| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:52:28 PM | | A date, what is that? I have written books descibing myself and mashed my profile every which way. Still very little if any responces. So I ask, am I one of the walking dead? Someone doomed to sleep alone unwanted because he does not fit the mold? I say mold as I have four things that seem to kill any chance of a responce or followup; I own my own struggling company rather than be one of the sheep, so I don't have ready cash to waist, I live with my parnets, also co-owners to save on expenses, I am not a church antendee and I have no children. Between that and wanting somene in my own weight class, I feel I am the walking dead! Not to be touched as in there reality I'm a self centered, mooch and a heathen scrub to boot! To bad that's not the case, but It seems no one care's to dig any deeper than Scrub! | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:49:43 PM | The business is probably fine. If you're cheap, that's an issue, but if you're simply frugal, then it's fine. Any woman that doesn't understand you not spending $500 a night entertaining her probably is a bad catch anyway.
Living with the parents, probably a bad thing. Rent a room elsewhere, there's no shame in it (IMO renting a full apartment alone is kind of wasteful).
Church is less of an issue now than it used to be. Still, respect that others do have religious views and yes, it lowers your chances a bit,
No children is probably beneficial, not detrimental. Dating is hard enough, dating a single parent can be harder than most want to deal with (though I'd be fine with it).
You may want to read the Profile Review Tips and FAQs. Also, spelling correctly seems to be a turn on these days.
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/17/2009 4:47:59 PM | | It's the living with your parents part. I could never date a grown man who lives with his parents. I have a hard time with guys who have millions of room mates. Maybe you should give up your company, get a real job and get your own place. Just my opinion. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:27:45 PM | I find three out of four of those things plusses, not minuses ... what's killing you is
1. Your attitude about your situation (it goes against LoA)
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2. You live with your parents (Sorry, but it's the truth)
I suggest you pick up some books on the law of attraction and change your attitude. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:47:18 PM | You know there's nothing wrong with how you are in life and what you do or live.
Get myself in trouble here who cares they don't want me either and if the women out there aren't willing to at least talk or meet, then there just basing it on the kind of looks they want the guy to have and there the ones loosen out.
Keep your head up. If they don't want you for who you are, then you don't want that one beside you either.
Good luck. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/18/2009 7:48:57 AM | | instead of finding fault with your situation and justifying what is happening because of your perceptions about yourself, try to focus on what is good about you and in your life. cultivate gratitude for what you have...and when you give thanks for all you have, and give freely to others what you yourself wish to have in your life, karma will act in your favor...yup. gotta have faith in that IMO. oh, and lose the smug attitude about owning your own company as compared to "sheep"...arrogance is not attractive. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:09:24 AM | Here's an idea: Quit worrying about finding a woman and start working on yourself more. Yeah, I'm talking exercise, hobbies, creating a better you that you are happy with. Women can sense lack of confidence, and your post is just SCREAMING lack of confidence. Find the things that YOU like to do and go after them with a gusto and usually everything else falls into place.
And quit feeling sorry for yourself. Nothing more unattractive then that! | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:18:13 AM | | Your profile should be what they look up after you send them an email. It's not for them to find you. You have to go looking. You find one you want to talk to, send her an email and then she looks to see who wrote it. There is no contacting you cold to dig deeper. There is only glancing at your profile to see if there is any reason to shut you down as you try to get somewhere. They have their preferences about what they like. Be yourself, but don't show off any flaws or complain about your luck so far. Smile, wear a clean shirt, say something that can start a conversation, then if they like you so far, they might reply. After a while doing that you'll get more selective about whom you contact. Meanwhile, you will have met someone in person elsewhere and so none of this matters. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:44:59 AM | I used to feel the same way, then I realized I was the common denominator in all the failures and rejections. I realized that I didn't really want the relationship enough. I'm set in my ways, I don't want to change, I have enough crap on my own plate and don't really want to deal with some ones elses. Once I accepted that the reasons I was, as you put it, the walking dead, and I was actually happy with who I was, well I came to life. I have lots of great friends and enjoy my life.
We are not the walking dead. We just prefer to walk our own path. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 11:15:37 AM | | If you find yourself desiring fresh, raw brains, then yes, you are the walking dead. If not, then you are like 99% of people on POF. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 11:22:19 AM |
Here's an idea: Quit worrying about finding a woman and start working on yourself more. Yeah, I'm talking exercise, hobbies, creating a better you that you are happy with. Women can sense lack of confidence, and your post is just SCREAMING lack of confidence. Find the things that YOU like to do and go after them with a gusto and usually everything else falls into place.
