| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/3/2009 9:15:15 PM | I see a lot of ladies who are looking for either dating or long term relationships. However, their profile is about 2 sentances and there's nothing for me to use to strike up a conversation.
All too often on profile you'll see something to the effect of "don't message me just saying hi or I liked your profile".
Well if you actually put something meaningfull in it 
Are these girls not serouis to begin with?
Am I wasting my time?
How do I say "hello, I saw your profile. I don't know a darn thing about you but you're cute" | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/3/2009 9:17:54 PM | In my experience you're wasting your time.
If they're not willing to put some effort into it you probably shouldn't email them. Perhaps they filled it out when they didn't have much time and mean to come back later. So, maybe you could remember the profile and check back periodically.
But just telling a girl she's hot isn't going to work - especially if she isn't attracted to you.
Good luck. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/3/2009 9:20:14 PM | The real question is, why would you want to?
Save your energy for those who have proven themselves able to outwit the proverbial box of rocks. Unless you like 'em hot and dumb. Then write away. Maybe you can tell them you are a big-time CEO or a pro athlete. They may just be dumb enough to buy it. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/3/2009 9:20:20 PM | Good question! Most girls like a guy with a sense of humor. One guy here broke the ice by telling a joke. (A funny/cheesy one. :)
I also like "favorites" questions. What's your favorite such n such. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/3/2009 9:21:48 PM | | i'd say move on and don't bother. if a woman isn't willing to put some time and effort into her profile she might not be compltetely serious. but then again there are women who don't know what to say in an online profile so they keep it short. try introducing yourself and tell them a bit about you and then ask them a few simple and easy questions and see how it goes. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 12:05:06 AM | | I do indeed have a short profile....and I tell people if they want to know more about me, they will have to take the time to email me and get to know me...Look, guys, ya'll don't wanna have jack squat to do with any profile without a picture....so, fine, I gave you one, though I really don't like knowing that what attracted you first was my picture...but hey, you're men, and you're visual creatures, so I had to start somewhere...what tells me that someone is truly interested in getting to know ME is whether or not they're prepared to take the time to ask me about myself, as opposed to me spilling my guts on my profile...and I have been able to filter out many booty-callers in just this manner....so to those of you who say 'you're wasting your time on someone with a short profile', I say this to you: thanks for letting me know that you wouldn't be worthy of my time or attention, and thanks for letting me know that what you're REALLY after is a booty call...you're dismissed! | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 12:28:16 AM | | I disagree Jaded. You say you want men to be attracted to who you are, and not your picture? Then tell them something about yourself. Otherwise, you're just another pretty face on the other side of the bar. You're forcing guys to make a judgment call based just on your picture. Seems counterproductive to your goal, no? I'm a big fan of captions for pictures. If someone comments about a caption, it shows they weren't just looking at the picture. Or even better is if they make a comment about a recent forum post you made. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 8:31:57 AM | If it is a struggle for you look for the chicks that write an autobiography.
If you really want to contact them, wing it.
Tell them something about you or something about the one thing they do say.
Or just ask them if they want to chat.
Say something random about the pictures.
Tell them you are a mind reader and guess something about them.
BE CREATIVE.
You are the only one that is going to be able to be the judge on how you manage your time. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 9:38:46 AM | | Dont bother...your response rate is going to be much higher responding to somebody with a filled in profile at least a few obviously current pictures, something in common, and at least somewhat equal in attractiveness....otherwise, move on... | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 10:49:16 AM | Why not write what you posted?
"hello, I saw your profile. I don't know a darn thing about you but you're cute"
However, should she reject you we do not want to have the follow up post about how women are shallow even though you wrote a woman that had nothing in her profile because you liked how she looks. Deal? | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 11:22:36 AM | If you're in college, this provides a good opportunity to get all your homework done. When you see these scant profiles, simply send them one of your study questions, like "Hey, hottie - what were the events that led to the United States' involvement in World War I?"
The woman will say to herself "He thinks I'm an airhead. I'll show him!" She'll look up the information and reply with the correct answer so you don't think she's dumb. It doesn't matter that she may not be particularly interested in you, she just doesn't want to appear stupid or shallow (which she would be if she rejected you based on looks or finances). This way, she can reject you because you're not her intellectual equal: "Duh! What idiot doesn't know it was the sinking of the Lusitania and...(blah, blah). I can't be bothered with someone who doesn't know that!"
Don't be upset at the rejection because, in truth, women like these are so wrapped up in themselves that they can have ten watches and still not give you the time of day. But at least you'd get your homework done. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 11:26:49 AM | Shade-tee-I agree with you 100%! I'm guessing that the women that only write a line or two depend on their looks to get the emails (same as the men). Yet its funny that they say they don't want to be judged on looks alone.
OP....why would you want to contact them anyways? Because they're cute? Can't you find some cute ones that have more in their profiles?
You can always ask about the town they live in - how long they've been there - do they like it, etc. But I'm definitely one or humor.
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 6:10:20 PM |
why would you want to contact them anyways? Because they're cute? Can't you find some cute ones that have more in their profiles?
Two points
1. You might have something in common with them.
"I like the outdoors". That could be "I like walking my sissy dog" --- in which case we probably wouldn't have anything in common. Or it could be "I like going camping and comming home when we're out of Stag" --- in which case I'd be interested.
2. It's a numbers game. The more people you say hi to the greater chance one will respond. If someone is serouis about the site, then I would feel like it's time well spent trying to pry out a conversation. However, most gave their opinion that the girls really aren't here for serouis reasons; thus a waste of time. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 7:04:28 PM |
I see a lot of ladies who are looking for either dating or long term relationships. However, their profile is about 2 sentances and there's nothing for me to use to strike up a conversation.
All too often on profile you'll see something to the effect of "don't message me just saying hi or I liked your profile".
Well if you actually put something meaningfull in it
Are these girls not serouis to begin with?
Am I wasting my time?
How do I say "hello, I saw your profile. I don't know a darn thing about you but you're cute"
You're overthinking. If you are interested in her, just message her already. Worst case scenario - she doesn't reply (Or maybe she'll write back with a 3 paragraph long response on how short messages irks her) -- and you move on to the next fish. 
Even though there might not be much in your message (perhaps just a simple "Hello, I would like to get to know you. Would you like to chat?" ) if she likes what she sees in your profile, more likey than not she will respond.
WHY?
There wasn't anything much written in HER profile yet it attracted you anyway.
Same thing applies to your message. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 7:15:11 PM | You are forgeting they are also either very new to pof or thick.
Thick girls are sometimes easier, they get laid, they get contacted , they attract more ***holes, they repeat. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 7:35:00 PM |
The real question is, why would you want to?
Exactly. Welcome to our world - except in our case we're contacted first by a guy with a blank profile so our question is more like....why would we want to RESPOND to that?
Same difference. A girl with a blank profile gives you nothing to go on, so you should find one that does. Simple.
And yes, if none of them have info, then wait till one comes along, or don't message anyone. I know! Crazy huh? No one. Huh. Yeah, you'll live. | |
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| How do I say hi to a lady with a short profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:44:38 AM | | I'd say you're wasting your time. I don't bother messaging men with extremely short profiles, because there's no way for me to tell if we have anything to go on, at all. It doesn't have to be a novel like mine, but a couple of paragraphs at least gives me something to work with. In my experience, if I do message somebody with a short profile, I get three word "lol"responses back ("good lol u?"). I shouldn't have to wrangle basic information out of people I'm contacting over the course of twenty messages. | |
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