| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 6:43:46 AM | I went out of a first meeting with a guy, to his house we went for a home cooked meal. It was nice for the most part, but at one point, he had went into his computer room to check out PoF and do his thing on it. When I walked in he had shut the window so I would not see.
I am not to bothered by it, he was not someone I could have seen forever with, but I think it was a bit rude and he could have waited.
So is it cool to PoF on a date/meeting?!
My vote will be a no! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 7:46:34 AM | It would be a first and last date/meeting with that man.  That's so rude. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 8:04:06 AM | I hear ya there!!
The funny thing is, when him and I where talking he did not understand why he could get a first date and never a second.. geee now I wonder why, it is better to have 1 then try and find more in case this 1 does not work out.
Oh and I should have added, he got a txt just before supper saying that the girl he was suppose to go out with the next night canceled on him lol. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 8:27:05 AM | | Manners seem to be sadly lacking in today's dating world. I have heard men and women complain about cell phones constantly going off on a date, and dates carrying on conversations on their cell while out on a date. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 9:21:04 AM | Ya, cell phone are a big thing today.
I have one and there is only one person I will answer it as she is my roommate, everyone else can leave me alone while I am out. I leave my cell phone at home a lot if I am going out and don't want to be contacted. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 9:29:12 AM | He was rude.
Why do women pursue guys who are players ? I don't believe there was not one red or yellow flag. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 10:46:17 AM | "Why do women pursue guys who are players ? I don't believe there was not one red or yellow flag. " lol don't be naive and a think it is the girls fault, guys will hide what ever they have to in order to get a piece of ass.
Like a guy is going to out right say he is a player, I did not see one red or yellow flag, only thing I noticed with his as all the other guys do, is when him and I where starting to get to know each other, he was still on PoF like everyone else does. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 11:48:29 AM | I think it might have been a red flag that the meeting was aranged for going to someone's home-
Maybe it isn't so bad that the worst he did was check the computer.
Safety first! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/8/2009 11:49:18 AM | Hey he was absolutely rude. He also sounds compulsive... Ask yourself this why would you go meet someone for the first time at there home? Be careful! Be safe! I know there are a lot of good people out there...but really we need to try and weed out the not so good ones out for our own safety.......This site is fun and exciting at times but being responsible to yourself should be a high priority . Plus its easier to get away from a rude person in a public place.  | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 1:11:09 AM | | What you doing, going to his house for a first date, keep safe. I cant believe he checked out pof while on a date, how very very rude . | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 4:27:28 AM | | maybeangel is so right! You are so lucky that the only thing he did was go on his computer! NEVER go to a strangers home on a first date! As far as the computer (or anyother communication to others while on a date) - it's wrong! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 4:37:23 AM | So everyone can stop being the OP's Mom on this one and quit with the lectures of going to the guys house. You or I have no idea what saftey nets were put in place or what was arranged before she went there, so just can it.
The topic was about someone surfing POF while on a date!
I have had it happen to me. And yes, I went to his house on the first date! He was a hoot, and I had no issues with meeting him at his house. He's also a cop but that is not the topic.
But he did pull pof up on his puter only to show me some of the women that have added him to their favs and wanted to know if I knew any of them....which I did. It was kinda wierd and ackward at first, but he and I have more of a base to be friends only, so now if I go see him, if he pulls up fish, it is more like each other helping to find the right fishing hole.
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:18:36 AM | grenize, you tell us to" can it," then you go onto mention you met at a first dates house, so you flipping can it  safety first always | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:21:06 AM |
I have had it happen to me. And yes, I went to his house on the first date! He was a hoot, and I had no issues with meeting him at his house. He's also a cop but that is not the topic.
What part of cop did you not read?
If you want to discuss safety steps when having a first date, start a thread! Stay on topic.
Yes, it is rude to surf POF while on a date. Rude to talk about the date you had the night before, and also rude to discuss the date you have set for the next evening... | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 5:45:59 PM | So, all cops are safe???  That is a rather general comment. You only have to pick up last week's newspaper to have that theory go out the window. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:27:37 PM | Ok, we all know safety first. Yes I get that, he also lived in the basement of a house where I met the people upstairs and we used the BBQ on the porch and they peeked out their heads to say Hi.
