| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:38:44 AM | How did you escape from the monster(s) in your dreams? Do you remember what they look like ?
Has anyone had dreams when they were younger you could fly
so high the monster could not get you.They could fly as high as airplanes you could fly higher. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:53:17 AM | I remember what it looked like. I first encountered it at the age of seven. It was a dark entity of pure evil & malevolence...and it was after me. I knew I had to face it. I "defeated" it by rescuing my father from it and getting away before it could get to me. (in my dream of course)
When I was 19, "it" came for me and I awoke in a cold sweat as it grabbed me while I tried to escape, which forced me to fight like a cornered rat.
When I was 40, I encountered it again, but the dream ended when I rolled up my sleeves to "have it out" with the dark, red-eyed, human-shaped "beast" once and for all.
Will I have another dream about it?...I doubt it - I faced my dark side.
(Freud would have a heyday with this one!) | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:45:06 AM | Mine was kind of like Chucky, only a teddy bear.
One night I stopped running, faced it, and said "You are something out of a lame B-movie or a novel by a no-talent Stephen King wannabe! Instead of scaring me, you make me laugh!" Then I laughed until I woke up. It has never bothered me again.
As for flying, I had a lot of flying dreams as a kid but now they are rare. I wish I could get back to those because they wre fun! | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:13:35 AM | | I was once being chased by zombies that could run fast (like in 28 days later), and when they cornered me, I pulled out a sandwich and told them to try eating that instead of me. It worked. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:01:17 PM | | I rarely remember my dreams, but in one I remember, I didn't escape. An invisible killer chopped off my head, and when my family called out asking if everything is ok, the killer put my head back on my neck and made me say "everything is fine" to lure them in and chop off their heads too. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 2:53:25 PM | Dream monsters were always ineffectual. I am a product of Sesame Street, after all.
The real life monster who sent me sprinting through miles of woods and found me hiding behind a tree, shaking with terror, grabbing at soft soil for purchase as he dragged me back to the house, and who once caused me to cram myself between the wall and the water heater because he couldn't physically reach me there, and who drove me to a cold state of calm while he held a kitchen blade, cornered me in the same kitchen and was intent on helping me abort our baby while my six year old stood screaming behind him, and my panic didn't come until after the police came and took him away- THAT monster was not easy to defeat. The years of haunting and stalking and running and tossing from nightmares and jumping at every sound turned into a singular day when a I feared no more. You cannot make me panic, now. I fear nothing, though I practice caution. There was a man at work who liked to sneak up on women and startle them and he never managed to do it to me because of an awareness like eyes in the back of my head. How did I defeat the delusional paranoid schizophrenic crack addict who was determined to "save" his family by killing them all? I started over and learned to live again.
I had a dream, not long ago, with everything as it was and him holding that same 9mm pistol to my head, cracking my skull with it again, just like before, ready to shoot. This time, instead of saving myself like I did in real life, I just laid still and let him shoot. I felt the bullets hit my head and my spine. It turned out they were rubber bullets, but the cops outside were using real ones and he went down. Then I watched my first husband bleed to death, and I watched his monsters leave him. I've had these kind of dreams before, there's no mistaking to me that, irl, my ex-husband is finally at peace, as am I. Defeat comes in many forms, so do monsters. Fear and Faith come in many disguises. Choose to live in Faith - and I don't mean religion. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 3:02:31 PM | I used to have dreams about vampires coming after me and would wake up just before they jumped me.
After years of having variations of the same dream, the vampires became sexy instead of scary. I know why, but the shift still intrigues me. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 3:24:21 PM | When I was six, I had nightmares about huge top-hats with legs chasing after me. The hats were different sizes, with the largest being six feet tall and the shortest being about a foot. There were five of them and they would chase me around my yard, all in a row - the biggest hat leading the way. For some reason, the smallest hat seemed the most menacing. When they'd almost catch me, I'd wake up.
