| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:30:56 PM | I'm new to POF and I'm sure this has been asked a million times, but are the success stories for real? Does anyone have any real FIRST HAND knowledge of success stories, or are they just cyber legends?
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/30/2009 9:03:31 PM | I cannot say for absolute certain but my guess is that there are probably a fair number of "success stories" from this site (depending of course on how you define the term.)
Speaking personally, I have met and dated a number of nice women since joining about a year ago. I have enjoyed their company and had a lot of enjoyable dates. Of course, like everybody else, I've had my share of disappointments and "read / deleted" experiences. If you don't have a tough hide when you join, you get one pretty quickly.
Obviously I'm still here - and still fishing - so I haven't as yet found the love of my life... but I certainly believe it's possible that I will.
And in the meantime I've made a lot of wonderful new friends. I don't know about others but to me this is success. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/30/2009 9:12:56 PM | | With 10 million + users over how many years of running the success stories shouldn't be a surprise. That said, there are 195 pages of stories with 5 stories per page so that's just under 1,000 success stories (2,000 members). That's a .02% success rate... (Of course, we'll never know how many people deleted their accounts and never came back and posted their stories either.) | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/30/2009 9:22:27 PM | No! They are all fake and posted to keep you from leaving. It's all about that mighty buck! If they couldn't convince you that it works you would pay SO MUCH to be here.
They are no different the "Penthouse forums" only with out everyone starting off with "I never thought I would have have a reason to write you but"......
All of them are made up! | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 12:51:11 AM |
I'm new to POF and I'm sure this has been asked a million times, but are the success stories for real? Does anyone have any real FIRST HAND knowledge of success stories, or are they just cyber legends?
it's all BS.
the only cyber legend here is the Rock Man . | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 3:00:25 AM | | I previously was in an LTR with a man I met from POF and it lasted nearly a year so yes the site works. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:04:39 AM | | I know two couples who have gotten married after meeting here and today I'm going to my friends baby shower where she met her SO and the babies father from here. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:08:17 AM | Does sleeping with lots of people and having lots of wonderful erotic encounters count
or is it just weddings?
It makes you wonder how "success" is defined or proven. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 8:30:28 AM | I've had several good experiences with women from 'here'. We didn't get married, but no regrets.
Oh yeah, I'm available again, LOL!
Maybe the next one will be the last one, eh? | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 10:50:59 AM | | I think the success stories are the exceptions. I think the vast majority first dates don't lead to LTRs. Some people don't even get dates from POF. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 1:22:07 PM | Are they true? Likely, but how many last, how many dont post that they found the one and got married?
Personally I wouldnt leave a post, I think its cheesy lol.
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 2:08:15 PM | | im not sure about all of the others but i met my husband in here, we got married feb 2009 n we r expecting our 1st child at the end of sept | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 3:29:44 PM | I been on this site since December of 2007. I have met plenty of women, had dates, blown opportunities. Opportunities for relationships by being indecisive about what I wanted.
Juggling women. I still haven't figured out how to handle the multiple dating thing. I'm not really comfortable with that. I end up chasing my OWN tail, instead of just chasing tail.
Sure people connect on this site. Many end up back here. This site always beckons. Relationship becoming difficult, unsatisfying? Don't work on it! Bail out and create a new profile.
A woman I dated, I just noticed that she deleted her profile last night. I wish her all the success in the world. (I'm lying)
In the words of the Terminator "She'll be back."
I got problems with the distance thing. I have a friend now that...this could really go somewhere. But she lives a ferry ride away. I fair distance. It will be hard, but...
Life is difficult and complex sometimes. What you gonna do? Woman like me, I get a lot of approaches, so what have I got to complain about? No problem, I'll think of something.
To sum up: yes, some will succeed. Many won't. You can increase your opportunities by focusing on qualities of character. As corny as it sounds. I look for: do they genuinely like me, understand me, see my secret self, kind to me, can we laugh together.
Do I feel safe with them, safe to be vulnerable, express affection. If we have a disagreement will they be willing to work it out or will they take their marbles and go home. In other words: LEVEL OF COMMITMENT.
Sorry I went off on a tangent here. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:26:09 PM | I don't doubt that the success stories are legitimate, but I think they understate the effort involved. Being successful on a dating site requires a lot of introspection, hard work, and more than a little luck.
So keep at it, learn from your mistakes, and have faith in yourself rather than worrying about whether to have faith in the site. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:49:15 PM | | I have never heard of any yet and I have spoken to many males and females on here! I would love to talk to someone that says they have found true love on here! | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 11:34:29 PM | So far, this site has been one big middle finger for me. Not that I'm looking for sex on this site, but I was looking through profiles and there was one called, The Naughty White Girl. Now I think you all know what kind of person with a name like that means. But in the profile info, it said:
"Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex." Why have a name like that and look like that if you have that as a requirement.
Like I said, I'm not looking for sex, I'm looking for an actual relationship, but it just seems messed up that people do that. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 5/31/2009 11:36:21 PM | Oh yeah, nobody ever responds to my messages either. Talk about the double duce. I get more messages from women from other date sites that I can't even talk back to.
At least tell me why your not interested so I'm not getting screwed over.
Lord knows I would. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 6/1/2009 2:47:25 AM | | Is anyone else besides me bothered by the fact that so many people who post their success stories have such poor grammar? It seems that being largely illiterate is a prerequisite for doing well in the online dating world. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 6/1/2009 10:27:10 AM | hey, i have never posted a success story- to me it seems a lil like tempting fate, but I did meet my partner on here, and we have been together more than three years now- does that count?
Having a look at the stories- they're some of them uber cheesy- but don't let that put you off lol! | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 6/1/2009 12:56:59 PM | | I know of one for sure. My coworker found her fiance on here 4 years ago. I've had some great dates, but that's about it. | |
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| Are the Success Stories for real?
Posted: 6/1/2009 3:28:15 PM | I believe all the stories are real.
I believe there are many more people who stop coming to POF after meeting someone here. I have met my current boyfriend her on POF. I still come to participate in the forums.
I think it is ridiculous to think that these stories are fabricated. | |
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