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 sloaneranger62
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 1
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I was told today on this site that I should stop associating sex with love and realise that 9 out of 10 people only want sex nowadays with no emotional attachement.

I find that a staggering claim and wondered if it is true for most people here?

Is this true for both sexes, or is the old saying true that "women need a reason to have sex but men just need a place"

What are your views please?
 thenewlife
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 2
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/4/2009 9:24:59 AM
Why is it wrong to just want that?
 MalaSam
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 3
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/4/2009 1:36:28 PM
There is nothing wrong with just wanting sex, but I honestly belive that the majority of people really want to find that special someone . If 9 out out of 10 want just sex, why so are there so many couples in the world that make us single people feel like lepers???
 thenewlife
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 4
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/4/2009 2:14:45 PM
financial reasons?
 mir02198
Joined: 2/22/2009
Msg: 5
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/4/2009 2:29:27 PM
There's nothing wrong in just wanting sex if it's not leading anyone up the garden path thinking there's more to it , but I seriously don't think nine out of ten people is a fair statistic...anybody I have met have actually been very much into a serious relationship...speaking about guys of course. Mind you I have worked with girls much younger than me and I was surprised just how sexually aggressive they were when they went out....it seems the lads were the ones wanting more than a quick shag ...the girls were doing all the manipulation.I'm sure that's not true for all women but it was for the ones I spoke to .But in the end I think people go through different phases in their life and in the end the want the whole nine yards .....everybody wants the lasting love whether they 'd like to admit it or not
 taltos101
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 6
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/5/2009 1:14:38 AM
Ok. I definitely need to move to Ireland :P For me sex is an extension of the relationship and much more enjoyable with someone who knows you at an intimate level. I will admit in my teens and college years, just having sex was a priority. Of course nothing compares to being with a woman you love who is on the same level of sexual maturity....growrrrr!

Cheers!

Patrick
 GDAE4u
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 7
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:10:55 PM
I like this quote:

I know nothing about sex because I was always married. - Zsa Zsa Gabor

What I wonder is where people get these statistics from? Personally I think that all human interaction has at its core an emotional engagement; even so called loveless sex. Love may be absent but something is going on there!
 GDAE4u
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 8
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/6/2009 8:27:36 AM

it's too easy to seduce men

I dont think you can..............
Prove it!
 thumperitis
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 9
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/6/2009 10:03:47 PM
I believe there is a difference between sex and making love. I had believed that all men felt sex was just sex and women felt a deeper meaning...."making love". Now I believe, people, whether it may be a man or a woman, have different beliefs and it may depend on the stage or chapter of their lifes. My truth....Sex is great when you are single. But making love is more meaningful with someone you love. Just one womans experience and point of view?
 dirtyboy-jb
Joined: 2/4/2009
Msg: 10
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/7/2009 2:47:32 PM
I hate to genaralise,But, mostly, Yep! Men, need sex(with or without love),women(again mostly), need sex within love? Have met a few girls who were the exception to the rule, wanted sex,with no strings,BUT! Guess what? they then changed their minds and wanted a relationship ! You women.......?
Awomans perogative to change ya mind I guess?
 hungry_joe
Joined: 6/24/2006
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/7/2009 5:54:27 PM
Causal sex becomes shallow and meaningless after awhile. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I'd like to have the rest, that should come with sex. You know a person to share your thoughts, abmitions, dreams with. A person to great you when you come home from work. A helpmate, and a playmate. It makes life fuller and sex better.
 taltos101
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 12
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/8/2009 1:41:01 AM
This statistic is utter shite, because there is no context. Ask anyone a simple question of, "Do you like sex?". What kind of statistic do you really expect? Seriously, I don't know anyone who has no desire for it. They may reserve themself on some level, however, the reality is we are all hardwired for procreation.
 dirtyboy-jb
Joined: 2/4/2009
Msg: 13
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:44:06 PM
Thats because most married peeps are jealous of you singles? ! Its true...... You singles ban take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way?( ya lucky beggars)! You`ve no-one to answer to? Can please ya-self(lucky thing)! Us married!? We have to put up or shut up? Go without, or stray? Then suffer the quinciecwonsies!
9/10 married people perhaps think about/only want sex? Probably!?
We`re all looking for THE soul-partner,whether we`re married,single? -unless you`ve already found `em! ?
 dublinchris
Joined: 3/27/2009
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:26:03 AM
on this site i really don't think that is the case
- but while im replying any chance of a shag?

 vanililly
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 15
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:38:29 AM
You've misheard.

The statistic is "9 out of 10 WOMEN just want REALLY GOOD sex ... with the same fantastic monogamous male long term partner.. night after night"

I am one of those 9.
 tallaght_guy
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 16
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/21/2009 8:36:51 AM
well personally could never have sex and no emotion attachment, may not be love but a respect and some connection be a definite
 DigitalDreams
Joined: 8/13/2007
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:52:02 PM
I've been without a relationship for about 4 years now (by choice), and I'm only 27. I enjoy "sex" very much, but I think it is over-rated compared to a bond a man and a woman can share. "Sex" I believe is the benefit of a committed relationship. Unfortunately can also be abused as an addiction, however can be controlled as such.
 sexy babe 1
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 18
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:54:32 PM
nothing wrong with male/female just wanting sex, but he/she should let other person know if its only sex they want so no one gets hurt thats where honesty comes in
 sexy babe 1
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 19
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/24/2009 12:00:24 AM
did you ever think that single people might want what married people have , a husband / wife to come home to after a long day at work ,share prob with and be with someone they love ,
 sloaneranger62
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 20
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:20:26 PM
I daresay everyone here wants sex I know I certainly do, however there is a difference with it being meaningless and meaningful.

That is the part that seems to go right over some people's heads here.
 SimplyKendra
Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 21
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:51:56 AM
Dear lord, I hope not!!

Personally, I want something above and beyond that. Any concious being is capable of mindlessly screwing something, but the promise of love is what we all seek in truth..otherwise we wouldn't be here we would be on some other fling website or something.
 taltos101
Joined: 4/4/2009
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:31:32 PM
VaniLilly...the original post didn't site the source used as a basis for the question. If you know the url of the statistic, could you please post. Adding "really good sex" does define at least some context.

Cheers!
 taltos101
Joined: 4/4/2009
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:40:07 PM
I agree with both you and sloaneranger62. There is meaningless sex (just pure animal inhibition) and meaningful sex (an extension of the relationship...no pun intended). I think most people here are looking for the later, though there will always be that small percentage that seeks the former (tongue firmly in cheek).

Cheers!
 bren01shlck
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 24
9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:58:03 AM
the internet growth of porn is messing people up as far as i'm concerned not to mention the new media - it's competitive out there. women are outnumbering the men and this means they have to look better and try harder - girls drink way too much to blow off all the steam society puts on them. You need to be in the game to have a chance but it's not a nice game. As an adult, i avoid 1 night stands now due to a growing fear of contracting an sti - i've been lucky i can tell you (how did we ever make it this far!)
I think the more lonely you are, the more you want sex. the more angry you are, the more you want sex, the more selfish you are - the more you want sex. I haven't had a shag since february and can live with that. made a promise that i'm not sleeping with anybody i don't care about anymore. I feel much better for it too.
most of my friends are in relationships and i suppose you want a relationship with somebody because 1 you like them as a person, 2 you want to **** them. it's really that simple isn't it.
 SwirlTwirl
Joined: 7/13/2008
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9 out of 10 people just want sex
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:30:47 PM
I agree with Kcr9!
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