For a kid, being chased by top-hats can be a traumatic experience. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 3:47:14 PM | @ Hereshecomesagain
Your horror story of a real-life nightmare brings to mind an experience of my youth (Unfortunately, this wasn't a dream either):
Many years ago, a woman worked with us as an office temp. She was from another city and had recently moved here with her husband & child. She did her assigned tasks well, but what drew my attention to her were the bruises. She had a lot of bruises and claimed to be "accident prone." She said the bruises were from a fall down the stairs, but as more bruises were added every day she was with us and as her personality was that of a whipped dog, it was pretty obvious she was being beaten on a daily basis. It occurred to me that her husband had probably moved here to isolate her.
I didn't accuse her of lying, but tried to explain that "that sort of accident prone" could easily be fatal and one day probably would be if she didn't get help for it. I tried to direct her to a woman's shelter, where she might be able to get help for her "clumsiness." She stopped showing up at work the next day (She hadn't gone to a shelter.) I can only assume her husband had something to do with her leaving.
This was thirty years ago and while I tried to help her, I feel I didn't do enough. (I probably didn't.) Thirty years later, I still think about her. I wonder if she ever got out alive and I feel guilty for not doing more to help (but still feel unsure of what more I could have done, or even if what I did do was the right thing).
Since you lived through a similar situation, what can you tell us about what "outsiders" should do to help women in such positions?  | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:15:12 PM |
How did you escape from the monster(s) in your dreams? Do you remember what they look like ? Giant flies, giant bees, huge things. I never really escaped. I woke up as I was being consumed alive. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:30:29 PM | Actually, Dukky, he only laid a hand on me once until after I left. It was more psychological and gaslighting abuse and it was never ever malisciously intended, he had demons before his eyes and his father forbade him from seeking help so he turned to booze and then one day he was given crack. It was odd how many people insisted they knew he had beaten me often, but I truly was clumsy. He was just crazy. We'd be having a wonderful Sunday drive full of love and the baby in the car seat when he'd decide to drive us off a cliff. My true horror didn't happen until after I left, I had the baby in my womb and two little boys. To go just a little further into terror, his crack supplier took over his identity and "love" for me and began stalking me in the delusional belief I was his wife.
To put irony upon irony, I was a social worker and advocate for abuse victims and children and ran a safe house on my property. I never, ever, expected to be in their shoes.
What would I say to outsiders? Don't become victims of the victims. The stat of 95% victims are women is a misleading and misused stat. 80% are mutual abuse cases, but the woman is the last one down. 5% are men who are exclusively abused. 15% of the domestic violence cases of 30 years ago are women being exclusively the victims. Things have changed. Only one program in the country (when I was in college studying this) focussed on men as victims whereas the numbers that focussed on women were countless. When I was forced to a "Family" shelter, I saw men with children turned away. In my career of caring for women as victims, I MOST OFTEN found the chronic victim who got off on being abused and loved the attention from "outsiders" and when a good man rescued her, she abused him. I found abused men who did their best to hide the truth in shame. I could be on an angry rant for hours. Adult women are not helpless. I helped myself. If children are involved, turn her in too. I did not raise my children in violence, it was difficult and scary, but I did it. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 8:22:25 PM | I dreamt that I was flying - literally flying - through the hallways of some strange dark basement somewhere to escape something. Then I ended up at a window and was trying to get out. It was at that point that someone came through a doorway and spotted me.
Concerned that they might think it strange to see someone floating in the air and trying to get out the window, thus impeding my escape, I started to make "ghost noises" to scare them away.
I guess it worked. My wife at the time woke me up because I was actually making moaning noises. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:50:41 AM | I had two types of recurring nightmares, only one of which had an actual monster.
It was the Frankenstein monster, who for some reason was trying to catch me, and sometimes my family. We lived in a small four room house, and he would follow me through the house, and I would run ahead of him and leave the house through the front door. But when I was outside, I would always run around the house and then back inside through the back door. He would follow me outside, around the house, and back inside again. He never caught me, but I never escaped him either, except by waking up.
