| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:38:43 PM | Last night,I was talking to a guy online we chatted about different topics until our conversation went to travels.When he knew that im going to travel again this September he said" oh youve just been for holidays last month, then youre going to travel again in few months? I said "yes" and he told me "whoaah! how many times you travel in a year?I said"when my friends and I feel like it then we just go sometimes two times or more in a year" our conversation lasted there.
This is not happened once but thrice already that everytime a man asked about my what I liked to do for fun and found out that I like to travel it seems that they were surprised or shocked?
I onced chatted a man he was nice one week before I went for my holidays with my friend we met, he liked me for sure then we were seeing each other for awhile-then after few months me and friends decided to travel again..same questions like the other guy..when he knew that I travel lot it seems he wasnt impressed.He never talked to me when I came back from my holidays.
Same happened to the other guy--he told me"youre such a world traveller and we never talked again.
My questions to men..does a woman who spend too much holidays in a year scares you off???
The guy asked me last night--how do you get those time/days for your holidays?I said"i have lots of banked OT's so I take those banked OTs.
He was quite and end the conversation after. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:51:27 PM | There are some people don't like to travel much, or would if they could, but lack of money or their work denies them the opportunity.
Some would find a romantic relationship strained when their partner travels often when they can't or won't.
So you only need to connect with a man who both likes to travel often and is able to, then you two can jaunt over the planet together.
Be sure to mention in your profile that you travel often. Currently you don't list travel in your list of interests and your profile description is devoted only to NHL hockey.
It is no wonder you're getting frustrated. Describe yourself better! | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:56:01 PM | What do I care if a women travels alot?
She has her own mind and chances are she weaseled her way into job that lets her do that amount of travel.
Datable maybe,, LTR never. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:58:28 PM | lol why LTR never? can you tell me why?
...i work 4 days ON and 5 days off....as what i said when i want to travel i take it OUT in my banked OTs or I do swap changed with co-workers.I work a LOT of OTs so a weaseled worker is NOT for me. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:52:03 PM | Very good question! I used to find when I was in my 20's, if I met some guy and went out on couple of dates with them and then went away on a long weekend to visit family, I wouldn't hear from them again.
A male friend explained it to me once but I no longer remember what he said.
Anyways, I can guess what your job is because I have the same or a related one and weasels wouldn't want it.
Easy peasy with the number of days off and banked OT to get the time off to travel.
Hang in there, there are all kinds of fish in the sea, maybe you will meet a like minded traveler or a less needy man. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:12:27 PM | I don't understand their problem. So you travel? So what...
Hmmm... Maybe its something along the lines of you being well off enough to afford to travel and that makes them feel inadequate somehow? Or maybe because you went off and left them behind and they feel left out? I dunno, stretching here. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:22:24 AM | Maybe it is because they think you make more money than they do if you can afford to travel so frequently and have a job with lots of time off and that intimidates them.
They won't be able to keep you in the style to which you are accustomed and they won't be able to join you and they won't want you to go without them because they will worry about what you are up to? | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:31:02 AM |
She has her own mind and chances are she weaseled her way into job that lets her do that amount of travel.
But of course! Having our own mind almost always leads to us "weasling" our way into a good job! | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:27:13 AM | I thinks it's fantastic. It is a sign that a person is interested in seeing places and doing things. It also shows that a person has a work ethic and they are prepared to go that little extra distance to gain a nicer reward for the fruits of their toil.
There is one exception however. That is the listless vagabond train wreck (male/female), that wastes all their youth flitting about the world, then they wake up one day realizing they are aging quickly and penniless. To avoid a life of penury, they try to sink their fangs into the nearest solvent homeowner, and find a way of stealing half of their victims house.
It is however very easy to tell the traveler apart from the listless vagabond. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:48:51 AM | You're talking with guys who have read that you are a hockey fan.. those type of guys! Naturally they would be taken aback to hear that you fly the coop alot.
Put it in your profile to attract men who would respect this facet of yourself. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:18:38 AM | It is a matter of availability, free time and money mostly and ones pursuit of interests.
Most people are perhaps not so fortunate to make time or have extra cash to travel and some do have different interests.
It is always difficult to guess why someone would have a problem with your traveling. Some who are in their 20ties-to 30ties may have other goals, building a career, saving/paying for a home or raising children. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:18:40 AM | thank you all for the replies.
I dont know where I start but I really wish that viper will answer my quiz.One guy told me that too--im just"datetable" not for 'LTR" as he said i am belong to those women who are in "high maintenance"--its too bad he JUDGED me but its not my problem anymore.
I like Debra's (message # 8) input.Who knows some men will worry what I am up to but, come on im single..im free...I work hard...I dont ask anyone's money--its MY money not HIS.
Ive learned from my dad that I have to go to school, finished my study,find a job, and earn money so that when you finally settled--im not going to depend to my husband"he said "so that your husband will not put you on his "pocket"(<---his culture's saying(lol) that means my hubby wont control me--i dont know what that means.
mister frisky you are right..you got it.Thats my purpose why I travel a lot.I want to reward myself of working so hard.I know how to spend my money wisely.
