| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:27:14 AM | To the ladies
context: you are in a monogamous relationship
situation-you and your boyfriend have plans for the evening(dancing, theatre, concert, sporting event, whatever)
will you and him have sexual relations BEFORE you go out for the evening or when you RETURN
who will initiate the sex: him OR you?
curiously | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:43:15 AM | before AND after :o)
Does it matter who initiates? As long as it happens, it's all good | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:52:23 AM | These questions depend on the people involved,length of the relationship,who's horny or not and the situation.I'm not going to get all dressed up to go out....just to get all hot and bothered before hand and need another shower after a quicky I probably don't even have an orgasm from.
As for who will initiate it afterwards.....depends on how the night went.If "my" man was sweet and attentive and sexy...ME! If he was flirting with the damn waitress and not bothering to even hold my hand during the night....he's on his own.
Why did you make this a woman's only thread?
Seems to me..........men could just as easily weigh in on this,even though it's bit of a pointless a topic,but I felt sorry that no one responded to it....so...there ya' go..
It all just depends.Why are you asking the question?
Is your S.O. leaving you hanging? | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:06:27 AM |
situation-you and your boyfriend have plans for the evening(dancing, theatre, concert, sporting event, whatever)
will you and him have sexual relations BEFORE you go out for the evening or when you RETURN
Neither. I hate when it's expected either time. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 7:12:53 AM | Bravo gigglemepink  , I hate when there's a plan. That means there's no spontaneity and it ruins it. Planned sex is like going to the dentist. Where's the excitement in that? There is none. My feelings is if the two of us are sexually compatible it will be before, during, and after.     | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:20:22 AM | who the hell knows, it always depends on the situation.
you cant plan these things!! | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:25:58 AM |
women only please
Op you need to read the POF forum rules ....you can not make a thread gender specific ...and what are you going to learn from your survey ...which is also against the rules | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:29:55 AM |
women only please
You are aware that by forum rules, you're not allowed to make topics for one gender or the other only, right?
will you and him have sexual relations BEFORE you go out for the evening or when you RETURN
Making love to your partner should never be "routine". When things are just "planned" they lose their magic.
It happens when you feel that flash of desire for each other. When a simple touch ignites that fire in you, and you just can't hold back.
Passion can happen at any time. When sex is planned... well, it's just sex. And becomes dull. And when it's expected of someone, and not appreciated as an act of passion... it common for people to lose interest.
who will initiate the sex: him OR you?
Either or.
One person doesn't always want to be the one making the first move in a relationship. That makes someone feel... undesired. If you're always the one who has to start things, then you don't exactly feel like your partner has that burning desire for you.
I might initiate things... or she might. Usually, we'll look each other in the eye, and both lose ourselves in the passion we have for each other.
Which is how it should be. | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:40:20 AM | Before, during and after... and who initiates it is dependant on whomever f*ck-tackles the other one first.
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:40:31 AM |
Making love to your partner should never be "routine".
Tell that to a working married couple with 4 kids running around. Sometimes, planning it is better than no plan at all.
For those with no time to have a sex life, a plan helps them actually "keep" their sex life alive.
Besides, if it's something special, what's wrong with planning a "special night"? I like spontaneity too, but sometimes you need more than an hour for what you might have planned. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 9:02:29 AM | Well, I've dated single moms who had 3-4 kids. And basically little to no time for themselves.
And we never planned things... when a moment came up that we could enjoy some passionate time alone... we took it.
Sometimes they'd get a sitter, and we'd have a wonderful day with each other. Doing... whatever... sometimes wild sex... sometimes just laying together cuddling on the couch, enjoying the peace and quiet.
Never let it be routine. The few times I've been with women who tried to "schedule" sex... it ended up feeling... artificial.
Besides, if it's something special, what's wrong with planning a "special night"? I like spontaneity too, but sometimes you need more than an hour for what you might have planned.
Once in a while, yes, a nice romantic (or sensual) evening can be planned. And that's not a problem.
It's when that's all it ever is. Your "weekly sex". At that point... the passion dies, and it just becomes mechanical. | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:06:54 AM | Stupid questions deserve stupid answers! Before, on the way, while there, on the way home and at home!
Who cares who initiates it? It's not like you need a sex security clearance... | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:31:12 AM |
you cant plan these things!!
LOL!! True, you can't time a lust eruption, but you can plan the opportunity to let it happen. Have read articles about how a married couple with kidlings who hardly ever f-ck anymore should make dates, like they presumably did before marriage. Like, a f-ck setaside. The government does setasides. Lol.
who the hell knows, it always depends on the situation.