The other one was simpler, and more varied, consisting of me trying to climb a set of rickety stairs, that were unsafe and shaking , ready to fall apart. Sometimes they were like a fire escape, sometimes they were just stairs that didn't seem to go anywhere in particular, but I had to climb them for some reason. These stairs were always a metal framework, and frequently like a bridge. I have no recollection either of ever getting across them, or of them actually falling, so I must have awoken before that happened.. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:02:53 AM | Normally when a monster appears in my dream, I try to romance them.
But then they find an excuse to leave very quickly, before I can finish.
Yeah.
Oh.
That is not something to brag about is it.  | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/10/2009 5:39:38 PM | | I became the monster, scared the hell out of my newfound possession, it left. I then chased it down hoping it would come back. The monster was always a part of me, I wanted more then it could scare. It has never come back since, alas. | |
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Sorg85
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:03:11 PM | I remember being chased by some hulking beast with red glowing eyes and fangs dripping with saliva. I would always run away from it but everything was slow motion, before he could grab me I would wake up.
It happened for years until I was 17, I had that same nightmare again. The same scenario played out but I heard a voice ring out "FACE IT!!" I remember turning around and becoming uncontrollably angry before attacking it. I landed a couple punches in the stomach while strangling it. I remember it clawing at my arm and face before landing a punch to it's face then everything froze and the whole view from my eyes just gets sucked in like water going down a drain and I woke up with my fists clenched tight. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:52:50 PM | @ Sorg85
Your post was very like my own (msg #2 ). I'm certain the "monster" you feared, ran from and eventually faced was your own dark side, the part of us that none of us likes about ourselves, the part that we fear, the selfish part that hates, desires and gets its way against our better judgment.
So many people are locked in a struggle against their inner self. They know the right thing to do, but somehow feel powerless against their own fear, hate & selfish desires.
I really believe that to have the dream at all indicates a subconscious awareness of your better nature. To face the terrifying beast is the good and ethical you prevailing against the "evil" part of you.
It took a while for the significance of my personal struggle to "settle in" and for me to become the "better me", but I knew when I prepared to face my beast that this was the essence of the struggle. Unfortunately, my beast was a "coward" and ended the dream when I prepared to confront him. I would have LOVED the satisfaction of landing just one good punch on my tormentor. I'm glad to know that you at least had that satisfaction. If it hasn't already happened, I think you can look forward to being a happy, compassionate and ethical man who loves life, your fellows and every breath you take. Best wishes for a glorious and happy future!
I have to ask though; does this strike a chord with you? Do my words ring true? This is the impression I have from my own "beast" encounters and I AM extrapolating here, to think it might apply to others, but do you feel my "Freudian analysis" is correct (or am I full of you-know-what)?
If anyone else had nightmares & confrontations with the archetypical black demon, I hope you post and let us know your thoughts on the matter. | |
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| How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 8/3/2009 6:07:04 PM | Sometimes I think of those types of dreams as a test. Dreams seem to be either a metaphorical/symbolic representation of what is going on in the outer world or the "monster"seems to be some creative side of me, usually a darker side,
but of course exaggerated.
Just recently I had this weird fantom charecter completely terrorizing me with guns and knives and supernatural powers. Constantly threatening to kill me. I just kept running! The quest wouldnt end, he wouldnt stop. It was as if I was running in slow motion or in water, and gravity multiplide itself. Finally, in the dream, I just got sick of trying to run and I turned around face to face with him. As he stood grinning, pointing his gun at my face I looked at "it" dead in the eyes and said " I am now going to personnaly kick the living sh** out of you!"
I dont remember what exactly happened right afterward but I do remember beating the thing to a pulp and throwing it outside on my porch to be rained on. Personally, I have come to enjoy such dreams that serve as tests or challenges. What else could they serve as? | |
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