| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 8:55:25 PM | I just read something in a woman's profile that I think is so wonderful I strongly believe ALL women here on pof should cut and paste into their profiles:
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I'm not running a ploy to get free meals. I'm happy to meet at a restaurant and pay for myself, if you still think you'd like to get to know me.
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Ladies, if you put this in your profiles you'll definitely impress a lot of men here. It would definitely impress more men than those "cut & paste" breast cancer messages. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:03:20 PM |
Ladies, if you put this in your profiles you'll definitely impress a lot of men here.
It's a good thing I don't want to impress a lot of men, because I can't imagine putting a thing such as that in my profile.
Meet and greets are not "meal" dates. They are, at the most, a soda or glass of tea. If, by the time we get to meals, the guy doesn't already know I'm not scamming anyone for food, then we shouldn't continue the relationship. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:04:25 PM | Ofercrissakes.
If you don't want to be in a position where you're expected to pay for a meal you don't want to pay for, stop asking women out for dinner.
Or put this on your profile:
I can't think of a more original date than asking you to meet at a restaurant, but I am too cheap to pay for your dinner unless you're going to sleep with me. So please be prepared to pay for your own, if you still think you'd like to get to know me. Paying for mine too would get you bonus points.
It would definitely impress a lot more women than those cut & paste snakes on a plane message. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:28:23 PM | Feather Sandwich:
I would NEVER ask a woman to have sex with me just because I bought her an expensive dinner. So don't put words in my mouth, nor assume that I'm some kind of male chauvanist.
However, if I do buy a woman an expensive dinner, I don't think it's too much to ask the woman to return my phone calls after the date. It's not like the phone call is costing her any money.
By the way, what is a "snakes on a plane message"? | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:40:29 PM | | OMG ... most women are happy to pay their own way .. it is losers like you who have to have it spelt out! Go on a diet .. slight overweight ....... and don't worry about food so much. U are unbelievable! | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:07:47 PM | Who says a mean on a first date has to be exensive? Yeah I know a key is missing and the s elling is off.
I won't go out a second time with a man who is not a comlete gentleman on a first date.
That means taking care of the first bill. I do all I can to weed through anything that would comletely reclude us from being matches with one another, so if we get to that oint, it's clear that I'm checking to see what kind of man he is.
I'm not someone who orders exensive things anyway. Generally I don't like the exensive food, such as lobster or whatever.
Men make at least 25% more than women do in the same jobs anyway just because they are men. I think they can afford my $8 dish of dinner on a first date. I will offer to s lit the bill and/or leave a ti , but I won't ay for a first dinner unless I have to, or unless he was honest and said he cannot ay for some real reason. Then I can be flexible. Otherwise, he needs to be chivalrous and do the right thing.
And yeah, I've had more than one man order what he wanted and leave me with the bill. Out the door they went too. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:12:07 PM |
However, if I do buy a woman an expensive dinner, I don't think it's too much to ask the woman to return my phone calls after the date.
Actually, it is, OP. Any expectation after the first couple of dates, no matter who paid for what, is too much. You shouldn't be paying for anything with any expectation other than a pleasant time & some interesting conversation.
That's why those dates should be inexpensive, casual outings rather than expensive, showy events. To do otherwise only leads to bitterness, disappointment, and redundant forum threads.
The snakes on a plane thing is a common copy & paste that many guys & some girls have on their profiles as kind of a joke comeback to all the cancer & military cut & pastes. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:37:16 PM | She may have be tired or just so anoyed at you post that she mispelled the word... She ment to say meal you old coot. Do you know what an old coot is? A very unpleasant person. A perfect definition of what women are thinking of you when they decide not to call you back, or you just creeped them out. I'm young and very modern and I STILL require the man to understand that he WILL be picking up the bill on the first date. It could be coffee, frozen yogurt OR some fancy dancy wine me dine me event. HE WILL BE PAYING!  | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:43:39 PM | xxxChallenger:
what you said just reinforces my belief that some (NOT all) women want "equality" when it's convenient, but reserve the right to be "old fashioned" in situations where "equality" is inconvenient or unprofitable. So you are younger than me; big deal. It's not like any of us can choose, and/or have the right to be proud of, the year they were born in.
And yes, I know it was supposed to be "MEAL on the first date", not "MEAN on the first date". To quote Harry Shearer, I was just trying to "lighten the mood with humor". Not everything on these forums has to be taken literally or with deadly seriousness. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:44:27 PM | I'm standing firmly behind all the other women on this thread who've posted thus far and couldn't say it better.
Besides if I'm trying to impress someone I want it someone who's not too cheap to pick up a drink at a first meeting, or who expects that every cent he spends on me, is a contract guaranteeing that he will see me again, no matter how unpleasant his personality is. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:49:03 PM | | how did i know this thread would bring out the **** brigade? don't bring up having to pay for meals when you'll never hear from them again or how women abuse "a few extra pounds" and you'll save yourself a lot of trouble and aggravation =) it's a sensitive topic among a lot of ladyfolk. i'm sure they have plenty to tag us with...they're all angels, tho =P | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:52:51 PM | indianaman,
"However, if I do buy a woman an expensive dinner, I don't think it's too much to ask the woman to return my phone calls after the date. It's not like the phone call is costing her any money."
