| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:16:02 AM | What does "sexy" mean to you? Do older men sometimes feel that if an older woman is still sexy minded, that means he may not be able to keep up with her? To me, sexy means an attitude, an air of self confidence, the ability to enjoy making love no matter what your limitations may be.
I have often felt that older men are slow to respond because they think they are not still sexy and desirable. To me, that denotes a lack of self confidence. If an older woman appears to be sexy, why is it that mostly young men are attracted to her? | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:20:53 AM |
I have often felt that older men are slow to respond because they think they are not still sexy and desirable. To me, that denotes a lack of self confidence.
The fact that older men apparently feel sexy enough to date younger women blows that theory out the water. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:32:20 AM | Good questions you pose.. I know some older men have told me that I would need 10 of them to keep up with me.. One even told me he would have to follow me in his car on one of my walks. So obviously in some way they felt intimidated or lacked some self confidence as you stated.
I found that younger men are usually just attracted to women that keep themselves in good shape. Age is not so much of a factor for them.
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:36:36 AM | Not really. It could be that they need the younger women to make them feel still sexy and alive. They think they have something to teach younger women, while older women already know it all and sometimes more than them. Thus the intimidation factor. This is not meant to bash older men in any way. Just something I was wondering about. Nothing wrong with them liking younger women. Nor women liking younger men. (This is in response to abelian.)
Actually, I've dated much younger men for many years. It works for me, but I have felt that older men are slow to approach me, in real life, because they just assume that I'm only interested in younger for obvious reasons. Which is not true. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:37:07 AM | Hi ab,
Does not really blow any theory out of the water. Not all older men are intimidated and some even seek out much younger women. However when we are talking vast age differences I cannot for the life of me see what kind of mental connection they might share.
Likewise an older woman with a much younger man can and do experience they same disconnect.
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:08:48 AM | | For me it's less important now than when young to opportunistically get laid, so I am not going to be the eager-for-beaver suitor that revives an older woman's self image as desirable. The younger the man, the more you can "still have it", meaning what you had when you were young, which is mostly, that young men were going crazy to get you naked. What has become more important is what else there is, besides vaginal access. Sex is fun but without the compulsion of youth it gets harder to ignore the overall quality of the relationship, however brief it might be. Things that were overlooked before become more important, like personality, and reciprocation, and not having it all be about stroking the woman's ego. Hormones, like beer, account for a certain part of attraction. I'd like to be able to say that you're intimidatingly sexy, but in fact, not really, as nobody is. If it's not enough to be appreciated and the feeling isn't mutual, the younger man is your best bet. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:36:52 AM | Well there could be so many reasons for this
Of course I am not a man but I would not label insecurity as the first option.
I have found older men to be much more secure which is why I would rather date someone my own age. However there are older men and women who are on the cusp of accepting the inevitable fact that they are growing older and these people tend to go for younger people because they think this will help them retain their youth a little bit longer. If a guy is afraid to approach a good looking girl he may not be insecure he may just be in a moment where he is not seriously looking. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:38:25 AM |
I have often felt that older men are slow to respond because they think they are not still sexy and desirable.
This is a preposterous postulation.
Last night I went to a local meet/meat market. A singles group was meeting there. As it turned out most of the women in the group were high mileage and in their fifites. After I had spent a couple hours ducking one after another of these women the younger crowd started to show up. It did not take long until I met a beautiful, slim and stacked woman about 40 years of age. We plan on getting together tomorrow.
Based on my observations and experience older men are not interested in older women simply because they do not feel attracted to them. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:57:42 AM | Keep in mind that I said "sometimes". I did not say all older men all of the time.
I understand the attraction to younger women. I also know that there are some older women who are mostly attracted to younger men. And vice-versa.
When you say it's because they don't find older women attractive, you are only speaking for yourself. You may not find an older woman who is attractive to you at a "meat market", but that doesn't mean they're not out there. I see attractive men of all ages. Some even look better with age.  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:00:28 AM | I found that younger men are usually just attracted to women that keep themselves in good shape. Age is not so much of a factor for them
What man, really, is not drawn to a woman who keeps herself in good shape? Lol. You certainly seem to be, you look pretty damn hot to me, despite your kinky photo-mates, lol, and I'm a standard western man. Not at all intimidated, lol, and just "driving" through your profile, it never occurred to me that I might need power tools or like assists to keep pace.
