| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:22:05 PM | | i send out about a million messages on here and no one replies to them, am i truelly that ugly or something? it seems like everyone that i message either ignore my messages or reply for a bit and then go all quiet on me. so someone tell me whats the point in me trying? | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:28:32 PM | Welcome to POF. That's the way it works around here.
I've tried different approaches as far as sending emails to women. Really, it's either hit or miss. Sometimes they reply and you hit it off. Sometimes they reply and nothing happens. Sometimes they don't even respond at all with a read/delete. The thing is you can't let it get you down. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
EDIT: You need to work on your profile. Your headline is "I need a girlfriend." Why do you NEED a girlfriend? Patch up your profile and try again. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:29:40 PM | | lol all im looking for is someone to chat to if it ends up more then so be it but no one will even chat to me | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:30:49 PM | | You can say that, but really when it comes down to it, you're hoping to meet someone. Just like everybody else on the site. You have to at the least get them interested enough to want to respond to your message. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:33:35 PM | | i can't exactly bribe them can i now or even change myself if i were to do that they wouldn't get to know the real me | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:36:27 PM | | like what? you see my problem is im very shy in person i can't just go up and speak to someone | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:39:54 PM | | You have a serious roadblock then. If your shyness is that crippling then maybe you have Social Anxiety Disorder. Look into seeing a therapist. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:41:55 PM | | i see a therapist but that's for other reasons and tbh i don't wanna talk about them on here | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 3:47:00 PM | get a book on how to meet women. this will help you alot. Tells you what you should wear how you should act what you should say. Where single women hang out and how to approach them what works and what doesn't work. Remember single women are all around you when you go out so DRESS for it and act like you are open to meeting someone. If you are shy then you have to over come this, women like confident men who seem like they are going somewhere in life and have goals. I am shy too but I am over coming this I have had alot of women tell me how attractive and funny I am which is a confidence booster. If all else fails have a couple of drinks go out, that should get you "out of your shell", and just talk to them show them that you are an interesting person sit at the bar and as they come up behind you start a conversation thats what works for me. A friend of mine is not an attractive guy but he has confidence and knows how to talk to women and he picks up the Pamela Anderson types why?? because he has confidence. Another book you should read "What women want men to know" if i had this book 3 years ago i wouldn't be single!!!
Good Luck
REMEMBER nothing ventured nothing gained, a missed opportunity will always be a missed opportunity. The worst they can say is NO | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/19/2009 10:55:06 PM | I will tell you, Majin... I think that you need a different outlook on life itself before you can handle a woman in your life...
Here are a few things that may help you out (If I offend you, I'm sorry, but to be honest is way more fun... and way more helpful than not being...):
Take One: You need to change your main picture... I have a lot of gay friends where I'm from and they bear a striking resemblance to your smile. It seems that you are either gay, or you have a very creepy smile, or maybe you were "posing" too seriously... Not saying that everyone is photogenic (Hell, I have no good pictures unless I have my guitars, for God's Sake!!), but people can make themselves look better if they have a certain quality brought out in them... Mine is "funny", for instance. I take good photos only if I'm doing something off the wall... like pretending to choke my best friend while he's smiling... my face is priceless. Get humorous with it... I guarantee it will help you pick up the ladies.
Take Two: Stop with the "I need a Girlfriend" crap... That's like saying "I hate my testicles"... Not gonna fly... 'nuff said...
Take Three: The Most crucial part is, honestly, a part that I'm still learning myself... Love yourself... How do you expect to love someone if you Hate yourself? Everyday, I will look at myself in the mirror after a shower (Not the greatest thing I see all day, but I learn to let others be the judge), and I will keep telling myself "I'm a badass... I'm a badass", and I will not stop saying this until I TRULY feel that to be the case... THEN I will get dressed and go about my day. If you can at least portray that you love yourself... women will spot that... It's like Gay-dar... They have a 6th sense for it...
Majin, the road to creating a fondness of yourself will be a hard one, as I am creating one for myself... but It will come and you will be a much better (not to mention a happier) person for it. It starts with you... There is no one else in this world holding you back from pickin' up ANY woman you want... except yourself... | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:25:29 PM | | If the guy is too shy to approach women all the books in the world won't help him. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:46:25 PM | | you seem very nice... dont be afraid of all wemon look at inside. not just outside.. it seems the great couples , ive met ... you cant just go for outside appearances .date a chubby girrrl... if not .. ok ..lol ...i think your great.. good luck. and deff pray | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 1:24:50 PM | | well thankyou but it's not easy for me i got my problems just like everyone else my problem is 2 fold though, 1 is im extremily shy, 2 iv been burnt badly in the passed and i mean badly | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/20/2009 4:54:53 PM | Yeah, I'm having no luck on here. It is definitely not for everyone!
I just recently broke up with my gf so I'm just going to enjoy being single. Relationships aren't for me...so much work!!! I got so stressed out. Never meet the girl's parents...it creates a lot of drama. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/20/2009 6:33:19 PM | Try seeing things from a different perspective.
Find some pics of a pretty young gal, setup a profile with her persona.
You'll have all the attention your lonely soul could desire. Good Luck to You. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:52:11 AM | you know what. it all comes down to looks if you got the time and money. you don't even need a personality. it's a different formula, but it also works!
go to the gym and get buff, spend some money on hairstyle, get some brand name clothes from INC International at MACY'S, and learn some dance moves (Try ZUMBA). | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/21/2009 8:18:43 AM | | POF is just one avenue. Meeting and striking up a convo in person is always, always better. You can bypass this bullshit and instantly see and feel if there's interest. Don't waste too much time on here. Get out from behind the keyboard and strike up a convo with someone attractive wherever your travels happen to take you. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/21/2009 1:55:21 PM | | Take my advice and build yourself a "Form letter" Do a little research on the web. There are tons and tons of sights that tell you how to write a business letter. Make one and then just copy and paste that same letter to about...20 different women. Out of that 20 you may get one or two who write you. Take my advice this really works | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:25:38 PM | I think you're cute and I would respond to you, but I definitely don't live within 75 miles of you  | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/23/2009 3:44:26 PM | | well thankyou its always nice to know that someone will speak to me even if they are on the other side of the world | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/24/2009 3:56:12 AM | | A buisness letter is one that is simply worded and will not offend anyone. Something like: "You have received a form letter. I have sent you this because I have expressed interest in your profile. I would ask that you take a look at my own and if you like what you see please message me. thanks. Now this letter needs work but its an easy way of getting a lot of messages out. | |
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| what's the point in trying
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:29:20 AM | | the only sure way to fail at something is to never try in the first place. let go of your negative outlook and appreciate the opportunity to try new things and then learn something in the process. being happy is very attractive, whining is not. | |
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