And quit feeling sorry for yourself. Nothing more unattractive then that!
Agree...totally! | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 11:40:57 AM | avalonswan,
I own my own struggling company rather than be one of the sheep, so I don't have ready cash to waist, I live with my parnets, also co-owners to save on expenses, I am not a church antendee and I have no children.
First, your spelling is way off... not a good thing for a guy in his 30s or 40s, when your demographic is more in the "professional" range.
Second, you live with your parents. Not a good thing. Don't expect anything online. I understand you don't have much money, but hey, I'd rather be a "sheep" (just another employee at a company) with REAL money, than be an owner of a struggling company without money. Why? When you're owner of a company, especially struggling, you're the sheep of clients & potential clients. They're the ultimate boss anyway. I think it's an ego thing to say 'look, I own a place!', which we ALL can relate to it being an admirable thing, don't get me wrong... but, living with your parents as a guy into his 30s IS a deal-breaker when it comes to most of the dating world, sorry.
Dating is not the first priority in life. Stabilizing your financial solidity is your first priority. Once that's done or on a solid shown path, then you can start dating. You aren't in position to quite yet, since coming up short-handed affects ya. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:11:15 PM | Way to go Baldyisbeautiful..
Jump all over that...I am with you...
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:46:16 PM | | I pretty much agree with everyone else. duuudde! get your own place.. it's better to broke and own your own. the it is to be broke and living at home.. plus your parents would love the idea of you getting out of there house. they may not act like it. but believe me. they are wondering if you will ever move out.. the business is great. but you should go get a regular job to help things out a bit. a main source of income is importatnt. noo. a steady main source of income is important.. and it looks like your military days are over.. when you think about it.. would you date a 38 year old woman. who still lives at home? probably not. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:03:19 PM | What's with the arbitrary use of punctuation?
Anyway, on topic. Women are attracted to men with a lifestyle they can enjoy. It's not always about the looks; if you want to attract ladies you have to show them you have a lifestyle where they can be happy. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:09:30 PM | | Let me get this strait! your open to anything of interest? as long as it's of interest too you? And you don't want to have sex on the first date. guess what? nooooo. self respecting woman is going to have sex on the first date.. and your interests! make you sound like a bon-bon eatin couch potato of a homo.. dude you really need to go get a life.. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:46:29 PM | It's already been said,
You live with your parents.
ie, no matter HOW you slice it, you're a looser.
HAhahahaha.
Ok, the laughter was in jest but you DO need to find a cheap apt.
Look at me for example.
I ACTUALLY describe myself in another site as 'Tacky, Cheap and Rude.'
I have a 12 yo son. Who lives with me 24/7
I drive a beat up old car that I need to replace soon (and with deals being offered, now might be a good time).
I have a so-so job that pays my bills but doesn't give me a lot of cash to blow...like may others, esp with the poor economy.
Heck, I even have a crazy ex.
And I'm a MILITANT atheist who knows far more about most religions and sects that their believers do. So, not only can I bash religions, I can do so while holybook thumping and scripture citing.
Yeah, I can go on and on about perceived 'negatives'. But, I tend to also find women who appreciate this...and the fact that I don't enjoy spectator sports.
Yet, I own my own home (yet, I do NOT host unless necessary...ironic isn't it?)
Still, I get a decent level of 'action' of all sorts. From chat to dates to relationships.
Attitude...
And, having a place of your own helps.
But, as said, focus on your strengths and seek to be happy with yourself.
PS. The word you were looking for is waste...not waist.  | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:58:48 PM | Well. I do agree that all the things you mentioned can be considered drawbacks. You would have to be *extra* charming and fun to overcome them, but you're not choosing to be that, you're choosing to be negative.
The fact that you complain about not having money to waste on dating is troubling. If you're truly that broke, you should probably wait until you're more solvent before attempting to meet a woman for coffee or a couple of drinks.
If you did meet a woman, and you liked each other, where would you go to get intimate? "Let's go back to my place, but you have to be quiet so you don't wake up my Mom" is not very passion-inspiring.
Finally: The age range you have chosen is limited. What have you got to lose by allowing women younger or older than your range to be able to contact you, should the urge arise?
