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Posted: 6/13/2009 6:37:37 PM | I have no luck since I have been on this website six mo. , I went through eharmony, perfect match, true, match.com, and MMPM.com and still no luck. Whats wrong with me? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 6:55:25 PM | 6 months is nothing, I've been here since 2005 and still no luck. I must be uglier than I thought.
Anyway you need to be patient and stop looking so hard, at least that what everyone else tells me. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 7:27:41 PM | Whats luck got to do with it?
What's your rush? Be patient.
Just wait your turn, your woman is working her way through a bunch of good-for-nothings who are using and abusing her at this very moment.
When they're through with her and she's had enough, your chance will be at hand.
She may have their babies and spend her youthful good-looks on them, but your time will come!
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Posted: 6/13/2009 7:42:00 PM | I'm not sure why it should be our lot in life to get a woman after she's let herself get "used up" emotionally and physically by a jerk. Not to mention taking care of a losers babies for him. When you look at it all it sure doesn't seem fair does it.
Perhaps if we all made better choices on who we date and how we treat each other things might get better.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:21:10 PM | If anyone tells you that then they're idiots, if you want something, only you have to get yourself. But I guess we are not meant to be loved. I might as well go heartless | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:39:08 PM | Well, it's actually a good thing. The girl that chooses that lets herself get used up emotionally and phyically by a jerk is also crazy herself to get herself in that situation in the first place. So you wouldn't want that anyways. =)
Not sure what advice to give you guys except just get out there. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:47:05 PM | You fellows have the wrong ideas on women.
They don't get 'used up' or anything like that - just like you can't have too many friends.
Your 'friendliness' doesn't get used up, does it?
You're not so young that you can expect women to be virgins or even without children.
The fact is that your one-and-only is most likely in a relationship with someone else at the moment. While you're wasting your time on the computer, she's whooping it up with her current lover. Be patient, they can't go at it forever.
When the fizzle goes out of the relationship - be ready.
Imagine your at the tail-end of a line waiting for your chance, your chance with her.
Good Luck... your day will arrive... | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:29:39 PM | | I think I have everyone here who has had no luck on this site. Try 3 yrs | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 11:24:04 PM | I'm a noob to POF, but upon joining this site, i've viewed hordes and hordes of women who claim to want the same things i do, they when i send them a message, they just read it and never respond. I've only gotten a few lame responses from one girl, and we're not talking anymore. Isn't it funny how guys have the hardest time finding what they want? 10 times more then women.  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 5:07:36 AM | Well OP, you asked what was wrong so I'll give my opinion.
To be perfectly honest, I think your screen name, "BetterLover," sounds like you're simply here looking for sex. Women can get that anywhere - most of them are here for relationships. Your name implies something totally different than a relationship. If a man in my age range wrote to me and had that screen name, I wouldn't be interested at all in him.
Also, in your profile, you spelled Queen wrong - it's not "QWEEN." Please fix that. I didn't read the whole profile but that word just flew out at me. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 5:58:12 AM | Guys, you are not alone...there are posts all over the forums with the same problem.
The people getting dozens of emails or dates from here I'd venture to say are very rare.
Remember this is like a online catalog where you can browse and put tons of 'hotties/matches' into a shopping card, however most get removed and replaced with someone hotter until you end up at the checkout with a empty cart. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 6:32:38 AM | Hey OP, I had the same experience with eharmony, but I re-signed and re-upped my membership and found a good informative video called the 5 keys to success on the "help" template and on it, Dr. Warren says that eharmony was designed to be a year long process to find someone. - I was wishing that video had been on here when I signed on the first time. - It really, really helped me understand the process even better.
soooo......I signed on for another 3 months and darned if I haven't had some good matches with some real quality folks on there and made some good friends, but not "the one " yet, but if I keep on there, I'd be willing to bet someone will come to me........- we shall see.
I know that eharmony can be a bit expensive, but if you try to catch them on their promotional specials, you can get a good deal.
give it another shot. see what happens. - take the pressure off of yourself and don't try to short circuit the process. Unfortunately in this "couples oriented society" we have the idea that if you aren't with someone, you are nobody and that is simply NOT true. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:18:16 AM | Your second picture kind of reminded me of Hitler........  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:51:15 AM | | the only reson why woman have more luck is they have what every man wants and they know how to flunt it around to get what they want | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 9:35:56 AM | | i have to agree because ive sent messages and all i got is them reading it and no response of course they know what every man wants so yeah they are gonna use that to there advantage. i treat them with respect because thats just how i am but no they set there standards so high that any guy barely has a chance and they all say the same thing nice,loving or caring guy but all they want is the best looking guy thats perfect in every way i mean come on it never hurts just to know the guy but nope thats how they are. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 9:51:15 AM | I agree that you should change your online name. No offense, but a change in hairstyle would enhance your appearance. You are a good looking guy but just need the hair looked at and maybe the brows. Use spellcheck on your profile. Just my opinion....we all wish for overnight success on dating sites but that's pretty rare.
