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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:03:52 AM | I been on the site for now 3 months and no replies at all , i rewrote my profile and nothing.
My pictures that bad? or my looks?
Any helpful tips, as kinda of thinking of deleting it now, as I dont seem to find a way or creating a better way to improve it | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:11:29 AM |
Hi.. Well about me I am Michael and my main interests are football, music, films, walking, gym and playing tennis. I do like cooking and also trying some exotic foods.
Be nice if meet someone who is funny and easy to get on with
I like to do things where sometimes is not planned just get up and go, I am funny and down to earth kind of person.
My taste in music is very varied, but if it sounds good from Dance to Pop then I like it. My favourite song at moment is Lady Gaga Pokerface. (radio keeps playing it too much though)
This is all you want to say about yourself? What's your favorite football team? what kind of films do you like? And, ok - you like 'walking' - um - to where? What kinds of exotic foods do you cook?
You say you are 'funny', so that should reflect somewhere in your profile.
I'd keep your favorite song out of it, though. Beacuse next month you'll probably have a different favorite song and so on.
And you should have a picture of you smiling as your primary photo.
You also really don't say much about the women you would like to date...
Keep at it, OK??  | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:48:24 AM | My good friend, Tracy, was correct. You definitely need a different primary photo. Have someone take an up close, clear, SMILING, full frontal facial shot.
A successful profile begins with telling us about you as a person. We want to know if we are compatible personality wise before we learn anything else. Your first paragraph should tell us this. Describe your personality traits and quirks. Then we need a few paragraphs telling us about your interests, hobbies, job etc. (This is where you engage your reader - give her something to identify with) Expound on a few favorite movies, bands, books, etc. Then you need a paragraph describing the qualities you are seeking in a partner. Is she a chatterbox, or someone more quiet? A social butterfly, or someone who likes to stay home ? Is she high maintenance, or someone who would place football with you? We want to know. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 2:51:18 PM | I guess the first thing is that there are in fact many messages being sent. In most cases the initial email is sent by the guy (at least that is the case for the older crowd, not sure about those your age). Just to give you a couple examples. About 2 months ago, I was on a date with a nice looking 58 year old lady who had just gotten 100 email from guys that day. Last month I had a date with a 62 year old lady at her house. She showed me her computer and on just one of the dating sites she had gotten 50 email that day and was listed as a favorite by something over 300 guys.
If you think about it a bit the odds are that the younger ladies are likely getting more than the older ladies. That obviously means that the younger you are aiming the less likely you are to get a response. I don’t know about you but I know that I do not have time to read and respond to that many email, even with a polite “No thank you”.
I am selective of who I send an initial email to, only 1 to 3 per week, and get responses from most of them. I seldom do a search, instead I check the “who viewed me list”. When I see a lady of interest I check her profile. If that is interesting, I send her a note.
My point is that the ladies do respond, but selectively. You need to have a good profile, aim at the appropriate audience and send a personalized note.
As the two ladies have already pointed out, it starts with a great profile. No one can write it for you but there are some helpful guidelines about that on the site.
Look over those tips then re-write and come back. Many people will give comments if they have more to work with.
Best of luck
Ron | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 3:51:58 AM | | dude... get in your postman uniform, have someone take a picture of you staring seductively into the camera. delete those other pictures | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 12:41:01 PM | imho:
most of your pics are group. they make you appear collegiate. therefore it's harder to take you seriously. your main pic should be just you, not you, some goon sticking his tongue in a chick's ear, and some chick. it gives the "goofy frat boy" image.
you must have some more serious looking pics that will show your facial structure, which a lot of girls are into. or close ups of your smile, or your eyes, so they can see your features.
your writing has bad grammar. you are missing some words. after reading it, i had to scroll up to see if english was your second language. try to revise what you write so that it sounds properly educated in a reader's imagination.
put in some things that a woman can relate to, like specifics of music, or places you've travelled or wish to travel. this will give them something specific to reply about if they have similar likes. also, things that indicate your nature. if you're sensitive, you can mention how you like to help people, or you are the type who always pays attention to holding the door for the person behind you, or that you are aware of service staff and try to tip well when appropriate. this shows you are considerate of the people around you.
best wishes in your search for romance.
tj | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 10:48:04 PM | | Who knows what the real reason is because I've messaged tons of females and have only gotten one response back and it was more a polite returned email that showed no interest in me at all. I have more luck in the real world than in online dating. So it is what it is and the only thing you can do is update some things, keep trying, and don't worry about it so much. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 11:02:43 PM | Hey at least you don't get a reply saying 'sorry I do think you're cute but you live too far away from me.'
This coming from a person who lived about 10 miles away. | |
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