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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:32:53 PM | Yes Green Lights,
We are all to familiar with the red flags
Seems like a lot of people around here know all to well how to use the Brakes . Some seem to have the emergency brake locked in place and the transmission in park. Now it's time to think about that gas peddle. Yeah that one that puts you in motion and on the move.
What is it going to take to get that light green and mash that peddle to the metal!
Just in case My Auto metaphor isn't working , I am talking about getting a romance started. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:43:38 PM | Been driving standard all my life, so don't need brakes.
First however, I have to see someone interesting. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:46:55 PM | Lol! Getting the green is the same in dating as in real life: waiting through the yellow and the red. . . .
For me, it began with a *real* opening email, from a guy who had *obviously* studied my profile, *obviously* liked the me there, and had *obviously* taken a bit of time to approach me. Made a couple of jokes, and told me a couple of things about himself not on his profile.
No picture, but a lovely mind. I laughed at the jokes, and answered. . . . More than a year and a half later, still laugh at the jokes, and answer. . . .
Love is a wunnerful thang. . . .
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:49:32 PM | Yep, that's the fun bit, isn't it Artz? When all the red flags are waving in your face and you say ..to hell with flags! This person's HOT!!! 
Flags give you a good excuse to hold back, imo. "I can't date him/her. He/she is separated/overweight/over 45/tight-azz/too extravagant/too short/too tall/tooooooo....everything".
Then along comes someone who makes you laugh and makes you think and makes you feel and every red flag just flies out the window.
What makes a romance start? Mutual desire and mutual interest..
Edit: Just realised I completely missed the driving metaphor..lol..could be because I only got my license 7 years ago and drive an automatic?? And I know nothing about cars? lol.. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:54:41 PM | This IS a wonderful idea thread....
Maybe no humbuggin and fightin on this forum topic...
My "green lights"...
Current photo in which she looks sober..
Answers questions and is literate..
and has similiar intrests / hobbie as me..
Some XTRA plus's...
been married,
lives close or relatively close,
living & financial situtations are similiar (or "doable")
AND the best if she puts in her profile
that instead of HATING military men (cause she don't like war, ex, etc.)
she luvsssss a man in uniform...
Those are my " green lights",....
Now be advisied...
Those are my green lights for a mate..........
Lookin for "monkey-bussiness" and FWB..
well the requiremeants are not as stringent,
and a bit more "liberal"...
Thanks for the good thread.....
---SoldierByte--- | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 3:59:14 PM | I have yet to approach an intersection...recently, just a lot of stop signs!! 
But I enjoy the drive. and certainly know the route well enough....there is sure to be a green light or at least a "yield" in my future. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:11:13 PM | Similar to moraima, I prefer the standard. You can be gentler on the engine, yet get more out of her. If there is a trouble, usually you can coast in neutral.
Back to the topic:
I move on green light and then watch for the red flags. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:20:28 PM | Dear Friends,
As always, Friendly is right. My own, limited, experience is reading a profile that has something truly interesting.
The generics are, in my slightly off kilter opinion, ludicrous.
Looked at logically, and, politically incorrect but obvious reasons, I read female profiles, the quod erat demonstrandum factor is one thing, but read the opposite and realise how silly some of the stuff is.
Sincere, warm hearted man, without baggage, secure yet humble, adventurous, but with family values, caring, giving, profound, for long term relationship based on trust and inner depths of feeling.
Now, suppose we take the inverse:
Hypocritical, cold blooded cretin, neurotic, arrogant yet insecure, boring, hates home life, uncaring, selfish, superficial, for short term kicks based on manipulation and sheer endocrinological functions.
First of all, besides me, few men have all of these misanthropic attitudes rolled into one sick personality, so such a man or woman would be hard to locate. Secondly, were someone so deeply in need of aripripazole, lamoctogine, desyrel and cheap hootch, he would most likely not be allowed out on furlough long enough for a real date.
So, green lights for me, and probably only me, things like a really interesting job, slightly off-beat profile, most of all elucidating a genuine sense of openness.