Also. I would not put a sexually-oriented "joke" in your first date section. Or anywhere on your profile. It's just kind of tacky and will put some people off. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:12:19 PM | | I know exactly how you feel. I go on this site less and less because I just don't see the point. All I ever in my inbox is nothing. If you get even one email a month you are doing better than I am. I live with my parents to. Some advice for you friend, do not tell anybody this. Keep that a secret. If you do ever date Go to her house take her out just avoid your place for the first month. Then if your still going out take her to your home. If I had a dime for evrey man who wasnt finding love here I could buy out the dollar store | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:56:09 PM | You know I have written books in here about myself and yet no one replies! So if you want to know about me, ask! I don't bite and I like to write. So let me know if your interested in what you see and I'll be more than happy to fill in any blanks you send me
This is in your profile...an immediate turn off. The whole point of you having a profile, is so that we can read it and get an idea of who you are without having to ask questions. I would recommend changing this. You don't have to write a book about yourself, but I know I skip profiles that are too vague and short.
Also, the grammar issues. Correct them. It's important and it makes a difference to us. Some of your sentences run together. You don't use proper punctuation marks with everything, etc. That's annoying and it makes your ad harder to read. You want it to read easily and smoothly. Spelling also matters.
Also, get rid of all the emoticons. That's annoying and distracting too. You can have one, but don't overdo it with the smiley faces in the ad.
I don't think living with your parents is a big deal. More adults have to these days due to the economy. I think its the way your ad comes across. Seriously, bad grammar, and ads that are too short and vague are my biggest pet peeves on here. It comes across as "lazy" if you don't put some effort into your ad. So, correct the grammar errors, and put more details about yourself. If you want to sound like an intelligent person, you need to make sure your ad makes you "sound" intelligent too.
Good luck. | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 3:23:53 PM | @OP:
so I don't have ready cash to waist
^^^^^^^^
This sounds like you are tight-wad and a whiner. You basically put the nails in your own coffin with this post, Mr. Walking Dead.
To say that you don't have money to waste is to say that you don't see anybody on this site worth spending money on. So I guess this means that you 'mashed your profile every which way' in hopes that a woman would email you, ask you out on a date, and then pay for everything.
You put yourself out there as hopeless or trolling for pity---take your pick.
The fact that you complain about not having money to waste on dating is troubling. If you're truly that broke, you should probably wait until you're more solvent before attempting to meet a woman for coffee or a couple of drinks.
^^^^^^^^
@zephyrmoon:
I agree.
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 4:00:08 PM | After reviewing some of the postings in here, I’d have to say “where’s the love folk’s”?
Especially for a dating site, I find the cynicism in many of the postings disturbing in general.
It is interesting to note that I feel as if I have cut myself in a shark tank! | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:35:12 PM | Just attend some Democratic party get togethers, there are plenty of female zombies there.  | |
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:45:57 PM | Actually, not having a lot of money to blow on 'dating' (not a special person) is quite understandable and there are many activities that don't cost a lot (or anything) to engage in.
Just because you're poor, doesn't mean you don't deserve company.
This is an aspect of reverse sexism as in most cases, a woman saying the same thing as mama's boy here (j/k) would get a pass.
We live in 2009 not 1909.
And, currently, with the economy in a depression, not every small business owner is doing well...and with unemployment at such a high level, telling OP to 'get a real job like the rest of us drones do' is also unrealistic in many situations.
Yes, the advice for him to clean up his profile is good.
Yes, he should probably find a cheap 1 br apt to get out of moms house is also a good idea.
Heck, I dated a woman slightly older than I who lived with her aging parents after her divorce. She hosted and it wasn't a bad experience. I never even met her parents who occupied the upper levels and she the lower. But, it was annoying when she told me to 'keep it quieter' when I would joke or engage in a discussion.
Anyway, OP, take some of the advice given. Focus on your own happiness and personal success and decide what type of woman you're trying to attract and market yourself towards that personality.
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| Am I the walking Dead?
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:00:35 PM | **drawn in y the smell of fresh blood**
Living with your parents...regardless of the excuse/"reason" is unacceptable at your age.
Your spelling in the original post is horrible.
The comment about dating within your weight class...is laughable...oh...do you consider yourself fit? By some standards you aren't even close.
Your profile is negative.
I dont understand why guys put "if you want to know about me just ask"....she clicked on your profile to find out about you...not to get a homework assignment...you should be doig the work to present yourself...its not up to her to conjure up a questionnaire for you.
Frankly your profile sucks, your pics aren't great...and this post shows at the bottom of your profile...so anyone who doubts your negative spirit can see this crap. Brilliant.
**licks her lips and walks away from the table...satisfied** | |
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