| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/13/2009 6:16:12 PM | Hello Everyone. I was reading about the divorce rate in America and realized that even if you get married, it is almost certain to be doomed from the start. If it is your first marriage there is a 41% chance that it will fail. If it is your second marriage there is a 60% chance that it will fail. If it is your third marriage there is a 73% chance that it will fail. This leads me to believe that most people don't learn their lesson after the first marriage.
I will focus on helping the ladies find the right guy so that we can cut down on the divorce rate in America. Women, you usually have several men after you and you have to make the decision of who you want to be with. Let me help you make that decision easier by giving you questions that you should consider asking before dating a guy.
First, you should ask yourself what each man truly wants from you. If you tell a man that you're celibate and he is no longer interested, then obviously, he was only interested in sex. Most men want it and aren't willing to wait to get it. This will narrow things down quite quickly.
Next, If the guy has children, find out what his role is in their life. This helps you to figure out if he is responsible and willing to support children if you decide to have his child. If the guy doesn't have children, inquire about his credit history. If his credit is jacked up and he's not trying to do anything about it, then obviously, he's not responsible at all.
Figure out his relationship with his mother, or grandmother, or aunt, or whoever that special female family member that he looks at like a mother figure. If he doesn't respect and adore his own mother, or mother figure, then he will never give you the respect that you deserve.
Find out the guys favorite sports team. If he names one and is a die hard fan, then there is a possibility that he can be loyal to you, just as he is loyal to his favorite sports team. Another way of finding out if he's loyal or faithful is to inquire about female friends that he may have. Usually a guys female friend knows a lot about him and by speaking with her and getting to know her, you can figure out if he's really a loyal and faithful guy.
Last, but not least, find out what it would mean to him if you gave him the opportunity to be with you. This is very important because some guys go after 1 woman at a time becaust that is the only woman that he wants to be with. Some guys may only see you as another notch on his belt. While some guys may have been down on their luck and giving them an opportunity would make them so happy that all they would want in life is to make you happy as well.
I hope I helped someone with this post. If you have any suggestions that will also help, feel free to share. | |
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| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:08:59 AM | Great advice^^^^^^
But I also think I am personally going to skip past my 2nd and 3rd marriage and just get 2 quick divorces so I can move on to the 4th relationship and maybe the odds will be in my favor | |
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| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:07:56 AM | | People who throw off the yoke of marriage just need to have another kind of relationship. They are slow to reject marriage the first time, then each next time get quicker at seeing how it can't work. Marriage is not for everyone. It's not like if you fix yourself then you can be married. There is nothing wrong with you. Marriage just doesn't suit you. It's not about finding the right guy because there can't be one. You could be unhappy in a marriage with anyone, and you would, because it's the marriage and not the guy. What you need to do is look for another kind of relationship, not another partner for the kind of relationship that doesn't suit you. | |
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| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:26:52 AM | to Farceur
Very thought provoking................am pondering that now
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| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:52:55 AM | I have no idea if that applies to you, but it is something to think about. When people want but fail at marriage it's usually because they only think they want marriage, not knowing of options, or they have some culprit of a reason screwing things up, like what they learned growing up or some other kind of idea that gets in their way. Both reasons create conflict; wanting what you can't do, or not being able to do what you want. The fix, I think, is to figure out whether marriage is really your cup of tea, and if so, then what stands in the way?
Mate selection matters, somewhat, but you can't make a marriage work even with a good mate if you are the one who wrecks the marriage anyway. It's also blind luck if you happen to choose a good mate when you don't have a really clear and realistic idea of what would be right for you, to have with that mate.
People learn from trying, if they make the effort to learn. If not, they just tell themselves and their next victim whatever sounds best, and repeat the mistake.
Finding the right kind of relationship, the right way, includes knowing whether the guy is right for that. He would have to know himself, his wants and his particular baggage as well. | |
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| Finding The Right Guy
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:56:13 AM | Finding the right kind of relationship, the right way, includes knowing whether the guy is right for that. He would have to know himself, his wants and his particular baggage as well.
There in lies the trouble. You throw 2 people together learning about each other, mix it up and see what happens. Kinda like a kid with a chemestry set............you never know if you are going to get the explosion, or a slow fizzle | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 6:38:54 AM | | thank you very much (bringing you bliss), you have given me some really good advice and have helped me to reach a decision in my life. well, helped me to have the strength to go through with it anyway. :) hopefully I will be able to find the right guy for me in the future. and hopefully it won't be to difficult. thanks for your post. :) | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 12:55:22 PM | | thanks the great post Bringingyoubliss! I'm sure not every guy are complete a$$holes but there are some a few good ones that are hard to find... They say its better to stop looking for a relationship though. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 8:00:18 PM | the right guy for me will step up to the plate when I least expect it.
he will go out of his way to make sure I know he is interested in me and not play games with me...he will be forthright and subjective.
He will understand why I don't trust his motives right away but will be patient just the same.
He would NEVER ask me to get naked on cam or send him skin pics. That guy...can go to hell in a hand basket.
He will understand that good things....very good things come to those who...wait.
There is more but seriously...the right guy for me....he will let me know and when he does...I won't pretend to not notice. | |
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