Rule No. 1: The more you do today, the more you will be able to do tomorrow. imho
OP, you're 68, and my best guess is that by that age, men have become well aware of their natural loss of strength (Bill Cosby, on being 50-Where'd the pecs go?!! Lol), maybe vitality, because a big chunk of inner strength comes from musculature, imo, but the "intimidation" you may sense has to do with his approach to everything, even a flight of stairs, and not that much to do with you. Not denigrating you, and I am guessing, after all, but I think I'm mostly right. I met a guy in his mid-80's at the gym not long ago, who I had not seen in over a year. I remembered him as a typically semi-frail, "intimidated", typical 80-something. He used that year for a weight-training program, and is now in remarkable shape, exuding confidence, even a little aggressive (older folks can be more impatient than 20-somethings).
This is a preposterous postulation.
Uhhhh, not really.
Based on my observations and experience older men are not interested in older women simply because they do not feel attracted to them.
Catsmeow is 56. Take a quick peek. She looks a whole lot more attractive than hordes of 40-year olds. But, as she says, she keeps herself in shape. It's myopic, in my unsolicited opinion (lol), to assume that you're 40-year old babe will remain so with time. Women like Catsmeow, who have a self-evident self-discipline, and certain genetic advantages, are far more likely to keep pace with my 80-year old acquaintance than the pretty picture who caught your eye. Please, not trying to reprimand anyone for anything here. Just offering some different observations from probably similar experiences. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:02:17 AM |
It did not take long until I met a beautiful, slim and stacked woman about 40 years of age. We plan on getting together tomorrow. {msg. 8}
[laffin] ... Yupp, nothing like slim and stacked. 'Tis a nice ride until you max out your credit cards. It's always best, though, to take your 'slim and stacked' to places that you're most likely to run into some of your buddies.
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:36:20 AM |
It did not take long until I met a beautiful, slim and stacked woman about 40 years of age. We plan on getting together tomorrow. {msg. 8}
[laffin] ... Yupp, nothing like slim and stacked. 'Tis a nice ride until you max out your credit cards. It's always best, though, to take your 'slim and stacked' to places that you're most likely to run into some of your buddies.
Touche, Don. I wondered who would be the first to comment.
Anyhow, I sometimes think it could be said in general terms that both men and women can be intimated by those of the opposite sex that they perceive to be older and sexy. I know that when I see a man of my generation whom I feel is extremely sexy, I feel intimated . I can't seem to put my finger on the "why" part but I know I do feel that way. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:42:26 PM | No, I don’t feel intimidated, but it was a good question. I also think it’s entirely possible for women over 45 to look more seductive than a 30 year old. Sexiness depends more on attitude, clothes, and a healthy lifestyle than on age.
A related observation:
I didn’t find a single +45 guy listed in the POF “500 Hottest People”. There were, however, a respectable number of +45 women. To compete for a position on the list you need to allow other people to rate your picture. My guess is that few older men enable this rating feature. How should we interpret this?
And any guy that wants to get a quick reality check should enable the photo rating feature on their profile. Those younger women are merciless!  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:11:17 PM | I never found that older men intimidated by me. I never found younger men intimidated by me. I used to have a wide range of contacts on here and did have my summer attired pictures posted. I would get compliments from all ages. The only thing I found intimidated men is education. Not degrees, but what you actually know about versus what they do. I am constantly learning. If I don't know an answer to a question, I have to find the answer. I did scientific studies at one time and I guess the need to find the answers has never left me.
I am not intimidated by any men either. I am disgusted by some people's morals and lifestyles, but not intimidated. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 4:53:17 PM | Actually it is a turn on to me, especially when she knows it. If she also has developed a sense of class to go with it, all the better.
I agree that sexy means attitude, to an extent. Self-confidence comes from knowing yourself sexually. That can only come from a certain level of experience, whether with many partners over a lifetime or having one partner that there was experimentation and growth. I've met older women who "thought" they were sexy, and on the surface they knew how to carry themselves in the way our culture has defined "sexy," but that was as deep as it went. I knew a woman once that outwardly wasn't what we as a culture define as beautiful, but she had such a sexual magnetism about her that seemed to come from an inner knowing about herself, a playful and joyful aspect that radiated comfort and acceptance. I really was attracted to her(just wish I wasn't getting ready to move out of the area and could have explored the potential further).
