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| Too strong to be fake, too Soon to be real
Posted: 6/15/2009 1:22:14 AM | | Well, I met a girl on POF. and I fell for her. and I fell hard. We would talk for hours, everything seemed to line up. I mean everything was perfect. I thought that this girl is the perfect girl for me, and I knew it was really soon to say that but it was impossible to think otherwise. I died for the chance to hear her voice. I wanted to do everything I could to sweep her off her feet and move on together. Well we managed to spend a total of about 5 hours together. and none of it alone, always with her friends, which made me a little shy as we didnt get to talk much in person. and apparently she has nothing for me and I get second prize, friendship. Has anyone else had to deal with this? how does it make you feel? | |
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| Too strong to be fake, too Soon to be real
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:31:03 AM | You said you guys talked for hours, was this every day over a week? 2 weeks? 2 months? That information would help the rest of us decipher this a bit better.
It sucks to get caught up in the "group outing." You would have been better off asking her out on a 1-on-1 date. If you knew beforehand that your game suffers in the company of a prospect's friends, you should have been honest with yourself and never let that happen. Remember, you don't get a 2nd chance at making a 1st (real life) impression.
Once you're in the friend zone, 95% of the times it's too late pal.
On the bright side, next time you fall for a new girl, make sure your 1st meeting is 1-on-1. I know this advice might sting a little, but trust me, in 3 months, 6 months, maybe even 3 weeks from now, a similar situation will arise and you will have the chance to redeem yourself. That is how life works, my friend. We take the same courses until we pass them. And some of us are taking the same classes over and over again. | |
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| Too strong to be fake, too Soon to be real
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:58:51 AM | Maybe, when she's in the mood for some depth, she calls you. When she wants light, fluffy fun, she hangs with her friends (which you are one of), but, in a light, fluffy social setting, you can't go deep. She's "compartmentalizing" certain people in certain situations, and this is perfectly normal.
Ask her out on a one-on-one date. If she declines, you have your answer--she's not interested in you for that and you have to accept your "place" in her mind and heart, a friend. If she accepts, rage on and enjoy her for all it's worth! | |
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| Too strong to be fake, too Soon to be real
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:49:16 PM | One day, you may grow-up to realize the prize you believed to be second was first.
You don't seem to realize that you created your entire experience in your head, by your self.
Remember, everything was perfect.
How can anything that is perfect be anything less than perfect? It can't. | |
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