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:19:32 PM | Jersey Devil--
I think you're wrong!! I think women may well have a harder time connecting. I always thought men had more to chose from than us women.
But I agree -- I have been posted, got a couple responses, but still waiting for someone to be interested. I THINK I have what it takes to be good on a date and in a relationship. But like you, going nowhere. And I really want to go somewhere!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:40:19 PM | | Face it dude when comes to this on line dating thing.... it's THEIR world! For every woman there are a million dudes trying to get her attention, not to mention other women trying their luck too. Then you have to realize most women pick the WRONG guy so you can just keep trying or look else where. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:41:56 PM | Devan606,
Women have a harder time connecting?! Lets be realistic here. Anyone on this site knows that these beautiful, attractive women, can have ANY guy eating out of the palm of her hand like a deer. The problem is, the majority, are shallow. You could be the sweetest guy, have everything in common with her, and still get denied cause of how you look. We do have a lot to chose from, but the results are pretty disappointing for the most part. I'm not saying men aren't shallow, cause we can be, but saying women have a harder time is ridiculous. If you did an estimate i guarentee, that on this and other dateing sites, most of the singles on there are men. Why is it, that you always hear women saying they get hundreads of emails a day? Have you ever heard a guy say that he gets hundreads of women emailing him a day? All the ones i've seen(including myself) talk about how they get views and send out emails, but get no reply. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 3:11:56 PM | Yeah right 100+ emails a day...in their dream world.
1 a month is about what I average, I think the ones with a ton of messages are rare regardless if they are male or female. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 3:16:31 PM |
Women have a harder time connecting?! Lets be realistic here. Anyone on this site knows that these beautiful, attractive women, can have ANY guy eating out of the palm of her hand like a deer. The problem is, the majority, are shallow. You could be the sweetest guy, have everything in common with her, and still get denied cause of how you look. We do have a lot to chose from, but the results are pretty disappointing for the most part. I'm not saying men aren't shallow, cause we can be, but saying women have a harder time is ridiculous........
I think BOTH genders have a hard time. and yes, I hear what you are saying Jersey.
What glitters is not always gold. I was a sub on a sand volley ball team a couple of years ago and there was a gal on there that the guys would quite literally trip over themselves and drool over. Yes, she was a Kelly Ripa look-alike with the blonde hair and pretty blue eyes, a nice figure, wore the short shorts and low tank tops.
Over time, all of a sudden the guys weren't so eager to get her attention. When I asked my friend Dan why, he said she pretty much dated all the guys including himself on the league. He described the date as walking on eggshells at best. - His original plan was to go to dinner, go to a movie, and maybe go to a coffee house and have coffee or dessert after that. He wound up taking her to a nice place in the Old Market Area of Omaha for dinner and she basically acted like a total b*tch during dinner. - complained about everything. So afterward, they took a stroll in the Old Market and he cut the evening short by saying he needed to be to work early the next morning and took her home.
In short, sure, she was pretty on the outside, but very very ugly on the outside. Remember, the eye candy/trophy you may have on your arm may look really nice today, but in a few years the looks will fade and what will you really have???? Good conversation? Intelligence? or vanity? You choose.
You want to date and be with quality people inside and out. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 3:36:22 PM | "You want to date and be with quality people inside and out."
Quoted for truth. I wish more people were as smart as this guy. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 10:01:46 PM | | thats kinda funny and the thing is I hear that everyday and I would be a rich man for every time I hear someone says that, I taxed them a quarter. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 7:05:04 PM | I can't really remember how long I have had my account for, but no luck for me. The only messages that I get are. I'm so jealous of that photo of you and GSP. I can't believe you got to meet him, etc.
Or: I notice that you compete in MMA. Do you plan on trying to make the UFC? Or when will we see you in the UFC.
I tell them that I train for sports and recreation and don't want to go pro, that I’m trying to get into law enforcement. They just read then delete the message. I don't really care anymore. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 8:00:23 PM | I don't know what wrong with me other than my divorce not being finalized?
I speak three languages, I am in better shape than when I was 22, I am a professional, and my child is grown.
I have no STDs, no ghosts, and can cook like the best of chefs.
I would swear that women want a man that is totally illsuited in the hopes of changing him to someone like me.
Maybe a monastary is just the place for me.
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