Anyway, there's something to what you say, but I believe it goes deeper than mere appearances or an attitude of mind. I believe much of the self-confidence you speak of comes from self-acceptance self-knowledge. As for myself, I only respond to women my age who still feel sexy and desirable. I guess it only proves the old adage, "Like attracts like."  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 5:15:02 PM |
And any guy that wants to get a quick reality check should enable the photo rating feature on their profile.
No way!! This old ego has been beaten enough!
How about...older intimidated by sexy women, older or otherwise!
Heck, you could even eliminate the word "sexy"! | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:29:22 PM | Yes I do think middle aged and older men are often put off by sexiness in women.
They seem like stuffed shirts to me. It's like they are used to being married to a frumpy dumpy little housefrau and are scared to death of a young thinking sexy open minded middle aged woman. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:22:57 PM | Oh my -Whenwillthiswork - I'm very sorry you have experienced that. That's truly sad and a huge loss for you. Fortunately, that has not been my experience at all. I grew up kind of a tomboy with an older brother and ever since I can remember (from about 3 years old), my closest friends were very often slightly older boys. I am comfortable with men and they are almost always comfortable with me. We might not "click" or have the right chemistry for one another, but rarely ever have I detected they were uncomfortable. I have a tendency to be very friendly and outgoing and I love to laugh and hear others laugh. I tend to date men slightly older than me but have dated some considerably younger. To me age is just a number - what matters is the health, vitality and attitude. I have rarely found men at any age intimidated by me - although some are a little on edge because I enjoy riding motorcycles - passenger only. I think they have a preconceived notion about it that is totally and completely unfounded. I enjoy rides through the countryside and a touring bike is a great way to enjoy it. The guys I have dated with bikes are professional men and not jerks or gangs - I guess they were the Wild Hogs (movie - John Travolta) types, except they actually know HOW to ride the bikes safely, an absolute requirement - haha!
And a few one-time dates (older men) were simply too narrow minded and seemed to cop an attitude that I was beneath them if I did not subscribe 100% to their political or philosophical beliefs. I was SOOOOOO out of there - didn't even stay for dinner with one of the old geazers - just excused myself and left before we even ordered!! At 55, I am younger thinking and acting than many people my age, male AND female - I try to stay focused on right now and tomorrow- not fixated on grand kids (probably because I have no children at all) or past relationships or glory days of the past or knitting sweaters at home. I'm not a sex kitten - I definitely don't give out free samples, but I'm very affectionate, sexy and playful within a committed relationship. I'm versatile in my interests, enjoy going and doing most anything, always funloving and outgoing. I'm totally comfortable with who I am and I genuinely enjoy the pleasure of an interesting man's company. And I do NOT date ANYONE that I consider boring, a stuffed shirt or put off by my sexiness - at least not more than once when I figured that one out! I love for my man to be a MAN - not intimidated by me, but a confident, masculine personality that appreciates my femininity and that we enjoy one another's strengths and complement the other's weaknesses. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:39:48 PM | There are exceptions, I'm sure, but I doubt older men are in general intimidated by older sexy women.
I have often felt that older men are slow to respond because they think they are not still sexy and desirable.
I think it's more likely that a specific older man would be slow to respond to a specific older woman because he doesn't find that particular woman sexy and desirable, rather than he himself thinking he is not sexy and desirable. Even if the woman thinks he should find her so, he just might not. Other men might. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/30/2009 7:50:53 PM | | Younger men are attracted to 'sexy older' women because the chicks their own age are insecure...the men 40 and older are intimadated by sexy older women because most of them don't know what their doing in terms of 'sex'.........they have been in a rut and are slow to learn a new woman's desires... | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 5/31/2009 6:22:17 AM |
Younger men are attracted to 'sexy older' women because the chicks their own age are insecure...the men 40 and older are intimadated by sexy older women because most of them don't know what their doing in terms of 'sex'.........they have been in a rut and are slow to learn a new woman's desires...
K, thanks, now we know how owls approach it. | |
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