jaiss
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Joined: 8/8/2008
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:11:42 AM | I am curious how women view me.... I have met a few people off this site just in the attempt of looking for new friends (or maybe more) in this city I have just moved to. I have heard some things on women view me; whether from old or new friends, Although I am curious on how a woman who doesn't know me views me?
This question is posed by responces or better yet lack of responces & glimpses of my profile by many yet rarely any messages. In a typical initial message to people I would say::::::::
Hey, My name is Jais! I viewed your profile and was really in aww over how sincere you made it. I saw that you are in school full time and working alot!! that is very awesome. I am signed up with two schools here in the cities ( names of schools). working on finishing my undergrad degree. So what inspired you to pursue your major ( major pursued).....
- Jais
In short that would be a typical customed intial letter to someone.
Any advice, any comments on me would be awesome...
---JAIS | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:28:02 AM | u were "really in aww over how sincere".... umm ok?!?
i personally would write back that we weren't a compatible match.
u should get pics of u smiling cuz every pic i saw of u made me look at the "does drugs" question. ur eyes make u looked stoned, try smiling to detour ppl's view from ur eyes.
also message: "hey my name is jais" is a good beginning. i'd dropped the aww stuff for a first message. seems weird in my opinion.
remember 4 first messages keep and short and to the point. "name is .... we have school in common... so what inspired u to persue..."
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:33:32 AM | Well, I wont talk about your profile or pictures, because that would be me giving you a profile review. As for your example message, its not the worst one I have ever seen. I would lighten it up a bit and let some of your personallity come through. I would ax the idea of saying you are "in aww" and using the term "very awesome" as I think they come across a bit over the top to someone whom you do not know. I would avoid using any overly dramatic words or phrases, actually.
Edit...Dam, Brookie beat me to it. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:38:58 AM | I agree with the others, it sounds like spam. You have to tailor your letters to each woman. We don't really care to hear more about you. If we want to know about you, we will read your profile.
Talking about yourself too much in your first e-mail is a dead give away that you didn't read her profile. Women with pictures get a lot of spam e-mails. When they get e-mails that are regurgitation of guy's profile it is basically a copy and paste e-mail.
Rather than saying she works a lot and goes to school, you could mention what she studies and then mention that you are a student as well . But don't go into great depth. You want her to write back and ask you about that, or read your profile.
If you are going to go out of your way to contact someone, it would be better to write something that shows you read the body of their profile, and didn't just pick points out from the statisic form section or interests. Then it shows that you are expressly interested in them. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:46:03 AM | How 'bout this? Simplify. Be as direct as the girl you are sending this message to:
I viewed your profile and I am curious to know what you major is.
Jais
You're looking for a response that shows interest on an initial email. Period. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:26:04 PM | | If your going to say that your in AWE of someone spell it right. Aww is the sound you make when you see a cute puppy or something | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:11:11 PM | 1) You're on a dating site where people come looking to "date." Most women aren't here looking to make friends.
2) Your pics look sulky (or as the other posted noted, stoned). This doesn't make you look very friendly.
3) Your heading: "L'amour vrai existe en tojours." Shouldn't that be "toujours," as in "forever"? You've got to spell things correctly, even if they're in another language. And thank the woman who pointed out that the word you wanted was "AWE," not "AWW."
4) I agree that your form email sounds exactly like a form email. Boring and stilted. Keep it short and specific. Don't ask a bunch of questions.
5) Holy crap, your profile is way too long. Check out the "Profile Review" forum.
6) Advertising yourself by putting your email addresses on your profile is against site rules and can get your profile DELETED and you BLOCKED from returning. Give that info out in private. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 8/20/2009 1:33:37 PM | Ok, you seem to be comin off to much. A friendly hello is all that needed in and introduction, you let them ask more of you. Be a bit mysterious. If your gonna bring up something on their profile make it a specific statement. I.E I like how your into basketball. I play also. You want to compliement and flatter, people are always into flattery. It depends on the person too. U have to feel them out a bit | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:22:17 PM |
Hey, My name is Jais! I viewed your profile and was really in aww over how sincere you made it. I saw that you are in school full time and working alot!! that is very awesome. I am signed up with two schools here in the cities ( names of schools). working on finishing my undergrad degree. So what inspired you to pursue your major ( major pursued).....
- Jais
Sounds like a cut/paste/send email. As if you didn't really even read the profile and you're sending the same email to anyone who has a pulse in your area.
I am curious how women view me
Personally...you look kind of like you haven't showered in a bit. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:40:17 PM | I doubt if your first email is the problem here. It's your profile. Your pictures are horrible and as others said you look stoned. Or mean. Or unwashed. Sorry to be brutally honest, but it's what you asked for.
Change your profile pics and send messages that include something about HER profile. Please don't say you're in aww, or how hot she is. She knows you think that already if you're writing to her! So comment on what you think of her INSIDES.
I can tell when a guy writes me if he hasn't bothered to read my profile. The ones that don't read it really seem egotistical. Or lame. Or just not interested enough to read about me. Or maybe they have the attention span of a gnat? I dunno...haven't figured that one out yet. | |
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| A man through the eyes of a woman...
Posted: 8/21/2009 3:42:48 AM | i like your profile, but your messages sound insincere, perhaps you should be a bit more spontaneous and real!!! perhaps a bit of humour, we all like a laugh | |
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