No one is really over his old relationships - one is always investing in memories, we are, in essence, their sum and resonance.
One of the saddest, truest lines I have ever felt, and it was in Phantom, which I conducted in German. The text was a translation, but more interesting, in many ways that the English original. The retranslation of "Niemand is der fuer den ihn andern halten" is
"no one is the person whom others take him to be".
This, of course, limits, on a site where written communication is the currency of exchange, the best matches to those who write most clearly. Which brings us to one sad point about dating sites. A person who may be scintillating in person may be drab as curdled milk on a web site because the writing is not effervescent. The danger is that dating someone's writing skills is not dating the person. Or, worse, as in my case, perhaps the writing skills are the person.
Love to all,
CdC | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:25:38 PM |
As always, Friendly is right.
Just to let you know, CdC, I have copied and pasted this quote into a new window, then bolded it and underlined it and enlarged the font size to 72.
I then printed out several copies and have stuck them in strategic places around the house and in the office. I also stuck one on my ex-hubby's windscreen.
I love it.
As always, Friendly is right.
Ahhhh, orgasmic. I wish I still smoked.. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:53:59 PM |
As always, Friendly is right.
Ahhhh, orgasmic. I wish I still smoked..
Humor! Works for me every time!  | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:01:38 PM | It's always a green light for me, OP, now that I can drive my standard without stalling it but to get there I needed to unload some of the excess baggage and make sure it was checked over especially the brakes!
To keep sailing down the freeway of life in a new romance? Conversation that keeps you coming back for more. You say 'I've gotta go now' but you keep talking for another 20 minutes. And as you walk away, you suddenly remember something else you wanted to ask or say and he's still there so you talk some more. And when you finally leave you find yourself savouring tidbits of the conversation and craving more.
SARL | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:06:05 PM |
What is it going to take to get that light green and mash that peddle to the metal! Intelligence. True, real, unpretentious intelligence. And a natural, dry, intelligent sense of humor. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:09:05 PM | Green lights?
He has a pulse
I have a pulse
He isn't an apparent psycho
Doesn't look like an axe murderer
Has a sense of humor
Doesn't think I look "mischievious" (LOL!)
I don't know, but I don't think I have as many red flags (or yellow ones!) as other people here seem to have. On the other hand, I'm just taking this one day at a time, and just enjoying getting to know peeps!
Now, I'm getting back to groovin' to Al Wilson and George Benson. Oh, and the homework. Yeah, that's right, I gotta do homework! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:10:56 PM |
String a few four syllable words together and the girl's gaga. It's the standard Faustian trade-off with Isadore at the curb waiting for her Bugatti - her ipod pounding all that matters into a slurry or is it sauce? Ode to a Tomato. It's green - step on it!
Ahh syllables! RanRan - I'm yours! Even though I don't know what you're talking about..
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:12:07 PM | A green flag for me has always been education because I like intelligent women. For me, a woman with a PhD is like a woman with big boobs to other men. Yet, if I was actually smart myself, then I’d probably change this to a red flag given all my past LTR experiences with graduate students and professors. 
* Thanks Artz for posting a positive question. Wish we had more. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:12:45 PM | Oh Good One Artz,
Peddle to the metal for me would be an artistic man that is very creative and good with this hands. He would thinker and a doer. You know he is not at all impulsive but rather slow and steady. His voice is rather soft but deep and he thinks before he speaks. I can hear him thinging before he speaks. I feel like I have known him for a long time.
He is physically active and eats healthy. He does not have a long list of lovers in his past. He is the type of man that is knows what a commitment is and you can see this in other aspects of his life.
He stands about 5 feet 11 inches tall and weighs 175 pounds and is well toned.. He has the cutest little beard that is kept so neatly trimmed. Oh and that smile of his just buckles my knees.
I think I am going to go to bed early tonight and take him with me..
thecatsmeoww | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:17:17 PM | expressobean said:like intelligent women. For me, a woman with a PhD is like a woman with big boobs to other men.
Hi Expresso.