Me and my friends went to Vegas one time--all of them spent thier money in casinos,while me I was happy taking pictures of the strips.One friend lost $2,000.00 in a night--I couldnt sleep--I felt it was a huge money to waste.But they just laughed at me--I dont even want to waste $20.00 bucks in gambling.Well actually, I tried the slot machine but didnt know how to play I lost my 20 bucks in 5 mins.( I cried)I went back to the bar by myself while my friends playing at the casino. Spent 50 bucks in drinks ..crawling back to our hotel room drunk-..having a slurred speech due to -too many Jack Daniels next day had an ice on my head because of the hangover.
I am enjoying my life while im still single because I know that once I settles down--these
extra activities of mine while be lessen and will focus my life into a new chapter.
once again, thanks all for the replies--it gives me some knowledge. | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 12:27:22 PM |
I dont know where I start but I really wish that viper will answer my quiz.One guy told me that too--im just"datetable" not for 'LTR" as he said i am belong to those women who are in "high maintenance"--its too bad he JUDGED me but its not my problem anymore.
If I can offer another perspective- if I were looking to set up a long-term relationship with someone and they were away (for example) 2-3weeks several times a year, I'd be annoyed. Travelling for work is part of the job, travelling for fun is a choice. If I'm working full time, I can't spontaneously take off on trips - holiday time has to be booked at the beginning of the year in a lot of jobs. Just the planning and co-ordinating involved around work, kid(s), the house- it's a lot of work to set up.
Maybe it's selfish, but if I'm intending to be with someone long term, I'd like to factor into the 'off' time, too.
For someone who has the luxury to take these holidays and not worry about who's taking care of the house/kids/job, great! Go for it. Just don't be surprised by those of us who can't participate. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 1:48:05 PM | thegirlintheforum . My guess is that the few men who you have had bad experiences with due to your frequent flier miles reflects their problem with fear,trust and posession. They fear a long term relationship with you because you may in future reject them if they cannot match your scheadule. When you are on vacation with your girlfriends they do not trust you to not see/sleep with other men and how can they control you if you take wing and fly whenever you want? Just an educated guess. I did not look at your profile so I do not know your age but I suggest that you travel as much as you can when you are young. Do not leave it all till retirement because you may have ill health,or just lose the intrest over the years. If you are serious about someone and he cannot match your time off or finances try to go on day trips, weekends or convinvce him to take a day off here and there and have extended weekends. Hopefully he will be secure enough to be comfortable when you leave him behind at times. I can understand your situation as I work day and night on the weekends and have Sun eve. till Fri. aft to go R.Ving. The lady I date works during the week and even some weekends. I park my class B Motorhome in Vancouver sometimes during the week so we can see each other after she gets off work. Sometimes I camp in W.A. during the week and she goes camping with her girlfriends. Then we both plan a time where we both take a day or two off to add to our regular days off and spend 4 days togeather. Seems to work for us. Not the best but we make do.:  | |
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| what do you think of a woman who travels a lot?
Posted: 6/16/2009 2:05:11 PM | I think a person that travels a lot is probably interested in checking out the planet and the people of the world.
I think a person that would judge you for spending your banked OT and money on something you love isn't worth worrying about. Congrats on the self discipline to work OT, to save it and and save enough money to travel.
As for people that come up comments like this:
She has her own mind and chances are she weaseled her way into job that lets her do that amount of travel.
I'd say run (or fly) far far away from them. How dare anyone assume you 'weaseled' anything and what kind of employer has any influence on what you do when you're off duty anyway?
Personally, if my employer tried to 'let me' or not 'let me' do anything on my time off, I'd be looking for another job and thinking of filing harassment charges. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 7:30:11 PM | | well you seem like the type of girl i would love to meet on here i am actually on vacation right now lol. I go ATLEAST 3 times a year if possible. If a girl could travel that often there would be sooo much more to talk about! and if a girl travels or golfs shes on my list to talk to!! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 12:58:56 AM | "He never talked to me when I came back from my holidays."
Saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay whaaaaaaaaaaaaat.
Never talked to you, when you came back from your holidays????????????????
S h i t, I would think that he would at least take an interest in, how much you enjoyed your holidays, where ya went, what did ya see, what ya liked about what ya seen.
Hey, if ya LOVE traveling so much, and ya can do it, then just go do it, and enjoy it.
However tho, it can make it hard on a relationship, thats the only draw back to it. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 1:01:30 AM | OP: Congrats to you ....on your work ethics!
So, you love to travel. Great! You have lots of friends that do, too.
You work extra hours to be able to do what it is you want to do,
for fun and leisure. You sound very responsible. Could you possibly sound
"irresponsible" to some men? Perhaps this may be what
might amount to a bit of your "problem" with some men looking for LTR.
Maybe they do not see or hear "responsibility" from you.
Sure, you work and work hard. What about "saving" some of your money?