So anyways update, the guy in question txt me the next day asking how my day was and sent me PoF messages, so I said thanks but no thanks, I want someone to get off of here with, not stay here. He sent 2 messages back and a text asking if I was ok. I deleted all 3 and wont even give him the time of day.
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:57:29 PM | Ya know...so many people are so ready to get on the moral high ground and do the tsk tsk tsk about going to someones house on the first date. If the topic of the thread was...I went to a guys house on the first date ... was this the right thing to do? Then I can see a place for all the naysayers and tskers about the 'dangers' of such a thing. You don't know the situation, or the conversations that took place or the safety measures that were already put in place. You don't know who else was in the house or what the building or housing situation was like so get off your moral high horses and deal with the topic or start your own thread and I will be glad to post in it about my experiences of going to a mans house on the first date.
But on topic....no it is not cool for someone to POF on a first date. Not cool text message someone on a first date (been guilty of that one...sorry), and not cool to keep your cell phone on during a date. It is also definately NOT cool to talk to another woman/man on msn while on a date!
Cheers and happy first dating! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:22:02 PM | No disrespect intended - Telling the OP or anyone not to go to someones house on the first date is simply laying it out there for others who may not take precautions - or whom may not think it is a dangerous thing to do! I have known some crazy fvcked up cops in my time - I wouldn't want to be alone in their homes!  We have to remember there are youngsters on here as well as us old farts who have learned from experience the right and wrong things to do!
Topic - yup it's wrong to text or to go surfing the net on a date! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:30:06 PM | Cops, Indian chiefs, Lawyers..whatever...
I think the point that Greenzie was trying to make is one doesn't know the particular circumstances....Gawd, how people jump to berate others here!
OT: If the dude felt the need to check his pof profile in your company OP? Pass him by. Not someone who is seriously looking! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:42:47 PM | Iv'e probly had at least 10 first date's at home, It's a comfort zone Not recommended depending where you live I guess. I'ts never been a problem.
OT, I have checked my pof after a date, Thinking it did'nt go so well, But never during a date.. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:48:35 PM | I am going to have to agree with Greanize and Moonchild. Some of you are so paranoid.
When I was younger, I used to go to ladies places and vice versa after meeting them at a party or bar. If a guy or woman is up to no good, the second meeting is not going to make a difference. Nowadays I meet ladies through friends. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:35:49 PM | It was very rude for the OP's date to break away from the date to go troll on POF for his next date on his computer..
It appears class and respect have completely gone out of style....
Its just as rude as going on a dinner date with someone..and your date is drooling and oogling at others passing by around your table.
As for Greanize and the OP.... you are right.... you are big girls and have the right to date they way you choose fit... dont let these sunday school marms preach to you about curphews, skirt lengths and boys wanting to make out at their homes.
The sunday school marms throwing stones at you are the same ones who have had no problem getting blitzed at a bar or club and taking home (to his place or theirs) the bar fly they just hooked up with.
I think the difference here is Greanize and the OP went to their dates home.... SOBER...and knew something more about their dates than their bar names before meeting them.
STOP THE HIPOCRACY... to the school marms....was the alcohol induced haze supposed to be your "saftey" net during your one-nighter... I guess it must help when you meet a guy for the first time and have known him for acouple hours to then go off and be alone with him..... ahhh impulsive love.....  | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:54:02 PM | Impulsive love?! I think that is what most of society is based on these days.
"Its just as rude as going on a dinner date with someone..and your date is drooling and oogling at others passing by around your table. I know a guy that will say it is o.k for a guy to do that and it would be the dates fault for being insecure if she got mad. lol | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:13:56 AM | | Maybe he forgot some details about you and felt awkward asking you. Your age, or how many kids you had. Or maybe something in your profile... Never know. I guess i am the type to give the benefit of the doubt to most people. | |
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