| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:59:57 PM | Ok - ladies and gentlemen - this is a first thread post for me, and oh how I wish it was for something positive. Unfortunately, it is not.
I met up with an individual from this site who felt quite comfortable stealing every bit of cash I had in my purse. Furthermore, he then depleated my laundry funds of multiple quarters and loonies to zero before leaving my home.
Do I need to run the plates of every man I meet from here on in to see if his word is worth anything? Or is the quality and moral values on this site going downhill so fast I should leave while I still have my bankcard in my possession?
Is this happening to other women out there? Hello? | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:10:27 PM | Well you shouldn't let him come over to your house upon first meeting. He could've been a lot worse than stealing your laundry funds.
Meet somewhere in public, and don't go to his house or have him at your house 'til you've gotten to know eachother better. (I mean over a period of days or preferrably weeks, not hours or minutes). | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:14:59 PM | OP...
How could he rob your purse of cash and your laundry money?
Are you saying you brought him home on a first date??
If that is the case....its a very foolish thing to do.
PS: No guy I've ever met here has stolen from me. I get to know them REAL well before I allow them into my home.
Mabe you should too.
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:15:54 PM | OP - thats a felony you should report to the police, if you already haven't!
Now why would you (or anyone) invite another person over to their house for a first meet btw? I thought it was a sort of given common sense that you meet at a public place first.? ... Now he knows where you live and may have any other vital info that he snatched along w/ him too! ~ Always put your safety first! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:28:08 PM | In 2003 I started dating an old boyfriend who I knew. Or thought I knew. After seeing each other for some time he cleaned out my apartment one night while my daughter and I were at a movie. She was 5. He stole all of our cds and dvds, as it turned out he had fallen back into an old drug habit. But it is a time that neither of us will forget.
After that I did pay attention to who I dated and their behaviour. However...
I knew him. At least, I thought I did. Do I need to nail and bolt everthing I own to the floor and go around in this city wondering who wants to rip the gold cain off my neck for a few bucks?
The purse and laundry money were in separate locations and taken at different times on the same date. Now...what do you suggest... | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:28:47 PM |
Do I need to run the plates of every man I meet from here on in to see if his word is worth anything
Only the ones you intend to give an opportunity to steal from you. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:34:38 PM | I suppose this is what happens when you invite strange people over to your home.
This has never happened to me.
Perhaps you've learned a valuable lesson. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:42:58 PM | Just because you have the knack for picking losers doesn't lend mean that pof is responsible in any way!
there's losers all around you.
Don't blame pof for anyone's actions that pof has no control over! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 4:43:52 PM | Well seeing how it's happened more then once, what responsibility do you take for letting these people have so much access to your valuables?
I got ripped off from someone I met on here a few years ago. Couple hundred in cash and a few hoodies. When it comes down to it, it was my fault for leaving her at my place while I went to work. I took a chance and lost...
As they say, a fool and their money will soon part!
I guess I'm just glad I don't go straight to the "victim roll" when I make fecked up choices and end up paying the consequences! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:12:50 PM | | It was bound to happen. I'm sure he just got bent out of shape by all the threads here about who should pay for coffee. Now he can keep dating until the funds run out. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:44:31 PM | Are you rehashing the story from 2003 or are you saying you let it happen to you twice? As an intelligent educated parent why are you giving away the keys to your place and bringing people you obviously do not know very well into your home and giving them an opportunity to steal from you?
Here's a word of advice: Fix your profile and get your daughters picture and description off it because you are inviting trouble. As a teacher, I am astounded that you would put your kid out there like that. Your profile reads like that of someone that wants people to play games with her life. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:53:04 PM | ONLY one time have I let someone from a dating site into my home the first time. After the first email, I found out he was the brother of one of my church friends LOL.
I would NEVER EVER meet a guy for the first time at my home address.
First rule of internet dating is to meet at some neutral location; NOT your home.. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 6:13:29 PM | | here is a positive about ur story. at least he was a thief not a serial killer. why would you invite some one to ur house on a first date? ever heard of public places. there is alot of perverted ppl on and offline ....lesson learned I hope | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:27:02 PM | OP:
This site is free. Members don't have to prove their bona fides to register here. You know what that New Yorker cartoon says: Nobody knows you're a dog on the Internet. Didn't Tori Stafford's murderer have a PoF profile too?
Your "date" proved his lack of quality and moral values by his actions. It's only through a person's actions that we are able to learn about someone's quality of character and moral fiber. Words, emails, chat, text are just blah blah blah.
You put yourself at serious risk by inviting the gentleman in question to your home. What's worse is that you put your daughter at risk too. How many degrees do you need before you grasp the concept of common sense?
SARL | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:42:18 PM | I agree with most of the above. Why would anyone, esp. someone with a child, invite a stranger into their home? And then leave them unsupervised?
You'll be lucky if he doesn't come back for your tv and dvd player. Or your kid.
Jeezus, be more careful, would you?! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:51:29 PM | | I agree with others on this thread.... always meet in a public place. never ever bring or let anyone from the internet in your home... you could report him. but if cash and some change is all it was. then there's not much the cops can do... it is a crime. but no real proof other then e-mails or a few phone calls won't hold a conviction... sorry about your loss. but atleast it is a replaceable loss. and the most you can do. is hope he doesn't return... if he does then report him to the cops... they will handle it from there... | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:12:02 AM | OP,
To stay away from "losers" is too vague for advice.
But the common theme is addiction. It is likely what both men had in common was addiction (one could be drugs, the other gamling so sometimes it's hard to tell). So as you experienced, whether you knew the man for a day or a year, the end result is the same. They will steal from you to feed their addiction. It's not personal as they would do that to their families, their friends, their coworkers etc... given the chance.
This is why not trusting them with your wallet, your home, your keys is important. Ultimately, trust is over rated. It should be earned, not given nor demanded.
Second, I agree, kids (even the mention of kids) on your profile is dangerous. Kids have no business having their pictures on a dating site.
Last, as I discussed with someone before, the problem with dating sites is we don't know the person's friends, family and neighbors who can give us character references before we meet. So due diligence is HUGE especially as a single parent.
Hang in there.
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:44:27 AM | Sorry you got the impression I was blaming pof? Not really sure where you got that impression. I merely posted this to exemplify the experience I had.
It is dam shame to see people on this site so negative and self-righteous.
I am a teacher, certified in Primary/Junior education. At no point did I claim to know it ALL as a teacher. And as far as my daughter goes - excuse me for being a human being and mother who would like to enjoy life beyond a crappy marriage.
Good luck in going forward...since apparently backward seems to be a favored position for so many fish in this pond!
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:08:57 PM | | And we in turn presented you with our experiences. Not being surprised is not the same as being negative. Advising a fello poster to be safe and think twice before opening her door or introducing her child is not being self righteous. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:27:15 PM | Oh my...AGAIN...my child was not here when this occurred....nor were we present the last time. Somewhere the point of this post was lost - so lets just call it a day.
 the end. | |
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