| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:27:52 PM | | I thnk that the title says it all, but please do not tell me to do the same thing that I was doing when I was younger, nothing ever work so far, and now that I am 41, I am still hoping to attract someone but I do not know how do this | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:31:18 PM | Step one: delete your current "about me"
Steps two and three are interchangeable. Buy a BMW, and watch 40-year-old virgin.
Honestly, for online dating, you must put your best foot forward. Find or create some nice pictures of yourself, and put them up. Describe your personality and interests. Show them who you really are. Someone is out there who wants to be with a man just like you!
(Oh, and don't be the guy who will accept messages from women 15 years his junior but not one year older. It won't help you) | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:33:38 PM | Oh, boy...that's the worst profile ever. Your pic looks more like a mug shot so you need to get some new ones stat.
Your profile contains one sentence - which states that you've never been on a date before. Neither did Steve Carrell in the 40 Year Old Virgin, so there's still lots of hope for you.
OK - the first paragraph of you profile needs to tell us a little about you. Where did you grow up? What kind of place do you live in? What kind of job do you have?
2nd paragraph needs to tell us about your interests and hobbies. Do you like movies? music? dancing? cooking? kite flying? bungee jumping? BASE jumping? reading? We need to know these things in order to see if we have anything in common with you
3rd paragraph should tell us what kind of woman you like and what kind of relationship you are looking for.
Hope this helps!!! | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:34:01 PM | Oh, boy...that's the worst profile ever. Your pic looks more like a mug shot so you need to get some new ones stat.
Your profile contains one sentence - which states that you've never been on a date before. Neither did Steve Carrell in the 40 Year Old Virgin, so there's still lots of hope for you.
OK - the first paragraph of you profile needs to tell us a little about you. Where did you grow up? What kind of place do you live in? What kind of job do you have?
2nd paragraph needs to tell us about your interests and hobbies. Do you like movies? music? dancing? cooking? kite flying? bungee jumping? BASE jumping? reading? We need to know these things in order to see if we have anything in common with you
3rd paragraph should tell us what kind of woman you like and what kind of relationship you are looking for.
Hope this helps!!! | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:37:40 PM |
Step one: delete your current "about me"
but I can not erase it the site will not update it if it is empty, so I put what I thought was best, I do not know of anything else to say about me.
(Oh, and don't be the guy who will accept messages from women 15 years his junior but not one year older. It won't help you)
I do not receive any message at all | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:44:04 PM |
Neither did Steve Carrell in the 40 Year Old Virgin, so there's still lots of hope for you
I do not understand what that refer to
you are saying about paragraph, how can I have any paragraph if there is only one sentence, and that sentence does describe me the best that I know of
I do not even know what kind of woman I would like since I do not know what woman want and much less what they are looking for, so far all I have seen on this site is that they all want to travel l and sport, two things that I do not do | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:48:44 PM |
Your pic looks more like a mug shot so you need to get some new ones stat.
I do not have any other pictures, that one was taken from my drivers license.
I hate to have my picture taken, I always manage to get away from cameras when pictures are taken
I am too scary to be on picture | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:49:57 PM | Hi, my name is Rat-7 and I am a warm-blooded Canadian male. I like watching Senators games on tv, while eating Hungry Man dinners. I love listening to the Beatles and enjoying low-cost prescriptions.
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MASSIVE IMPROVEMENT. Copy and paste | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:51:50 PM |
Hi, my name is Rat-7 and I am a warm-blooded Canadian male. I like watching Senators games on tv, while eating Hungry Man dinners. I love listening to the Beatles and enjoying low-cost prescriptions.
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MASSIVE IMPROVEMENT. Copy and paste
I do not see it personnally | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 3:54:00 PM |
I do not understand what that refer to
It's a movie. Google it, rent it, watch it.
I do not have any other pictures, that one was taken from my drivers license.
I hate to have my picture taken, I always manage to get away from cameras when pictures are taken
I am too scary to be on picture
Been there. Dig up a camera and make it happen. It's what you'll have to do if you really want to give this a go.
http://love.ivillage.com/snd/meetmarket/0,,qvwd,00.html | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:00:20 PM | 1. You make sure you constantly nurture your social life so that you can meet women out in the real world, as you don't want to look in one place. Online is meant for supplement not for the main search. If you can't talk to women in person, tackle that first and become better at it, as you will have to do so here as well...there's no getting around it.
