gg58
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:02:17 AM | I don't know maybe, it's just me. I am looking for someone that when you see him/her
the attaraction is there instantly just like when i had my first crush when i was 16. I guess it doesn't happpen now....i have never seen or met a man that really keeps my heart beating faster. What do you think? I guess, i'm just delusional!!! | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:41:28 AM | Qq58 finding Love at first site still happens, but you are not 16 any more and you are a beautiful woman now. Who now knows what she wants. You are not delusional, your expectations have gone up, and it is no longer just a physical attraction that makes your heart beat faster. That man must be able intellectually simulate you. The mind is beautiful thing. Your fish is out there, do not give up.
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gg58
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Joined: 5/25/2009
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:58:10 AM | | thanks beachtigger.....i guess you are right my standards have gone or i'm just scared. Two years after an abusive relationship i become a recluse, scared to have a relationship just in case it might happen again. I just want someone to love and someone who will love me back for what i am. anyway, thanks again | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 2:13:30 AM | I awoke one morning at 40 and couldn't read the phone book, and that was 12 years ago. So, no I don't believe in love at first sight. Hell, I can't see across the room!!!
To have a worthwhile relationship, you are going to have to get to KNOW someone hon. And it does take hard work, and yes sometimes it doesn't work out, and thankfully sometimes it does. I believe we can be physically attracted to someone at first sight, but I couldn't see myself basing and planning an entire relationship on looks alone.
Being reclusive isn't going to solve your dilemma, nor is fear. Understanding the underlying factors about yourself that may be attracting abusive men into your life would be far more benificial.
All the best to you. | |
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gg58
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Joined: 5/25/2009
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:03:24 AM | No one deserves abuse and should walk away as soon as possible, maybe even run. Everyone out here is searching for love, romance, laughter, and spice of the unknown, that special touch that lights up your eyes and brings that beautiful smile to your face. Never hide from finding love. It is out there and IT is looking for you.
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:53:19 AM | | Love at first sight is possible at ANY AGE! However, it's possible that the "LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT" is infatuation and lust. Most people, particularly men (in my experience) are visual. In other words, they think with their anatomical units rather than their brain...therefore, the Love at first sight. Come on, we should all know at our age that relationships take time. Lust is momentary...almost like a one night stand..The Love at first sight thing happened to me with a person I met at the local hangout where I live..but months later realized that he really "wasn't into me" (See post, "How do you know if a guy isn't into you?"). So, it's basically a judgment call, and see how things transpire through time. I'm not "into" the infatuation stuff or one night stands...Even though most of us are visual, there are more important qualities that I look at besides the physical.I look inside a person's heart, what they say, how they act..to me that's more important than all the physical attraction stuff. | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:00:26 AM | | Love is always love at first sight. The first time you really see who someone is, you love them. To know them is to love them. People need to protect themselves from loving people who would harm them, so, we have the habit of being careful about whom we ever really look at to see who they really are. If you don't discriminate you wind up seeing everyone as they are, loving them, and getting caught up in some tragic tales. Dating is for making sure it's OK to stop and take that first real look, see them for who they are. Sometimes at our age, and frequently when young, your guard is down and you are open to noticing someone, so you can't help but start to fall in love. If you don't catch yourself, in you go. By now being old, wise and with nothing much left to lose that death won't have soon anyway, you can be easier about looking at people, seeing them clearly, responding to them, falling in love, and then decide whether to back out, if you find that you just fell in love with someone who cracks their knuckles or forgets the endings of jokes half way through. | |
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gg58
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Joined: 5/25/2009
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:14:54 AM | | thanks for all your opinions. It's just that i'm not a bad looking woman...here in POF get a lot of messages, of course, i reply and that's it! Never met anyone because i back off, for some reason. I feel like i don't need anyone, but why am i here for. My social life is very good, i dance a lot, i sing and i have a good laugh with my female friends. I'm just wondering why am still without anyone?? | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:16:36 AM |
I'm just wondering why am still without anyone??
That is a question ONLY YOU, deep inside where you know you very well, can answer.
Seriously.
We can say to others' all our attributes.. sing our praises.. etc.
But only ourself knows ourself and has the answers for ourself. | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:21:08 AM | Ooops, I commented on one of OP's statements and forgot to answer the love at first sight question.
I think 'love at first sight' is more of a physical reaction, than anything else.
A mental and/or heart reaction would be better labeled 'love at first knowing'. | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:35:14 AM | I think love at first sight exist but it isnt better or more lasting than starting out as friends and developing a mutual love.
I don't feel it is just lust either, I think people can feel connected to another person and if they allow themselves to really get to know the other person the sky the limit, however some only want to flirt with the concept and they bring people into their lives and then want them to take a holding pattern...that is what happens alot online...you met someone but they arent really seriously interested in a relationship, sure they want one but they are afraid to get hurt again they want it instant just to happen...and well that aint happening! | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:41:37 AM | | That one abusive relationship is plenty to inhibit your first sight love impulse. Now you are afraid to be so sure so fast, considering what happened with Mister Misery. Older, wiser, slower to fall, knowing better than to go by first impressions, wondering if you can trust infatuation anymore. What it takes to get back to being gullible, I mean, open hearted, is knowing that you can handle bad surprises anyway. If you learned to swim you need not be afraid to jump in the water. | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:47:52 AM | | I think a lot of it is the difference in hormones and chemical reactions that occur between our younger ages and our more advanced ages. Sure there are emotional factors but this immediate sweeping feeling you recall probably was something more physiological than emotional. The "symptoms" of infatuation have been scientifically shown to be identical to the effects of Cocaine which is significant because it shows that the feeling can be chemically induced and that at one point it probably was when our brains and bodies functioned that way naturally. | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:07:06 AM | There is not such thing as love at first sight.. That is something you just thought when you were younger because you did not really know what true love was about. Now that you are older you realize it has little to do with love and everything to do with lust..
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 9:18:08 AM | RanRan said:
I believe love at first sight is a hormonal thing
Well he is right except it is lust and it is indeed a hormonal thing!! However you most certainly can still feel it in your 50's. I imagine will still feel it happening in my 60's as well.
RanRan am surprised you have not felt it?
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 9:29:42 AM | | I went to watch a mate's blues band play at a country pub today. There was a petite Asian woman of 40something, talking with another couple. I was half watching the band and half watching her. She wasn't a stunning beauty, but there was something about her that took my eye. It wasn't quite a case of "I did but see her passing by..." but damn she was hot in so many ways! | |
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| Love at first sight? It doesn't happen anymore in our age?
Posted: 6/14/2009 9:37:14 AM |
I went to watch a mate's blues band play at a country pub today. There was a petite Asian woman of 40something, talking with another couple. I was half watching the band and half watching her. She wasn't a stunning beauty, but there was something about her that took my eye. It wasn't quite a case of "I did but see her passing by..." but damn she was hot in so many ways! This just seems a case you were attracted to someone. Doesn't 'love at first sight' have to be a mutual thing....locking eyes across a crowded room, that kind of thing??? | |
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