Does a PHG count for you? Your post really turned me on.. lol
thecatsmeoww | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:20:38 PM | Please excuse my repeat words and typos this thread has me all flustered.. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:26:57 PM | OMG professors! Let's not go there, they are walking egos vaguely human shaped.
Grad students? Well, they are all younger than me. I'll never be a cougar, they are SO young! My son is older than they are. Even the grad students.
Another green flag? Tries to actually communicate. Asks a question instead of assuming things. Hmmmm, professors should try this!
One of my favorite old movies, 'tho, was The Nutty Professor with Jerry Lewis. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:57:38 PM | | The light can turn green but if you're out of gas, you're not going anywhere. Or if the road is dead end, you won't get far. Red flags are warnings of danger ahead, assuming travel is underway in that direction. Green lights allow travel to proceed. Let's say you're driving uphill to start with, or better yet, you're riding a bicycle, and you come to a light and it's bright green, but your legs are tired. So you don't pedal; you sit and rest while the light changes colors a few times. Then you finish your snack bar, start up again and go through the green light, only to see a red flag, so you stop again, on the hill, and start rolling backwards, then lose your balance and fall over. You catch a ride with a passing tow truck and in the morning when you come back to get your bike hoodlums have stolen the wheels off it. Now you're slogging back home, the bike frame an unwieldy burden, getting blisters on your feet, and as a car speeds by you hear the familiar voice of your ex-wife singing along with the radio playing the song you danced to together at your wedding. A few weeks later during some tests done following your heart attack brought on by the trek home with the bike frame, you are told for the first time that you have been color blind your whole life. It explains some of the mysteries of your love life so far, like having been red with envy, and seeing green when angry, feeling yellow when sad and the big blue streak down your back in the face of danger. This tickles you pink, finally, adjusted for your chromatic aberration, and you resume your quest for romance with a new appreciation for the allure of rainbow parties. Then it hits you, as if you saw it right there in black and white, that what had been for you a gray area complicated by psychedelic hallucinations impossible to paint correctly by the numbers given, turns out to be irrelevant in the realm of love. None of that matters anymore and it never should have, when all it takes is a smile. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:30:15 PM | | Hmm, about those lights. I wouldn't base the lights on color - some folks are color blind. To get a romance started takes 2 people that mutually, together, light a match, throw in some kindling and start one hell of a fire. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:34:11 PM | Nice smile ---Green light
Communicates her thoughts willingly--Green light
Accepts and returns PDA--Green light
Calls service people by their name--Green light
Has read Chopra, Dyer, Tolle, Hicks. Robbins,Gray or Smalley--Green light
Is financially responsible--Green light | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:50:19 PM | When the air between you is ELECTRIC and you're both in tune with each other and turned on by each other.
Most of this starts in the mind.........
When he throws you up against the wall,you know he's responded to your Green Light........
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:51:09 PM | Likes me for who I am.Likes my needs and wants... and is fully compatible with them... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 7:19:29 PM | online, it's been intelligence, humor, seeming consideration of others, similar passion/views or dissimilar in strategy but with similar goals in mind, creativity and not into drugs or excessive drinking. offline, it's been kindness, steadfastness and reliability, communication, demonstrated friendship and sensuality/ touchyfeeliness. if that's a word. i do have certain "types" but the range is broad enough not to be self defeating. lately, i've been wary of people who take and are narcissitic despite what they "profess", so the opposite holds true as well in terms of what i hold dear. i need someone with demonstrated ablility to bond as well as to attract. i believe in business they call that recruitment AND retention. i need "retention".
in terms of chemistry and short of the average body type range, height has varied. eyes, smile, touch or the way a person moves or dances can suddenly light up the bulb in my brain, often out of the clear blue and when i least expect it. unfortunately pof pics have been a crock. although two looked way better, most lied about age or used pics way too old.
hygeine and grooming and smell are also turn ons. rather horrified when the hygeine is not present, so i've made it a green light in that apparently it's an issue. table manners also a plus. who would think to list such things, as opposed to taking them for granted? those of us who have experienced the red light, i guess. | |
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