 Well, that's true, but I have set up an ambush or two in the past. Lol. Lying in the tall grass, watching, waiting, waiting, shooing gnats out of face, then she finally comes into my crosshairs, and bang!! Bagged her!!! But I'm not a skilled bushwhacker- kinda like Wily Coyote, more often than not.
and who initiates it is dependant on whomever f*ck-tackles the other one first.
LMAO!!! Daayymm, I love how this bombshell thinks!!!! I don't even know exactly what a f*ck-tackle is!!   But I do know that sex is a contact sport, and there have been several times when I was envisioning pancaking her while she was busy reading the menu, or making one of those across-the-field WTF outta nowhere open-field take downs.
"F*ck-tackle"!! I'm stealin' this. | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 10:45:59 AM | it will happen whenever it happens.
and im not sure who will initiate..
the girl or the guy or the girl or the girl in my case | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:03:14 AM | | There is no way to know. Every situation is different and every day is different. If either one of us instigates sex prior to going out or after or both, then I'm sure the other will be more than happy to participate. If you are wondering how often women will initiate sex, I am just as likely to initiate it as he is. | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:07:09 AM | I'm going to approach this like a "Choose Your Own Adventure" book:
Okay, so I'm in a monogamous relationship. My boyfriend and I are going to go to the theatre (because we're classy like that, I guess). He gets home from work; it's about 5 in the evening. He has to change. I've already showered, but I have to tart myself up a bit for public consumption. I've just finished putting on my lipstick and adjusting my necklace...when my boyfriend, dripping wet from the shower and wielding a big messy erection, comes at me with lust in his eyes.
I choose to...
Get on with it because nothing goes together so well as Strindberg and a post-coital glow.
Brandish the nearest sharp object and inform my boyfriend that he is going to make us late and make a mess of my clothes; therewith, I send him back to the shower to finish himself off like any self-respecting horny theatre-goer.
I'd go with the latter option. If he paid for the tickets, I might sleep with him after the play...unless it had been particularly depressing. Would I initiate it? Depends on how much the tickets cost. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 11:43:12 AM |
Tell that to a working married couple with 4 kids running around. Sometimes, planning it is better than no plan at all.
For those with no time to have a sex life, a plan helps them actually "keep" their sex life alive.
...exactly.
While i would somewhat agree that sex should not be routine, show me someone who doesn't think it should be planned and I will show you someone who apparently has an empty life with no time commitments.
Besides, that sort of thinking is BS anyway. We all "plan" sex...I know next time I see my SO, we are going to have sex. That is how it works...we get together...enjoy each otehrs company...have sex.
Indeed, that sort of "planning" is exactly the type marriage counselors make reference to when couple make mention of issues in this areas - counselors remind said couples that they used to "plan" sex all the time...and they fell out of the habit because they simply assumed it would happen once they were under the same roof.
Doesn't work that way.
Yes, spontaneous sex that starts (and sometimes ends) in the kitchen or the living room is hot. But if the only time you have sex is when circumstances allow the notion to strike you totally out of the blue spontaneously, you won't be having much sex once you have time absorbing responsibilities such as a career and kids and a social network to maintain. For most couples (at least those with careers and kids) the only time available for sex IS evenings and the occasional weekend...and if they only did it when each of them were struck by a bolt of lightening at the same time labeled "hey, I wanna fcuk...I wonder if they do", they would go months without.
Planning sex is a GOOD thing...gives you something to look forward to all day....just like you did when you used to date when you KNEW you'd be getting some booty that night...and it would be HOT!!! | |
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| Yet another reason...
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:46:11 AM |
Before, during and after... and who initiates it is dependant on whomever f*ck-tackles the other one first.
...why I should have stayed my butt in the GTA....lol | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:52:00 AM | Quote from MysticalM
Before, during and after... and who initiates it is dependant on whomever f*ck-tackles the other one first.
Are there more women on this planet like this????????????????I'd marry one of these | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:01:34 PM | lol that is so stupid...
and you can learn a lot...
he could be doing a statistical survey on how many women are aggressors or willing to be the aggressors in the bedroom, then using that information he can look at the content of the profile and see what kind of non-sexual personality matches with his type of woman's sexual personality.
A conclusion that I have repeatedly drawn from experience is, type A women are aggressive about dominating their world outside of the bedroom and being with guys that won't try to dominate their world outside of the bedroom. BUT inside the bedroom, they like the aggressive men that are willing to take charge.
This is why I am always with military women and business women. | |
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Msg: 24 | |
| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:05:30 PM | | You would have it BEFORE AND AFTER...Doesn't matter who initiates it. | |
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| women only please
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:20:08 PM | | I say fight the urge to have sex and save it for Jenna Jameson after your gf takes off. | |
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