| | Inappropriate to check X's email?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | My X uses the same password for all her email addresses. We broke-up about 1 month ago and I find myself snooping. What do you all think? I'm so curious but it still actively involves my attention. Am I screwed?? | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:19:51 PM | I hate to break it to you, but that is just wrong on so many levels and totally unhealthy.
Do yourselves both a favor and suggest to her that she change her password.
Besides, how would you feel if she was reading your private mail and / or text messages? | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:21:36 PM | | I was with my partner for 17 yrs and set up his email for him, including the password he chose, because he couldn't figure it out (technically retarded). When I left on a lengthy trip he was having some real issues with depression (not because I left) and I checked his email to see if he was okay - we didn't have trust issues with other women/men, etc. But I believe I had his permission to do so back then because as a couple the 'I have nothing to hide' rule was still in effect LOL . Once we split, there was no longer a reason to check on his well-being. I wish him the best and hope like hell he does find someone, if he does, it's sure not my place to be a part of that without his knowledge. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:29:08 PM | Yeah, I don't know what I'm looking for in her emails. I guess I'm curious if she is pining over me of looking for either guys. Either way, I'm not sure what I would do with that information. Breaking up is just so damn tough sometimes. But I think you guys make a good point... it's just wrong and so I should not just do it. I'll stop today. Thanks for putting me in my place. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:50:10 PM | | I've got an idea.....let us all have your email and your password, and let's see what you think about it????? | |
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Sersi
| | Joined: 5/9/2009
Msg: 9 | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:04:07 PM |
Yeah, I don't know what I'm looking for in her emails. I guess I'm curious if she is pining over me of looking for either guys. Either way, I'm not sure what I would do with that information. Breaking up is just so damn tough sometimes. But I think you guys make a good point... it's just wrong and so I should not just do it. I'll stop today. Thanks for putting me in my place.
Good idea. Besides, OP... I know breaking up sucks and it's hard to deal with.... but "stalking" them and checking their emails and stuff just shows weakness and right now you need to quit worrying about her and start worrying about yourself and letting her go. You have a rough road ahead but you'll make it.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 8:04:20 PM | WOW, thats low.
With my ex, I knew her passwords because she got frustrated using the PC at times and would walk away frustrated until I solved her minor problems. I kept it updated all the time whenever I got the chance and never snooped, didnt matter if she was there, sleeping or at work, thats just wrong. The only time I would read any was if she told me to come look. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:04:30 PM | | dude....of course. what do you stand to gain except for some more raw feelings? yeah man, just let her go. you'll be better for it. | |
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bedlog
| | Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 16 | |
| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 10:02:23 PM | | Yeah it is inappropriate to check your ex's e mail. It's wrong and it's mis-trustful. You aren't screwed per se, but if she finds out, and you want to get back with her, you will already burned one bridge. I say move on, resist that temptation. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 10:25:56 PM | She's your ex. Why do you care? Let her go. Totally. What could you possibly hope to learn by doing that?
Move on. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 10:33:00 PM | OP this is part of knowing right from wrong. Just because you CAN run over someone with your car doesn't mean you will do it right?
Just because you CAN tell your boss to go screw himself doesn't mean you would do it right?
Just because you CAN....Doesn't mean you should.
Would I...maybe once yea but it depends on why we broke it off....its human but to continue snooping doesn't make sense and only demeans the trust you have in yourself. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2009 11:06:56 PM | | it was unethical,but i had a 7 year relationship ,i wished i had looked into his messages when we were starting to have problems,then i would know right there and then the problem ,he is seeing someone else. if i only knew then i would just walk away, and never will allow him to hurt me emotionally everytime he misses an appointment with me.this i promise myself,trust your instincts ,the reason you are driven to do so is because your instincts says so.then you will know somehow why you broke up.you have to apologize after.but then the question in your heart will have answers,is it someone else or just never meant to be.some women are like men ,they are not strong enough to tell the reason to avoid hurting the person ,then pretend that it just faded away.take the chance but remember to apologize | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 11:26:42 PM | That's so wrong on so many levels.
How would you feel if she delved into your email account AFTER you've split up. Talk about invasion of privacy.
Not only that.. you're not healing from this breakup so not are you behaving extremely badly, you are not moving forward.
This could be classified as stalking.
It gives me the creeps actually. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/27/2009 11:35:47 PM | Note to self: Do not accept emails or correspondence from the OP.
As if you even need to ask if this is wrong? WTF? | |
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Jim978
| | Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 22 | |
| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:13:37 AM |
But I think you guys make a good point... it's just wrong and so I should not just do it. I'll stop today.
Not only is it wrong, it's illegal. | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:34:08 AM | | I did, until she changed her passwords. But I sign onto her old nex account, and read blog entries from her ex/current girlfriend(s).. It's not right.. then again, my mother still logs onto her exes email, so maybe I'm getting it from there. I just want to know what she's up to because we're still friends, and I am still in love (as she claims to be..) but she doesn't tell me the truth. Ever. Heh | |
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| Inappropriate to check X's email?
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:37:35 AM | | You say you will stop but for some reason I don't believe you.Breaking up is so hard to do so I hope that you really do find a way to let go, all you are doing is prolonging the agony.You need to find something to keep yourself busy especially at night where I presume you are at your lonliest.Chin up bud you are wrong but make it right by asking her to change her passwords.Peace and blessings to you. | |
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