2. Online, it's about a good profile, good pics and good messages - mixed with the knowledge that not all that you like will be interested back, and an ability to be positive, have thick skin, have patience.
2a. You may not know what to write, but it is what it is. If there's nothing there to grab attention, then you'll get passed over. If you don't know what's good about you, how can anyone else gauge whether or not to continue looking at your information? Hit the profile review section, ask for a review and follow the direction.
2b. Pics are important, so if you need to get some taken, then get some taken. It's no simpler than that. Do what you have to do if you feel it's important to make a good impression.
2c. You have to be proactive here and you will have competition - it's the nature of the medium. Therefore, make damn sure the women you're interested in are going to be interested in you - as much as you can anyway (you never know for sure, but profile information narrows it down well if you know what to look for). Send initial contacts telling her what she wrote in the profile that interested you and asking her about it - that's a no brainer if you're interested in more than the pic, it will be a natural thing to ask her about what's written there. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:06:22 PM | Listen, pal - we'll trying to help you out here. You asked for our help, and the advice gievn here is good - so listen up, ok?
Surely there is something you like to do. There has to be something. Anything. Are you interested in movies? music? books? politics? TV? computer games? do you have a big family? do you like to cook? do you like to eat?
All I'm getting here is 'the unibomber'...thats not good.
And as far as what kind of women do you want? who cares what we're looking for? what are YOU looking for? | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:09:58 PM |
1. You make sure you constantly nurture your social life so that you can meet women out in the real world
I can never meet woman in the real world, they all run away, and if I am even slightly interested in one I simply do not know what to say. Beside when people go out (Friday and Saturday), I am working, in the past ten years I never had a weekend off
Send initial contacts telling her what she wrote in the profile that interested you and asking her about it - that's a no brainer if you're interested in more than the pic, it will be a natural thing to ask her about what's written there
Every time that I wrote to one I either do not get any answer or they barely answer to what I ask and then it stop right there
I am begining to believe that there will never be anyone for me, there never was before, sowhy would it change now | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:12:11 PM |
And as far as what kind of women do you want? who cares what we're looking for? what are YOU looking for
I am looking for a woman, I will start with that and then I might find out wether she fit in | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:12:41 PM | | OP - if you really, honestly, feel that way, then I think you need to seek professional counseling. There are a lot of self-esteem issues going on here, and possibly some depression as well.... | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:17:56 PM |
if you really, honestly, feel that way, then I think you need to seek professional counseling. There are a lot of self-esteem issues going on here, and possibly some depression as well
It is nothing like that, I am not depress nor do I have low self-esteem, it is just the reality of things. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:19:31 PM | People simply aren't attracted to 'poor pitiful me' personalities. Just from your couple of posts here your energy is draining.
You are full of excuses. "I don't like having my picture taken" "I don't know what to say"
Most of us don't like having our pictures taken, and we are nervous talking to knew people.
I suggest you join support groups in your area and get use to socializing before you try to date.
Also you are seeking
Age between 25 and 41
** Come on! Are you joking?! You are 41 and interested in meeting someone 16 years younger but not 1 year older?! | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:22:24 PM | You are in the wrong, I am looking for between 30 and 41.
I would be very surprise if any one would intersested to me if they 41+ (and even youger for that matter) | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:23:31 PM | | What Lily said is right on. Maybe a church group? Or some volunteer group? Maybe a community project of some sort? Look in your local paper for events in your area and get out there! | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:25:49 PM | I took it off your profile.
Mail Settings (To message Rat-7 you MUST meet the following criteria.)
Female
Age between 25 and 41
Live in Canada
Live within 75 miles.
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:26:03 PM | | In Ottawa, all event are for two, if you are showing to any event single people look at you as if you are from Mars or something, and all those event happens on weekend, which I have to work | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:28:35 PM | You are full of excuses. You have two choices - Either be proactive, or be miserable. No one is going to come knocking on your door asking to be your friend.
I am beginning to think this is a troll post. Take this to another forum. This is only for profile reviews. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:34:10 PM | I am looking for help on how to attract someone, and all you did is basically told me that I need to be incarcerated in a mad house.
I have not seen anything beside the first post by Tracyannk, and I do not understand how the music, movie, book, where I grew up, etc... could help | |
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