| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 10:33:31 AM | | I have been dating this guy for about seven months now and recently i found some disturbing pics on his computer.he had two nude pic of himself that he had taken of himself with his webcam. now am thinking that he is posing on cam. i confronted him about it and he turned it around and said he took the pic so he can email them to me which i never got. I would like to get your opinion on this. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 10:43:51 AM |  If you need to ask, you know the answer. Not like he's using the picture to put on the front of his christmas cards this year. What do ya think he's doing with that image? lol | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:08:07 AM | | I've been a P.I. for ten years now and as someone who deals with this for a living I have to say it certainly raises some pretty big questions. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:13:12 AM | | That must have been the best answer he could have come up with on such short notice......he is not sending nude pics ... because the ones with clothes on.. got lost.. he is sending them with the intention of cheating.. he is already emotional cheating .. because the nude pics are being used as bait...he may as well have a sign in front of him that says look at me.. come and get it ... | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:14:03 AM | On the info available its too difficult to say. Given that your profile says your looking for dating I fail to see how you can be seen as behaving any more admirably
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:14:41 AM | Well...as long as you were snooping around in his personal stuff...you could've/should've right clicked on it....properties...then seen when it was created, last modified and/or last accessed.
My guess...if it walks like a duck......."quack"
You could see if he took it in the last 7 months, maybe 2 years ago and sent to his last gal...(which would be something a guy wouldn't wanna bring up)
Also...I am wondering if you "found" it by accident or if you were investigating based on other suspicions. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:22:32 AM | Peaches...are you cheating? That is the question you should be asking first. You have been dating for 7 months yet you joined a dating site 4 months ago.
If you both are just dating one another then you are not cheating unless you have made a commitment to one another and have decided to not date anyone else. If this is true then you are cheating by even being on here and this is considered "the pot calling the kettle black."
But to answer your question. A man or woman does not have naked pictures they have taken from their web cam unless they intend to send it to other people...he could be sending them to guys too so, you never know. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 2:57:31 PM | Guys who usually cheat always turn around the situation to take the spot light off of them.
This does not pass the smell test, peaches. Remember if they have intentions of cheating you won't stop them, so cut your losses and move on, there are better guys out there. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:11:55 PM | | huh,never sent them eh.if he was thinkin he would have said they were on their from before cause everyone's entitled to a past right.but he used the only other excuse for them instead and its kinda funny too!but maybe you could ask yourself if this is out of character based on how long you've been together. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:24:54 PM | Not knowing his age, but knowing yours I'm going with the photos being for someone other than you and you busted him. I doubt he was honest with you about his reasons, but on the other hand - why should a man be asked to defend what he has on his computer?
I don't think I would welcome explaining or defending to some person I am dating what is on my computer. It is MY COMPUTER.
I also wouldn't appreciate someone SNOOPING on my computer, when I was kind enough to allow them to use it. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:31:06 PM | | I do not think so. It is a possibility but someone way to young could have a penis content with his friend. Finally we do not have the info on the dates in those pics. If they are 1 year old may be it was for another gal. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:36:31 PM | Just having nude pics of himself on the computer does not mean he is cheating. He may just be one of those guys that likes to send nude pics of himself to women around the world.
Is cheating worse than snooping? Both violate trust IMO, and wrong is wrong. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:31:39 AM | You know OP I thought about this thread a little further and decided to tell you that maybe you should talk to your SO. It may be an innocent case of voyeurism. He may never cheat physically and this is the way he gets his kicks.
A man who is threatened by his SO about his activities may decide to hide them for awhile but eventually he will do it when you are not looking. I don't know how open minded you are and I am not suggesting that you join him but you could just talk to him about it in a calm manner or another choice is to laugh it off and tell him he is gonna get his self in trouble one day then go about your business. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:37:31 AM | Not enough information---I need more details/information.
Do'nt dump him yet | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 11:46:38 AM | | I agree with wicked_desires, if your profile says you are looking to 'date' then aren't you already cheating as well? IMO if you come onto a 'dating' site and put in your profile that you are looking to date then YES you are cheating and have a guilty conscious about it and therefore whether or not he is looking to cheat is moot at this point, face the demons you have inside. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:31:08 PM | | It could mean several things. Maybe he wondered what he looked like naked, maybe he masturbates to naked pictures of himself, maybe he sends them to unsuspecting women or to women he cybers with, or maybe he took them to send to you but wasn't sure about actually doing it, maybe he's a cheating heel...you know, just like you could be doing several things by having a profile on a dating site, who knows. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:38:21 PM | | why were you snooping on his computer in the first place? sounds like you were suspicious. most of the time when you snoop, you will find something, usually it's something you won't like. | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:41:05 PM | I think the biggest question that needs to be asked is why are you searching his computer without his permission?
Answer to your question? No, he isn't cheating per se, but there's always time... | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:49:08 PM | I'm not a detective (but I used to watch c.s.i) and it always turns out to be the one Who has a profile on a dating site which shows them as single looking to date and the account was opened after the "so called relationship in question" was already in progress THAT IS THE CHEAT!
But this is coming from a guy that drove by a holiday inn once! I'm just guessing! | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:50:08 PM | Hello there peaches.
Yes he is probably doing something online... But what you want to do is have a discussion about your relationship, and the exclusivity you may or may not share.
If you like him a lot, try to work it out; I can't say legal nature pictures in and of themselves would cause me to dump a guy . If you find he's a liar you cannot trust, than lose him. M | |
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| Is he cheating or not.
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:58:02 PM | | here's a thought. why don't YOU ask HIM if he's cheating. simple enough. | |
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