RRSP's... and such. For example: Are you saving for a home/or do you already own one.
Do these men form an opinion that you are not being a "smart cookie"?
Spending ALL your extra money on FUN FUN FUN? You are 28, correct? You are wanting to "settle down" or not,
in the near future?
It is none of my business, how you spend your hard-earned pay.
You have only asked for opinions.
For me: when I view a man's profile that clearly states he travels a lot
(to me, that would be like 3x's or more a year).... I click "Next".
I simply can not afford to know him. I have more pre-vailing responsibilities
to myself and my family, to save most of my extra coin for.
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Posted: 6/17/2009 8:08:51 AM | I'm assuming you mean more than weekend junkets to Las Vegas, or Seattle or something, but are talking about week or two at a time for a vacation.
My guess would be that they don't feel they could travel as much as you, and that they aren't comfortable entering into a relationship in which you'd curtail your traveling for them, or they'd be left home while you are off on vacation regularly. My ability to travel is limited by time and money, and that's how I feel when I read a man's profile in which he talks about going on vacations several times a year. I wouldn't call this being intimidated exactly; more like recognizing a different lifestyle which would not be compatible with their own. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 8:55:10 AM | Don`t even consider negative responses to your travel choices. ANYONE would travel,be it near or far if they had the time and means. You make your own choices. If you want to travel and enjoy your self instead of paying a $2, 500.00 a month mortgage at this time Great. If someone in their 50`s is telling you that they don`t travel because they have to save for a house and start R.R.S.P`s well, I think they missed the boat. I have traveled in every kind of R.V. there is and many motorcycles which covered most of North America when I was younger. I always took my girlfriend or wife when I married and have no regrets. I still managed to buy two houses and toys. Now in my 50`s I`m wanting to travel as much as I can. Find someone who works the same flexible hours as you do and you will not only have a travel mate but also a mate in life.  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 10:19:22 AM | morning people.
Ive read some replies thanks to those people who contribute thier input--I still didnt get the answer to those people who just want to move to "next".I want to know why--its not going to solve your fear if you just walk away,judge me,or you didnt give yourself or each other a chance to know each other before just walk away.
You know what--its not my problem if someone will judge me or just say "next".
It just give me a smile and im thinking a "chicken boy" or full of insecurities.
I also cant blame those people who just dont want to continue or sees me as "carefree/careless" woman.
At age 28,young and free,living the "life to the (foolish) fullest" and some men think not good for LTR because they think no future for this woman as all I have to do is just fly and see the world leaving them hanging with (if ever with kids) etc.
Well, youre wrong!
Come on---why not DATE and get to know me first before jumping into the conclusion?.
It takes a STRONG MAN- a MATURE MAN who has a wide understanding who has PATIENCE then he COULD HAVE ME(no pun intended).
It makes me wonder why they are scared of me--as i dont really care --the question is do you think, im going to like them either?.
I am enjoying my life and I like my singleness but if there's a chance that someone likes to date me then why not--I go out and date them.
Here's a little secret to me guys.
I dont even know if I want to marry because one reason is:I dont want to share my income to my husband.I work hard to reached where I am now.I am also scared for what happened to one of my friend--she earned more money than her husband then they got divorced--her husband sucked out all his income and properties.
How sad is that--you worked hard for your living then here came along a "parasite" and took away the fruit of your hardships?
I am a responsible person and I know how to spend my money wisely.I grew up with full of discipline from my parents.
I have savings--enough for my future just in case if I want to settle down.
I am prepared for my future--but who will be "fit" in to all of these?
Im not really worried if I have no man-- for now, i am enjoying my life to the fullest.
Abacus-thanks for your advice.I am enjoying my life while im still young while my knees still strong to climb the mountain of Athens just to see the Parthenon or while I can still carry a heavy bag on my back and do a backpack trip in Costa Rica or hike in the amazon of Brazil.So that when my arthritis strikes on me..I am happy to rest myself in a rocking chair in the Nursing Home and looked back that"ive seen the world"! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 12:41:21 PM | OP, let's imagine for moment that despite our age difference and the miles between us, that we might otherwise be a perfect match for each other. Only after spending some time with you do I learn that you travel often. Alas I'm not in a position where I can do that, so you would be going alone, or at least without me. Consequently there would be many gaps in our relationship while you go off on your trips. In my opinion relationships should be mutually enjoyable... for you and for me
Rest assured, I wouldn't begrudge you the luxury of your trips. You've worked hard and saved up for it and deserve to enjoy it.
Yet I ask, should I stuff a pillow into your Canucks jersey and pretend it is you sitting beside me when I cheer on the Canucks? Would you expect me to frolic with your pillow while you are gone?
Anyone reading your profile will get the impression you do nothing but watch hockey on TV or perhaps attend hockey games in person. I think you do yourself a disservice by not mentioning your travel habits in your profile. If you reveal your travel habits I think you will increase the probability of finding a man with similar interests.
There are men who both like to travel and are able to, so does it not make sense to work towards attracting them? | |
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