah...they could have broke a heart but that will eventually lead to them realizing they hurt themselves or worse...I'd say... take the broken heart and help mend it or go for the "other" guys who just want to "f**", not a lot of options, but this is an online dating site, so what did you expect? Nice gentlemen who ride white horses with no baggage to sweep you off your tired feet? If that's what you want take a couple sleeping pills and dream about it.....or I could just be killling time writing whatever comes to my head? you decide......PS. I'm here cause I dont have a broken heart, but I'm just getting ready for when/if it happens...I dont won't to be left un-prepared....but by doing this I might speed up the inevitable....then I could be the guy who's just here to "f***" But for now, I'm just the man in love who wishes his beautiful wife would love him back...
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Posted: 5/27/2009 5:40:26 PM | | DUGEE1, Man you are totally right,I couldnt say that any better than u did I might not be over 40 but u took the words right out of my mouth and same thing with my wife! | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 6:22:20 PM | There are probably too many people of both sexes that are not prepared to put thmselves out there and open up.
There are a lot of women that wont even search or mail guys they think they might like and visa versa.
there are a a lot of people that start up conversations with people and let them fizzle out because they have some hidden code of behaviour they expect and dont spell it out, or are flaky and unwilling to genuinely try.
there are people that are learning the ropes and yet at the same time think it is about trying t o identify 10/10's based on a profile and a few mails. If they find a 6/10 they too easily get distracted when a 7/10 comes along and they burn their bridges.
There are a lot of thick, inept people out there and most of them dont know it
There are people that apply silly or broad dating rules to people instead of treating people as individuals and applying dating advice appropriately.
etc etc
OP you dont have a picture - yuou are not even playing the game by the rules ,,,,,, everyone on here could come up with at least one valid reason not to post picture - you really are not a special case ... | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 11:52:39 PM | I'm not your target audience, but I may have some insight, seeing as to how my past few ex's and preferred age-group of women are all in their 30's. I've noticed that the same life-experience that makes women attractive to me, and causes their maturity and ration to expand greatly, also leaves them scars and lots of baggage. An old saying goes kinda like this: "It takes alot of heat and pressure to make a diamond."
I don't know if many people 40 years old are going to be the "Keeper" you seek, without having the scars of being tossed back a few times. The best thing to do is self-help research and councilling... as far as I guess. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 10:19:26 PM | | I'm over 40 and seriously seeking a long lasting (forever) relationship. Yes my heart was (is) broken. I've given it some time, and I'm trying. I want to love again and be loved. Will I ever be 100% over her? I want to be. I'm trying. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 7:34:01 PM | Dear caring and sweet:
Absolutely! But the problem is that the women that I, a 58 year old are attracted to, usually are very ****y or insecure for a long lasting relationship. As a matter of fact I just deleted a reply to my email to a lady I thought was interesting she wrote"NO!"-that's it! Sad huh? | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 8:04:09 PM | | There are plenty of guys over 40 who are interested in long-term, but you will find a lot of guys are cautious, and understandably so. The other thing is, they may not be broadcasting the fact that they are available. Keep your ears open and sooner or later you will find a guy who's interested in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 11:02:39 PM | | Im not quite to 40 yet, but Im getting closer, and from my own perspective I would say yes there are. The people that I know that are near my age group all seem to be family and/or long term relationship oriented. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 11:53:05 PM | Nope...... Been there done that. I married forever and will never marry again especially after what I've been through lol.
Not looking for any "Long Term" Relationships ever....
I will die a tragic lonely life filled with hot strippers, and empty tequila bottles in my country of choosing, I'm thinking Mexico or possibly Thailand!
(Right now you guys are either laughing or sobbing lol)
Hahahha nah....it's all good If I meet someone nice and they're special to me I'll take the dive again but she'd have to be pretty special.
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Posted: 6/1/2009 12:19:08 AM | I am not a man, but I am sufforing from the pains of being married for 15 years to a man who said he loved me,only to have him walk out on me this year. All threw the marrage,and even when he left he kept SWEARING he had never cheated on me.
Now I find out that only God knows how long he has been cheating because he is now living with his other woman,and they have 2 children together,and he only moved out in March of 2009, so this cheating had been going on a very ,very long time.
My mistake was in loving and trusting him,and what that has gotten me is HURT, really hurt.
I wish I could answer for men,but honistly I am just as convused by them as you are.
Peggy | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 8:00:30 AM | I'am a guy that's 52 haveing a really hard time finding anyone interested in me because of my age. married 24 yrs., to a woman that contancely cheated on me. three kids later in 1998 she walked away and never came back. GOOD RIDERANCE!! since all this i've tryed to get to know some people, but it's like they are only interested until something else comes along.  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 2:02:25 PM |   I guess u would call me that ,Iam looking for the same thing .... So what do u think about that. Are you ready ??????????????   | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 2:30:59 PM | To answer your question...YES
There are plenty of men around that want the same thing you do in life. I can only assume you mean love, and life long relationship.
But I have to ask....How serious are you? Your few words on your profile will not attract any man including those looking for just a fling.
How in the world does anyone think they are going to get responses to their profile or even mail they send out if they do not post a picture.
So if you are serious about finding that guy, post a picture.
Simply stated, the most pro-active thing you can do here in the pond is let men see what you look like..
As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words.
I for one will not write to any women that does not post a clear face shot photo.
We wanna see who wants to share a life with us. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 9:23:22 PM | | Given that you described what you want to share in life in such detail, I would have to answer a definite - maybe. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 10:33:15 PM | | just look at the people posting replies??? it aint gonna happen...wise up chuck!!!!!!!!! | |
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