| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:30:09 PM | Reading more than a few of the same topics regarding number of partners lately.. thought I'd ask... what's experience to you? Number of partners or length of time?
Person A has 1 partner for 10 yrs, and they've had sex once a week for that 10 yrs (560 times).
Person B has had 10 partners in a year and has had sex 1.42 times a day, every day (560 times).
Who has more experience?? | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:33:32 PM | Experience means NOTHING. Enthusiasm means ALL.
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Oh, CRAP, here is that "Reason To Delete" again. Wow, gimme a BREAK! | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:37:45 PM | | It's not so much about experience as it is about the passion that comes from within! | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:37:57 PM | Person A!!
Do I win the set of steak knives?
In MOST relationships, you experiment with one another and help each other to live out your sexual fantasies...even though it may be the same person, it would matter very little in the whole scheme of things?
Truth, hey check that out-TruthinessInc | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:41:00 PM |
what's experience to you? Number of partners or length of time?
Actually I think, it's neither....
I tend to look at it as what they've done....
You can sleep with a lot of people but not have any experience....
Conversely, a person could have done a lot of things over the years but only been with a few....
And what you know, or have done may or may not mean anything when it comes to comparing it to your next partner....
For example, my G/F has done a lot more than I have... 3somes, DP, swinging... spit roast etc... bisexual and group sex... Yet I've had more partners.... but never been involved in groups or anything bisexual.... nor have I been interested....
I've also learned from her, that not all experiences are good ones.... and some leave scars....
The biggest drawback is that we have nothing between us that is unique to us... Ironically, when we first got together, she was one of the worst lovers I'd ever had.... she didn't know how to make love, only how to fcuk.... so I got to teach her....and it's been interesting.... | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:41:24 PM | No 1 bby...excellent question and topic!
I'm going to go with[ A] because frankly, you can have many partners and very shallow and insignificant sexual experiences with them and not know much, while you can have only ONE long term relationship where you had sex with complete abandon, overcame inhibitions, developed trust with your partner (therefore creating a more intimate sexual atmosphere for more experimentation) and may also have had sex on a daily basis or more.
Personally, it was in my LTR's that I experienced the most sexual liberation. The experimentation and play made up for any number of partners I may have had that I didn't give much of myself to because frankly, I didn't really want to. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:50:45 PM | Person A has 1 partner for 10 yrs, and they've had sex once a week for that 10 yrs (560 times).
Person B has had 10 partners in a year and has had sex 1.42 times a day, every day (560 times).
Ok.... how do you have sex 1.42 times.... sorry, I just knew someone would ask, so I wanted it to be me.....
for my experience it's been mostly once a day.... not once a week....
Extrapolate that out over a 20 year marriage or 20 years of different partners, or 30 years....
Then you come along and you're trying to make an impression on a person who has maybe had sex thousands of times
Even at once a week....
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:53:14 PM | Person ”A” has more longitudinal experience, has seen a sexual relationship grow and change, seen sexual excitement with one lover fluctuate over the years, seen how sex is influenced by changes in life, career, children, boredom, infidelity, renewed interest, passion, experimentation…
Partner “B”, with more lovers in a shorter period, may have more breadth of experience, probably has encountered more variety of sexual preferences and practices, attitudes, etc.
And Partner B has more experience at finding lovers, transiting through relationships and ending them, moving from one to another, or more experience at maintaining more than one intimate relationship at a time. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 6:34:18 PM | Experience is when you already did something before. Once you had sex, you're experienced. Then you just repeat. Nothing changes except your hairstyle and the weather.
I never had sex before with short hair in a snow storm.
This is the first time I had sex with my hair braided when it was this hot out.
Those would be new experiences but not because the sex was any different. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:05:16 PM | | Is the ".42" referring to midget sex? Cause I think it's just wrong to make fun of my fellow shorties that way!!!! | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:19:53 PM | I think that once again........it depends on the individual!
Some people can have sex once a day for 10 years and not learn a durn thing!
We normally, around here, call them ex's!! | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:25:18 PM | | I agree with message 10 but I also think that a person has to understand the workings of the opposite sex. Not to change things up and explore for the other person or try something different may make an experienced person boring. I would hope an experienced man would want to know what turns my crank and vice versa so we would use our experience and expertise to have fantastic sex with each other. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:27:17 PM | A...B...I WILL CHOOSE C...
EXPERIENCE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW MANY PARTNERS, OR HOW MANY TIMES per year...I would think it has to due with CHEMISTRY with the right man or woman.
CHEMISTRY with the right partner, is AMAZING.
I can be with one man just once and experience something with him that I never experienced with another no matter how many times I might have had sex in the past.
C H E M I S T R Y.
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:55:27 PM | | Wouldn't it depend on what all each person tries when the act is concerned? Are we talking just missionary for everyone? Do they try new things? Are they open to bring in others? | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:57:37 PM | There is no one answer. It could be either.
If I had to choose one I'd say B since no one person enjoys every thing. You're going to get a wide variety of different styles from B, but maybe not as in depth.
Person A...well you learn that person A enjoys getting it reverse cowgirl. So you do a lot of reverse cowgril...and little to nothing else. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:00:13 PM |
What if you find chemistry with a 40 year old virgin?
I'm just going to point it out...and I haven't looked at all your posts...nor do I really want to...but it seems like every post I see of yours involves the fact that you joined 23 dating sights, and that your a virgin.
We got it. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:12:39 PM | A true Don Juan is not a man who makes wild, passionate love to a different woman every night...
A true Don Juan is a man who makes wild, passionate love to the same woman every night.
Who has the most experience? The one who learned that he and his lover together create beautiful orgasms...who learn to share of themselves and to perceive...to read the other...to constantly be sensitive to each other's needs.
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 12:38:37 AM | experience is subjective. you can be ten years with the same person but how much did you really explore each other?
you can be with someone for years and its just monotonous and then you meet someone for a one night stand and your world was rocked.
its all about wether you prefer quantity or quality. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 6:08:09 AM | | In a case like this I'd say "B",as they've had experiences with more people,so more experience. Personally it doesn't matter to me;if a person has had sex at least once then they're experienced in my view. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:14:18 AM | | Amount of experience is less important than quality of experience. Two open minded, intelligent, and enthusiastic people can learn more in a year of exploration with each other, than some people learn in a lifetime of one night stands with strangers, or 20 years of a bad marriage. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:22:15 AM | | it has to be "b". if after 10 years your only doing it once a week? Do you hate your partner or what? actually niether is relevant. experience comes with knowledge. Some may learn in one lesson while others will take many more this is why we have experts in fields who have less years experience at a task but more knowledge. We have seen our family doctors of 30 years call in specialists who are barely 30 years old so it is not what you do but what you learn while doing. | |
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| What is experience to you?
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:11:31 PM | Thanks for all the replies.
I think both have equally valid experience. There is a difference in the experience tho. When you are with one person for a long time, as a few have pointed out, I think you develop an understanding of how to make them feel incredible and you know almost instinctively what to do to please them. When you are with many people for short periods of time, you never develop that depth of understanding that comes with time, but you do learn things.
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here... just different answers based on our own feelings on the topic. | |
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