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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:11:56 PM | So after WAY too long I decided to delete my exs #
So now I just need to know some good ways to distract myself & resist the urge to call him! It should be easy considering how bad he treated me... but for some reason I always end up picking up the phone & calling him! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:16:52 PM | | Might want to ask yourself why you feel the need to be in touch with someone who treated you so badly. I would imagine you're seeking validation. Do you hope he'll have a lightbulb moment and become riddled with regret, and come crawling back on his hands and knees? Be honest with yourself and stop with the "but for some reason" thing and admit the reason. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:19:45 PM |
always end up picking up the phone & calling him!
"Because I love him." You are a typical abuse victim. You need professional help to break this pattern. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:23:15 PM | | Yeah ... i kinda do wish he would regret leaving me! but the worst is that he was my best friend too! Now I just wanna know good ideas of places to go & meet new people! or fun new activities to try to help me move on & enjoy my life | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:25:49 PM | | this is a good place to start,good luck | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:26:45 PM | | well well well...suprise! a man treats a woman like a dog and she still wants to be in touch with him...this is nothing new..as above poster said you need help.... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:28:10 PM | Grab a pen and list five reasons why you think you should call him.
Then ask yourself if any of those reasons make you sound pathetic. Put the phone down and go out and have fun. The more you call the loser the more you're telling him that its okay that he treated you like crap. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:28:31 PM | | It might be a good idea to enlist some friends who you can call when you get the urge to call him. Talk to a friend or two about it, and when you get the urge, call them instead and talk for about 10 minutes. Or go for a walk and leave your cell phone at home. Usually after about 15 mins the impulse to call goes away. Of you can sit down and write what you wanted to say to him, but don't send the letter to him. Sometimes just being able to express trhe words and what you are thinking is enough to make the impulse go away. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:30:23 PM | Try this.
Visualize his very frustrated face when he sees YET AGAIN you are calling. His swearing and calling you names....to the air around him. While you are visualizing this, think about how he has treated you like dirt on the bottom of his shoe.
If you need more of this, then imagine him getting a court order against you to stop the calls to him...and him telling everyone that he has a court order against a psycho stalker.
Does that give you incentive to leave the guy alone? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:30:35 PM | he was never your friend-- he treated you like dirt. A friend wouldn't do that.
read this- Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailable’s & A**clowns after you break up?-
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/can-you-stay-friends-with-mr-unavailables-assclowns-after-you-break-up-part-one/ | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:31:46 PM |
Grab a pen and list five reasons why you think you should call him.
Then ask yourself if any of those reasons make you sound pathetic. Put the phone down and go out and have fun. The more you call the loser the more you're telling him that its okay that he treated you like crap.
I just did this & they WERE pathetic! LOL... that kinda worked! Thank you | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:34:28 PM | Thank you for your wise advice! I have been calling as of today he can forget it! Thanks again!
C | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:38:21 PM | | To entertain your self until the desire to phone leaves, you could post on the forums, play with facebook apps, call your girlfriends (let them tell you what a tool he was), exercise, study or go out and look for his replacement (if you are up for that). | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:48:46 PM | | changed my mind,if you are missing him that much you SHOULD call him | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:50:46 PM | Need more details. It's not that I think you are lying about him treating you badly, it's just that men seem to define the words differently. I mean some girls, if you don't call them twice a day, they say you are treating them badly.
If he liked to force you to watch action films and never took you to see chick flicks, that might be considered "bad treatment" | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:53:23 PM | He's an EX. What more details do you need???
Its completely natural to miss an ex, but that doesn't make it right to call them. You broke up for a reason. Move on and find someone that is deserving of your attention and phone calls. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 4:56:40 PM | He's an EX. What more details do you need???
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Being an Ex is not always a terminal situation. You have only illuminated your own postion. There are others, you know. Of course, you would never second guess your own decisions, let alone someone elses? I have no reason to accept a conclusion without the details. It is my nature.
My Ex called me four years after we broke up and asked about getting back together. At the time I said no. I would try it in a heartbeat if she called today. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:07:04 PM | | I like this method. It would certainly stop me if I was having the same problem. I'll be filing it away for later! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 5:43:15 PM | | Ask these to yourself: If someone you treated badly would keep calling you no matter what you did to him, how would you feel about him? Would you care about him? It seems like you already have lost respect to each other. Think about these and don't lose respect to yourself at least. If you really want to forgive someone for what he did, save it for someone who really deserves it. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:04:00 PM | "My Ex called me four years after we broke up and asked about getting back together. At the time I said no."
A lot of good those 4 years of calling you did for your ex huh? What a waste of her time! THIS is precisely the reason she should NOT call her ex. She deserves someone that doesn't take 4 years or even 4 months or 4 days to decide if they want to be with her. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:08:49 PM | A lot of good those 4 years of calling you did for your ex huh? What a waste of her time! THIS is precisely the reason she should NOT call her ex. She deserves someone that doesn't take 4 years or even 4 months or 4 days to decide if they want to be with her.
Where did you come up with this? I wrote it the way it happened, and you are the one who doesn't need details?
She never called me for 3 years and 11 months. 4 years after we broke up, she called me and asked about getting back together.
You apparently don't require much input to jump to a negative conclusion. No wonder you don't require details. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:09:24 PM | You say your boyfriend was terrible to you and ended up dumping you.
You're a pretty girl, why should you care if a mean guy dumped you? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:10:25 PM |
Now I just wanna know good ideas of places to go & meet new people! or fun new activities to try to help me move on & enjoy my life.
I took up jogging to help me move on ,and you can also meet new people doing that .
I go to a big park that has tennise courts , jogging / 'biking trails , baseball feilds , smimming pools ,so it is a good place for me to socialize and meet new people.
It might work for you too. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:21:46 PM | "Where did you come up with this? I wrote it the way it happened, and you are the one who doesn't need details?
She never called me for 3 years and 11 months. 4 years after we broke up, she called me and asked about getting back together."
Ok ok don't get your panties all tied up in a knot, now. I read it wrong. Either way, our girl here needs to move onto someone thats smart enough NOW to realize what he has and someone that doesn't treat her badly like she said. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:27:49 PM |
My Ex called me four years after we broke up and asked about getting back together. At the time I said no. I would try it in a heartbeat if she called today.
Just being nosy...why now??? | |
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