You think you are "entitled" to returned phone calls/phone conversation because you paid for an expensive dinner? First off, did she put a gun to your head and "make" you to take her to an expensive restaurant? No one is EVER entitiled to ANYTHING just because they willingly put out money for someone, never! If that is your expectation, you need to communicate that upfront when making the date arrangements. That way...she has a choice to go on the date at all or to agree to pay her own. On a first date, no one ever knows what will become of it until after the date. So if someone doesn't return your calls, it's because they are not interested, but certainly it would be courtesy of them to contact you in some way, to tell you that.
Good luck! | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/11/2009 11:01:17 PM | | Although the "cut & paste" message I put in my original post was taken from an actual woman's profile here on pof, my original post was meant to be tongue-in-cheek, to a certain extent, along with a certain amount of wishful thinking. But sometimes don't we all wish for a utopia that will never come to pass. Like Carrie Fisher said in the first Austin Powers movie, "don't we all sometimes feel like we want to rule the world". | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:22:20 AM | It's not something I would put in my profile.
Not because I want a dude to buy me a meal but because I find it rather distasteful to discuss any money matters with a stranger. I tend to be turned off by guys that bring it up or need to hash it out before we meet. Although, if they are just a bit clueless or charming with it then odds are I will let it slide.
I have recently discovered that if I am adamant about paying for my share of a date then it pretty much means I don't want to go out with the guy again. If I am happy to let him pay then it pretty much means I am hoping that next time will be my turn because there will, well, hopefully be a next time.
Haha, everyone around here is way too serious for tongue in cheek about finances and who pays. It's a hot button topic. It would work well with some other topics though if you wanna give it another go.
I totally have days when I want to rule the world. Then I content myself with all that I do rule. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:29:03 AM |
I just read something in a woman's profile that I think is so wonderful I strongly believe ALL women here on pof should cut and paste into their profiles:
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I'm not running a ploy to get free meals. I'm happy to meet at a restaurant and pay for myself, if you still think you'd like to get to know me.
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Ladies, if you put this in your profiles you'll definitely impress a lot of men here. It would definitely impress more men than those "cut & paste" breast cancer messages.
I would only post that line in my profile if it would PREVENT me from getting breast cancer. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:11:43 AM | I dont let the guy pay unless i really really like him ,if i pay for myself it means im not impressed with him and probably wont meet him again
Should i put that on my profile ????
Nah probably not | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:33:47 AM | So, did you get a date from the woman where you have copied that profile from? I hope so! If that's so wonderful requirement for you I would say you're not very hard to please, lol. Good luck.
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:55:26 AM | Thanks OP....
I doubt that I'll do that but...thanks for the "tip" (snort).
To the guy saying he brought out the biatch brigade--no, what he did was make the mistake of saying ALL. And unfortunately for him people didn't vote to delete it so he gets to try and defend his position...which he doesn't seem to be doing that great a job of.
THIS is why they made coffee houses. For men and women who don't want to go down the expensive restaurant route. I personally, RARELY go to dinner on a first anything with a man. Not because I feel like I'd owe him something, but because if you're not sure that you're interested in him and vice versa, it's rude to expect him to spend a lot of money on you or even for you to pay your own way for an expensive meal where you tolerated the person you were with. That being said, the person I'm seeing now, I did go to a restaurant with him on our first date. But he was interesting enough and there were enough commonalities involved that I felt comfortable going. I still brought money with me in case I was wrong--I believe that a grown woman with a job should pay her way just as easily as a grown man with a job (oh boy I know I've started something).
So no--ALL the women out here don't need to put that on their profiles. Some men will be completely turned off because they'll feel that even if she claims she's not looking for a free meal, she's looking for something else. Or that she's using reverse psychology on them and they'll take her someplace expensive anyway. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 4:58:52 AM |
I STILL require the man to understand that he WILL be picking up the bill on the first date.
Wow..It's a requirement now...Wow, again..
I however, don't have a problem paying for the first meet, because it's usually an ice cream or something like that. Had some meet and greet, when we just walked around, sitting and talking on the park bench, so there were no money involved.
But I never felt that paying for something at the first meet was a requirement..
Never felt that it's some kind of test. Like how SOME of you ladies saying, if he won't pay for the first time, he isn't worth continue seeing. Wonder how many great guys those ladies let go, because of that.
Biatch brigade..LOL..Well, this kind of thread does bring out those, I agree..
I am a lady, I shouldn't have to pay for anything, ever, kind of brigade..
As far as putting it on the profile, I have mixed feelings about it.
I like it, she seems like a honest person, but like AFL (HI there!) said, it could be reverse psychology. Guys going to contact her saying, come on , I show you how to treat a lady, don't worry about those losers who have a problem taking you to nice places. | |
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| Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:05:04 AM | Oh yeah, I believe everything every single man writes in his profile 
People who talk too much about money hold no interest to me. 
People don't really impress me that much on here. It's when I meet them and how they talk, how they act and that will make the greater impact.
Some people could have a great profile and be total d*cks. | |
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