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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:34:01 PM | | I hope some one can make some sence out of this. I recently posted an add on to my profile that said I was not romanticly attracted to asians, since then I have recieved numerous emails that label me as a racist which I am far from. I have read numerous profiles that state they want only Black Men and so what is the differance here... | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:37:44 PM | Both are racists. As i posted on the interracial dating thread other day that reply is equally applicable here.
I fail to see even why its an issue given that man most likely originated from the same part of the world eg Africa is the fashionable theory.
My bamboozlement aside suppose i better blame some people for that pantaloons dogma and decree the following guilty:
Educated white man - and i use that term in a sarcastic fashion from a kinda dark age time to early 20th century.
Heritage - same again and those devoid of any true notion on what exactly that entails
Religion - which I am not going into
Insistence/persistence some people believe, wrongly, we belong to separate races
Cultures - lack of respect of anyone's other than their own
Elf king - incase i missed any others
However honesty is honesty even if it makes my skin crawl at times. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:38:36 PM | I dont think its racism you arnt saying anything negative about asians just that you are not attracted to them.
Im not attracted to women it does that mean im sexist? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:40:00 PM | | Thant it great for you, but your are not helping..I really am curious | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:42:20 PM | Taken from your own profile....
Also I have no interest in Asians romanticly.I am sorry just no attraction..Im gonna get mail on this I know it. Please dont be shy, any and all responses with be answered with respect.
You KNEW you were gonna start this...and if you ask me...it was on purpose...so why are you asking us to help you make sense of it?
Did you post because of what you put on your profle...or did you put it on your profile so you could post? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:44:33 PM | | Yes I did expect the email, but the question I am asking is why the double standard | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:45:49 PM | Instead of stating what you are NOT attracted to, try stating what you ARE attracted to.
I think most women can figure out what you are looking for then, and it doesn't come across as a negative statement. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:46:18 PM | Some people might take it as racist, though the reason is subtle and might be hard to explain. But that won't stop me from trying.
If you don't want to date Asian people, you can just not reply to contacts from Asian people. Nobody has to know why you didn't reply; people don't always get replies--they can just move on.
But if you actually mention it in your profile, it could seem to some people like you're heading off any contact with Asians. It's like you really don't even want anything to do with them--like an email that you don't have to reply to is already too much. Like "Ick--Asian--get it off my computer screen!"
And if that impression is true, then yes, mentioning it would be an expression of racism. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:46:24 PM | OP -- There is no difference. They are both stating preferences. This has been done to death. Too many namby-pamby types out there labelling it as racism because they feel they have to champion those select few that are excluded.
You are putting your preferences out there for all to see. It's really no different than the filters that POF employs sitewide. Must Not this and Must Not that. Those are exclusions too. They help narrow down the field for you. This saves you from wading through several mails or interested parties that you don't like or don't prefer.
It's not racism at all. Too bad there's still so many namby-pambys out there that would still see it as such.
It's a preference. Nothing more. Nothing less. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:48:20 PM | No. But the way you word it in your profile will be downright offense to some ppl. All you need to say is Single White Male seeks Single White Female. Problem solved.
I personally don't date "canadian" men....except for french guys from Quebec who are hot as ****...I usually prefer to date men with some culture like Italian, Spanish etc. However, I would never flat out state that I rather not date certain kinds of races....because it WILL invite angry emails. State what you want, not what you don't want. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:50:01 PM | the way you say it seems insulting. it leaves no room for o*enness at all.
i'd say take it out. if you inserted other names in there...it would all be insulting because of how you have said it.
it looks very closedminded to me. Very indeed.
i'm not sure if it's racist at all. it could be. you don't really give reasons. i think often times reasons are needed in order to determine if something/someone is racist.
I ersonally don't really think we should mix "races." I've had tons of education on the matter from all directions. This is where i've ended u. BUT I also think that there could be excetions to the rules. Should we unish those who are the excetion? I think not. So, my view may at first seem racist but in the end it's not. Now, my reason for that line of thinking is that many of the individual traits to each "race" are being lost because of the mixing of the gene *ools. I found out that by the year 2050, there won't be any blue eyes anymore if things kee going like they are. Genetically they are being wi*ed out. I find that incredibly sad since I LOVE blue eyes. So ersonally, I wouldn't definitely not date someone who was very different, and I have in the *ast dated very different men from myself, but I would rather stick to someone similar.
Oh... the blue eye thing... two carriers of the gene are needed for the next erson to get blue eyes and *ass it on. There could be other factors, but in this case, it is my understanding that there aren't.
Does this make me a racist? I don't think so. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:56:30 PM |
Yes I did expect the email, but the question I am asking is why the double standard
Who said there was a double standard?
You are either racist or your not....
You are either a trouble maker...or your not......
I don't think you are racist based on your profile
But I think you are stirring a pot for kicks
Take it out | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:07:23 PM | | I know, let's just see if it continues to get better. At first when some water got on the keys it was going bizerk. Now it's really only that one key. In the evening after the system has been on a while, other keys will ut that missing letter all over the screen... which is far more annoying than it not showing here. I'll get a new one shortly if it doens' t work itself out. ty. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:08:51 PM | | well I am sorry if I have offended anyone as I stated , I am not a rasist and thought it very curious and that it was a realistic question to pose.... | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:10:20 PM | Op, it's called Political Correctness. It's okay to specify no whites, but not okay to say no blacks, asians etc. Political correctness sucks.
It is NOT racist to not be attracted to a specific race. Once again, political correctness sucks. We cannot help what we are or are not atttracted to. Everyone has their preferences and a preference for race is no different than a preference for hair colour or body size/shape. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:22:19 PM | OP - here are two examples laid out for you:
I am not attracted to fat, overweight ppl with hairy bodies.
I am attracted to those who are fit, healthy and look after themsleves.
Both are trying to imply the same sort of thing, but in different ways. Take your pick. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:25:46 PM | You went to the trouble of putting it into your profile.
You knew you would get emails and you did.
You probably replied to those emails.
You started a thread and have posted three times or so now.
That has to be much less trouble than it would be for a guy such as yourself (or me for that matter) to reply "not interested" to the multitude of Asian women that would have have aggresivly pursued you.
Come on....
Not buyin' what yer peddling.
You are enjoying this. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:27:27 PM | that might seem like a good example to you 5tarrynight but the OP's profile doesnt denegrate asian people in any way... it simply states his preference.
he doesnt talk at all about reasons why this is his preference or trash asian people at all.
im sure that if he put up a line that said White people only he would be labled as a white supremacist | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:28:12 PM |
Im not attracted to women it does that mean im sexist?
Maybe you've just not met the right one! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:29:38 PM |
Instead of stating what you are NOT attracted to, try stating what you ARE attracted to.
I agree with this. I have on my profile that I'm attracted to mainly black, Hispanic, and European.
There are certain ethnic groups that I'm not attracted to, but of course I wouldn't mention that on my profile. But it also doesn't make me a racist, nor does it mean I discriminate against a certain ethnic group.
OP, I don't think you are racist against Asian women. Unless, of course you are. But you have preferences, and if you aren't attracted to them, that doesn't make you a racist in the least.
Perhaps rewording your profile, would be your best option.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:31:00 PM | | I really am trying to gain some insight, but obviously am offending people so I will change my profile and delete this post if I can figure out how. What am I peddling??? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:33:07 PM | | No I would not call you a racist but prejudice would seem to fit. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/13/2009 1:37:35 PM | | I don't think it's racist. What I do think is that it's narrow minded to eliminate an entire race of people because you aren't physically attracted to them. Exactly what are your reasons for not wanting to date Asian women? | |
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