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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:00:41 PM | How many times during an early relationship(less than 3 dates) should you tolerate being blown off?
Cause it seems to happen to me alot....and its really frustrating making plans, then spending all night alone wondering....the hell? | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:04:09 PM | | Unless there is a genuinely honest reason for her blowing you off, and not in the good way, then it should never be tolerated. If you see it being a regular thing than talk to her and express your feelings on the matter and hope for improvement. :-) | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:04:10 PM | | None, unless they are unconscious or in a cave, they can call. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:04:58 PM | | "blown off" indicates skipping the date without reason or remorse. once. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:06:44 PM | Early?
Less than 3 dates?
Once.
But then again, I don't put up with a whole lot of bullshit either, that's just me. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:09:02 PM |
How many times during an early relationship(less than 3 dates) should you tolerate being blown off?
As many times as she's willing, after the first date of course. I may be cheap but I'm not easy. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:12:00 PM | Me' Usually i will let a woman get by with that one time and one time only. Cause sometimes' Blow me off again and i am gone. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:14:23 PM | | One unexcused absence is all you get. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:18:52 PM | | If someone stands me up they better be on the side of the road waiting for help and call later . It is so not worth my time in investing in someone who cannot be considerate and doesn't have enough courage to call or email me that they lost their courage . | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:19:47 PM | I hear you, although I'd stretch it to 5 dates, unless you mean a date as something formal and you don't count lengthy get togethers.
I'd say twice.
You don't give the " three strikes you're out " rule when you're trying to persue a relationship.
And it depends how much ahead of time a blowoff is, with the current girl I'm with she might say she wants to do something wensday when it's a sunday, and then come tuesday she may call and cancel and say thursday.
She never did our first several dates.
The reasoning is a girl will make more time, same with a guy, early in the relationship to stabilize things and lay down some ground work.
Now 3 months in I cancel on her sometimes if I'm not up for it, but usually a day before.
If you've gone on 2 dates with a woman and she keeps blowing you off for a 3rd ON the day, that means she doesn't want to see you, unless she does it once with a good reason. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:32:16 PM |
None, unless they are unconscious or in a cave, they can call.
I do believe that pretty much sums it up.............
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:41:02 PM | unexcused? NONE.
Shows a lack of basic politeness, uncivilized , uninstructed, lack of respect and self respect.
There is always time and ways to message someone before hand to warn them that they can"t make it. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 8:10:40 PM | My rule of thumb: Blow me off once, shame on you. Blow me off twice, shame on me.
Seriously - blow me off once and it's Sayonara, Baby. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 8:11:40 PM | | Unless there's a great reason - the first time is usually the last for me. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 8:12:25 PM |
How many times during an early relationship(less than 3 dates) should you tolerate being blown off?
First time is the last time! (I guess there could be a good reason like being in emergency and not able to speak) | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 8:19:53 PM | | First time I may give them the benefit of the doubt depending on the circumstances. But if it happened again, then I would move on. | |
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Nope, no excuses...just the way it is.
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Posted: 6/3/2009 9:04:35 PM |
How many times during an early relationship(less than 3 dates) should you tolerate being blown off?
Zero. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 9:04:53 PM | | I call and ask....if they don't respond, then I know the answer.....DELETE. No point of keeping a spot occupied with someone that is not even interested. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:21:42 PM | | First three dates...none. I'd even be hard pressed to excuse someone I'd been dating for a while if they just completely blew me off. Call me, text me, leave me a stupid message online, anything. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 12:31:53 AM | | Depends on the reason, 3 dates, I wouldn't be invested all that much, and some times totally relieved to have the date called off...again depending on the reason. I don't mind being out once I'm there but the act of going out makes me want to just stay home and forget it, so yeah, a guy calling off a date doesn't bug me all that much. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 12:35:20 AM |
How many times during an early relationship(less than 3 dates) should you tolerate being blown off?
Zero times. If plans are made, the only time to change them is if something like an emergency happens.
Or if there's a marathon of Top Chef on. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 1:16:39 AM | It depends on the reasoning behind it. Oh, and you mean being blown off in that you show up and they just don't show, or they call you ahead of time and change/cancel plans? Again, for me it fully depends on the situation. Each is different and will call for it's own response.
Cheers. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 1:41:01 AM | Bah, I could elaborate, but it really is a long story- basically me and this girl flirted basically nonstop when we worked together- but she had a boyfriend at the time, so it never got past that point- I left the job, and we stopped hearing from each other for nearly a year- recently she's appeared online alot, and it seems she broke up with her boyfriend last fall, and the flirting resumed online- we went on date about two weeks ago, and had been flirting alot with each other online since- I pushed that we should date again, and she kept spurring me with excuses of this or that, or agreeing to only to cancel the day of- so I told her we're going out(trying to be assertive), and she kept coming back with maybe- I made it very clear I was planning on it, to a point of talking about it hours before.....then,as the night came.....silence....nothing online, no answer at her number....I got invites to go to the local fair with friends, which I rejected in lue of her(which I now suspect is where she was)
I know this girl likes me- but her contstant avoidance to go out and blowing off and cancelling plans.....like I said, we have a small history, and its not a simple emotional investment.....and she was pretty bummed out the last couple of days, and I was hoping meeting up would put her in better spirits....
...but you can only get rejected so often.....
Way too complex.....but I guess maybe I was seeing something that wasn't there.... | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 3:53:43 AM | It's not about "tolerating" anything. If you're blown off, you're blown off. It happens, and there is nothing you can do about it. Don't kill anyone :) Just move on. | |
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