| "I don't kiss on the first date"
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:16:53 PM | I was listening to a friend of mine's latest dating story and she mentioned that she told this guy before the date (days before) that she never kisses on the first date. Well, they met, he hugged her briefly and kissed her on the cheek during the hug, and they proceeded with the date. After the date, he walked her to her car, gave her another hug, and again kissed her on her cheek, wishing her a good night.
She didn't feel much of a click with this guy during the date and was quite appauled that he kissed her even though she made it clear beforehand that she didn't do that. In his defense, I told her I didn't think a kiss on the cheek constituted a "kiss" but she disagreed and told me that she felt like he disrespected her and kissed her twice on the date knowing she didn't do that on the first date. My opinon of the matter was she was just finding an excuse because if she DID like him, the simple cheek-kisses would've been nothing more than a friendly greeting and goodbye, not a "kiss" per se.
So what do you think? Is a kiss on the cheek a "kiss" or should it be lips-to-lips to be considered a real kiss as in, I don't kiss on the first date? | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:25:57 PM | | If she felt like he was disrepecting her by kissing her Twice on her cheek, she could have stopped him. I personally think ur friend is overreacting. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:46:27 PM | The definition of kissing is relative. Perhaps this guy thought she meant deep passionate kissing - if someone kisses me on my cheek, I dont view it as kissing but rather pecks.
I think she needs to lighten up - at least he didnt shove his tongue down her throat or anything - he sounds like a gentleman, wanting to show his attraction by his pecks or maybe he is from a culture where everyone pecks on cheeks in gesture of respect. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:51:30 PM | Wound a bit tight is she?
She told him SHE didn't kiss ..... and she didn't.
Nor did she stop him. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:03:12 PM | I would give this play offsetting penalties.
Bad guy move to kiss on the cheek if she said no kissing.
So offsides for him.
But a penalty flag on her for complaining after the play was clearly over. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:10:27 PM | | No reasonable person would think that "no kissing" equals "don't kiss me on the cheek," especially after he did it once and she proceeded with the date as if she was fine with that. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:17:58 PM | | She didn't kiss on the first date. He kissed her and it was on the cheek. If she is that repulsed by someone kissing her, she needs to cut out the hug too. If you are going in for a hug, kissing with some people comes with that. She should offer her hand for a shake. Or she can tell her date not to kiss her, that she has an absolutely no being kissed policy. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:26:55 PM | | You have to be kidding? A kiss on the cheek is something you can do to a relative. I don't consider it an aggressive or rude gesture at all. I think it was kind of a classy thing for a guy to do. He didn't go for the lips. Your friend really needs to lighten up. At the very least, if she didn't like the first kiss on the cheek, she should have said so at the time and he wouldn't have given her the second one. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:28:53 PM | | when I read the title of the thread I presumed without any doubt it meant a kiss on the lips. A kiss on the cheek is what they also call a peck. Your friend should have said something like "Please don't kiss me, peck me or kiss my hand, or in any way put your lips on me"... How else would he understand what she really meant? He wasn't trying to force his way. She is the one using words in a context that is rather bizzarre. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:30:30 PM | I wouldn't do that to begin with.
If someone said "I don't kiss on the first date" that means NO lips. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:48:37 PM | *She is the one using words in a context that is rather bizzarre.*
Shorten that statement to: "She is rather bizarre."
What ADULT even makes a mention of something like that prior to going on a first date/meet and greet? Sorry, it sounds so high-school if you are going to stipulate something so....BIZARRE.
SARL | |
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| That....
Posted: 6/12/2009 3:50:45 PM |
Disrespected by a kiss on the cheek?
I think I wouldn't bother dating your friend.
...is what I was thinking.
Information like this should be tattooed to people's foreheads so everyone can use their time more efficiently... | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 4:18:47 PM | Kiss on the cheek is not the same as a real kiss on the lips. Your friend seems a little prude and insecure around men. Men like to get physical. That's how most of us show our affection. Most smart men know that if you act like 'just a friend', then you'll be treated like one.. and most all of us don't want that.. hence why we might be a little 'aggressive' with a .. lol.. KISS ON THE CHEEK?
Sounds like your friend needs more experience dating men. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 4:25:10 PM |
Disrespected by a kiss on the cheek?
I think I wouldn't bother dating your friend.
I wouldn't bother dating her either.
She should have offered her hand for him to shake, or made a big show of 'wiping' the kiss off to show how disgusted she was at being at close quarters with him.
How dare he presume to take such liberties??!! lol | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 4:44:32 PM | Iduno.. I have been out on dates, and not had a conncection with the guy and at the end of date he leaned in to go for it, not even sure where he would have landed one, but I simply pulled away.. maybe your freind just needs better reflexes 
I did'nt really take offense .. just simple let him know with body language that shit would not fly with me! some people are more of the touchy feely type and they dont even think about it. I'm sure he did'nt see it as being offensive or disrepectful.
* does kiss on the first date if she feels like it  LOL | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:08:42 PM | I think your friend is unfriendly LOL
If he kissed her once, she should have asked him not to do it again.
If her complaint is he did it twice, the second time is her fault.
In other cultures, kissing on the cheek(s) is a civilized form of greeting, not an invitation to be sexually intimate. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:13:42 PM | | If there was not an exchange of bodily fluids, then a kiss did not occur. A kiss on the cheek or a hug, are just minimal levels above a hand shake. Perhaps your friend would be more comfortable with an eastern greeting and genuflect delicately upon meeting. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:20:45 PM | | This is an interesting question, I have this problem with many of the women I go out with. They all like to do the kiss on the check as a hello and a good buy. I know some of them grew up in Europe and over there it is the normal way that they greet each other, so for them I allow it. It is just the way that some say hello, and while I don't like it, part of being an adult is learning to accept others cultures. This situation does not sound like he was being disrespectful, he was just being who he was. | |
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| I don't kiss on the first date
Posted: 6/12/2009 6:25:27 PM | | She didn't say not to kiss her. She said she didn't kiss. And, she didn't. What happens if she keels over and needs CPR? No mouth on mouth action allowed. She lives dangerously. In that movie where Julia Roberts played the whore, she didn't kiss her tricks. She had intercourse and gave them head, but no kissing. But I bet she would have allowed CPR if she had a bad reaction to the strawberries. Has your friend seen that movie? | |
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