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Posted: 5/30/2009 4:52:25 PM | I love my wife, yet one of the greatest turn-ons for me is cheating on her. In the fantasy of my head this works out fine but I doubt such acceptance would be replicated in real life. It's kind of like the ultimate forbidden passion for a betrothed soul. Even a brief flirtation with the prospect by my very membership to this site brings a swathe of naughty excitement.
As much as I love my wife I find the allure of a forbidden liasion almost unbearable, is this the same for all married men ? The last thing in the world I want to do is hurt my wife but the passion is undeniably there. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 5:10:38 PM | | The grass is always greener on the other side. A friend of mine just got married and even before they had the wedding he was always talking about cheating on her all the time, I just tried to stay out of the whole situation told him do what you feel like. On the other hand that was about 2 years ago since they had a kid and now they are separated there marrage lasted about 6 months. So if your gonna do it don't get caught. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 5:11:49 PM | It sounds as though you're not happy in your relationship with your wife ??
Have you spoken to her about it ?
What's her reaction?
Has she told you to move out yet ? Cos I would, as per above post... your stuff would be thrown out the door also! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 6:03:18 PM | In your fantasy are you f*cking or making love to the other female? If you are making love then you have issues. If you are just f*cking her cause she's hot then it's all good!  | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 6:20:14 PM | | I've been married for nine years and the last thing in the world I would want to do was to cause any kind of pain to my better half. I'm talking in terms of sexual fantasies, the allure of the forbidden and all that. The fantasy of cheating has the benefit of not affecting those that would be most affected and dismayed, hence the reason I stick to the fantasy and not the reality. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 6:24:22 PM | | That's a pretty typical response from one that hasn't really understood the post, I'm talking about the paradox of someone who has an ideal relationship with the only person they'd ever consider spending the rest of their life with but still fantasizes about cheating on them due to the very extremity of the action, and I repeat...FANTASIZES. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 6:29:28 PM | | The fantasy could be fulfilled through role-playing. Is your relationship open enough to broach the possibility? Meeting a stranger (your wife) in a bar, picking her up, taking her the No Tell Motel and having at it? | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 6:57:40 PM | Son - you shouldn't be married.
I hope you now do the right thing and get unmarried so she can find a real husband and admirable father for her children. You are NOT it.
You're wrong also, you do NOT love your wife. Please seek professional help. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 7:41:53 PM | You've been on this site for almost a year and your profile says you are separated. Obviously, there is a problem with your marriage if you are no longer together. Does she know of your desires to f*ck other women? The reason I say f*ck is because on your profile you say you are looking for NSA sex.
You said in an above post that having sex with other women is a fantasy of yours, yet in your profile you make it clear that that is what you are looking for. If you truly love your wife and want this marriage to work, get some marriage counseling immediately. There are ways to spice up your sex life with your wife, if you both are willing.
No, not all married men feel the way you do. Nor do most women. Those of us who have been cheated on by our spouses will tell you it is NOT something you forget. The trust is, almost always, irreparably destroyed, and in most cases, so is the marriage. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 7:48:03 PM | | Yes I agree that there are roleplay situations that you can include in your relationship but if your wife is not receptive to that - even discussing it could throw a wrench in your relationship. Your fantasy is treading on thin ice! Beware especially if you love her unconditionally! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 8:17:11 PM | I know what he's saying.
It's a turn on to know that you're doing a woman other then the person you said "I do" to at the altar.
It's forbidden and some people find doing stuff that is forbidden to be hot.
You just have to decide if it's worth it. Your call, not ours. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 8:58:00 PM | ^^^^^^^
Well said.
Unfortunately married men/women want it all. They don't want to leave their marriage, claim to love their spouse but want some action as well because mostly they aren't getting any at home.
I have been approached by married men and while it's been tempting for me (no relationship hassles) I just know I would hate it and myself for it. | |
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Jim978
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:02:34 PM |
I've been married for nine years and the last thing in the world I would want to do was to cause any kind of pain to my better half.
How do you figure your wife is going to view it when she finds your account on here? You don't think that's going to cause her any pain? Are you intentionally ignoring that or has the thought just not popped into your head?
I'm talking in terms of sexual fantasies, the allure of the forbidden and all that. The fantasy of cheating has the benefit of not affecting those that would be most affected and dismayed, hence the reason I stick to the fantasy and not the reality.
Uh huh. Again, is that what your wife is going to think when she discovers all of this? You think she's going to buy that story? | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:11:37 PM | | I disagree with some others here. I believe it is possible to truely love your spouse and desire someone new/unfarmilliar sexually. Sex with the same person can get boring after many years. I suggest speaking with your wife and seeing if she might want to liven things up. maybe she feels as you do... let her know that you would never actually cheat on her behind her back or anything | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:15:20 PM | | I was married for 14 years. During that time I had recieved oral sex maybe 6 times. She detested it, and I loved it. 3 or 4 times a year I would go out and pay for a blow job. I often told her that if i didn't get it at home I would get it else where and she never believed me. We have been divorced for almost a year now. We are still friends and have actually discussed this topic. She can't believe i did it, but understands that she was not fulfilling my needs. And it was just oral. There was no intercourse ever involved. I am not trying to justify what I did, nor am I blaming her for my actions, but it was a need i had to have fulfilled. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:25:32 PM | | I could see being intrigued by something that was forbidden by an external authority, but this is your own rule you would be breaking, so, it must be about transgressing yourself. As usual I will just assume it is one of the many ways men who do not own motorcycles seek to fill that void. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:33:53 PM | Loving someone and being loved in return can actually increase ones attractiveness to other people.
And...sad to say, the flirting...the effort to make each other feel that emotion is not always there. Men like to generate a feeling of being attractive to women...granted, most of them try in really strange ways...but hey, they try.
I believe that any married man who says he doesn't fantasize about other women is lying, but I'll probably have 10 guys yell at me about that statement. The point is, coming across as a strong, powerful male typically includes a reasonable desire to exercise those attractiveness.
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:40:59 PM | You are not in love with her.
You are a self-absorbed brat who is flexing his boundaries.
Somewhat like a brat at school who plays hookey. It's the attraction to doing something behind someone's back and getting away with it.
She will find out and then you will be posting another thread about how you lost the most wonderful woman in the world because of your selfish desires. "How can I get her baaaack!!!!" he wails....
Your actions, your consequences....
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:47:24 PM | I think you are emotionally effed up. Interesting, though, to hear from a dude who claims love, yet desires the forbidden fruit of cheating. Shall you give me insight to my ex? A very loving, generous and kind man who was promiscuous. He is bipolar and I suspect BPD as well. Are you the same?
I'm talking in terms of sexual fantasies
Ah, fantasies. That is something different as long as they remain fantasies. I've had fantasies that would not only be judged as cheating but abhorent as well. Enjoy your mind and live a good life. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:48:28 PM | And if your wife was thinking this way OP.......you would be out buying a gun to kill the both of them for treating you this way.......
Shakes head and leaves........this attitude is one reason that I am more than happy to be single and not dealing with this kind of shit.....
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Posted: 5/30/2009 9:49:22 PM |
I believe that any married man who says he doesn't fantasize about other women is lying, but I'll probably have 10 guys yell at me about that statement.
I doubt many guys would disagree with that at all. But most guys are smart enough to keep their mouth shut about it and they don't go creating profiles on dating WWW sites detailing their search for sex with someone other then their spouse - the fantasy stays completely in their head. | |
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