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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:32:19 AM | would you date a man or woman who has had a full sex change but regrets it and wants a non same gender relationship.
ie man has had sex change to woman but wants to date a woman or a woman who has had a sex change to a man but wants to date a man.
what problems might you anticipate in the relationship and how would you overcome them(less than 30 words if possible) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:39:34 AM | If a woman changed to a man but wanted to date a man because she still feels like a woman, would that make the other man gay?
I personally don't believe that a woman turns into a man or vice versa. Snip off and add on all you want, but you still are what you are, and that is what your DNA says. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:43:03 AM | you would be highly surprised by the high occurance of this situation. Many who have had this operation end up in homosexual relations. Its a very frequent occurance, which is way gender reassigment surgury is a serious commitment. I would because its not about the sex of a person, its about the person. Limiting yourself to certian things in life will only hold back your potential to grow yourself and to learn from others. This aspect is applied to all areas of life.
But for those narrow minded out there, just think of it this way......
ELECTROSEXUAL: Its not the sex you are, its the sex you can give me!
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Posted: 6/20/2009 11:28:58 AM | | How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 11:29:52 AM |
Reason for Requested Deletion: Should be obvious
Why should it be obvious to delete this question? Get off your fricken high horse, theres nothing wrong with this question. I think the problem is you're too close minded about an issue like this. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 11:30:15 AM | realy dude, what ever.
How about the question is rediculouse?
How about this is a question for your psychologist, and your physician, and your priest, not for a bunch of random strangers on a public forum.
How about NOT specifying how many words I can use to respond.
(fifty-three on my mark, MARK!)
How about NOT calling others closed minded just because we don't see the towering importance of this thread of yours.
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Posted: 6/22/2009 7:36:27 PM | beershark....Harbouring some unwanted homosexual tendancies??? Dont judge others, it is a question that if you knew anything about the GLBT Community, is actually very interesting and a subject up for debate constantly. Just because you feel the question is invailid in your one sided skewed judgemental breeder mind, doesnt mean that there are not others out there that feel that it is not only a valid topic but a very important one to those whom might be considering a gender reassignment surgery. Is you dont like this topic then simply dont reply to it, ignore it, its simple. But unfortunately its people like you that make life hard for the GLBT human beings in this world!!!! nothing productive to say, than keep your mouth shut, and stow your unfortunate opinion to yourself, because hunny no one wants to hear from someone that is insensitive to other cultures!!!!
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Posted: 6/22/2009 7:51:44 PM | Let's make one thing clear -- if a male person gets a sex change operation, and, as a woman, wants to date women, that would make that person a LESBIAN. There is nothing confusing there, as long as the person is happy with the change.
If that person REGRETS the change, that makes that person CONFUSED. Dating a confused person causes a lot of problems, of undeterminable consequence. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 8:31:25 PM | channybeans,
You certainly seem to know how to judge for one who preaches being non-judgemental. You have also made the mistake of actually believeing that I care what your opinion of me is. You are right in none of your assumptions about me. If you prefer I reword it so your narrow mind and tight azz can follow; I found the original question to be convoluted. I offered my opinion that this question was better taken up with people with proper training to offer assistance. The OP wanted opinions I gave mine. People like you who are intolerant of opinions differing from their own are the ones that are truely closed minded. I see you offered no opinion at all.
I also called the other poster on his little tantrum about the thread being up for deletion. He, as you did, resorted to derision and name calling without offering an opinion of his own on the subject.
Wrong also,is your assumption that I harbour unwanted homosexual tendencies. Perfectly straight. My knowledge of the GLBT community is only limited to those that I am proud to call my friends. As far as being intolorant of other peoples cultures, only the Dutch! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 8:49:24 PM | I don't think I could date a woman that used to be a man. It would be to weird for me.
But, I say do whatever makes you happy and forget those who don't like it or approve. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 8:57:56 PM | I would say the vast majority of those who transition from male to female or female to male are very happy with that decision. Very few have regrets. It's a long, arduous process involving gender therapists and doctors. It's not done on a whim. No surgeon will touch you without letters from your doctors and/or therapists.
That said, as a female-t0-male transsexual, I have identified as male from birth. Now that I am visibly and legally male, I am attracted to and date women. That doesn't make me a lesbian but a heterosexual male. Many male-to-female transsexuals are attracted to women, which makes them lesbians; those that are attracted to men are heterosexual women.
It's not rocket science.
Gender identity and sexual orientation are two completely separate things. Gender identity is how you identify; it's between your ears. Most people are lucky that their birth sex and gender identity align. Some of us aren't as lucky but are fortunate that transition is an option for us.
We are just normal people wanting to live normal lives. And for those who think I'm still a woman because of my DNA, well, just remember I could very well be standing next to you at the next urinal. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 9:56:27 PM |
could very well be standing next to you at the next urinal.
Statements like this are what makes it hard for mainstream people to accept you. It does sound as if you are trying to frighten them or just be confrontational. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 10:04:43 PM | Not trying to be confrontational. Once we transition, we blend in, and statements that we are freaks and stick out as such are false. As are statements that no matter what, I'm a woman, because of my DNA. (not saying that you said that, but it has been said in public forums here and elsewhere).
Does the fact that we use our new gender restrooms bother you? Does it bother you that I may be right there next to you? Why would you care where I choose to pee? Fact: as a transman, I look like a man, act like a man, and pee like a man.
I have a job where I interact with the public. Do I disclose to every client that I'm a transsexual? No. Do people see me as such? No. They see a man, and treat me as a man. You accept me as a man, because you don't know otherwise, unless I choose to tell you my medical history. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 10:16:16 PM |
would you date a man or woman who has had a full sex change but regrets it and wants a non same gender relationship.
No.
And besides, if they are getting a sex-change operation, I would assume (hate to do that) that they want to live as normally as possible and therefore be involved with someone with the opposite sex.
And I would hope, for their sake, after all that pain and suffering to have a sex change operation, that they would not "regret" it afterwards. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 11:23:08 PM | | Um... categorically: NO. It's weird and gay, either way! That's something not even a freak like me could pull... (no pun intended!) | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 4:29:38 AM | I am actually confused about the question. I have no idea what is being asked. I do, however, think more acceptance regarding gender and switching is necessary in our dark universe. I've had and have very close gay family members, one who died. I think *extremely* poorly of anyone who insults LGBT, especially someone without a clue about it.
It's like making fun of a sports fan's obvious lack of sophistication. I would look completely judgmental about something I knew nothing about if I said watching sports makes someone automatically unfit to date me for their stupidity, wouldn't I? Same thing in reverse when I see people down on LGBT. Stay open-minded and accepting of diversity.
You can see by my profile I'd go so far as bring you hot wings and a cold one if you're watching sports. I might even go 'yay' at the right times to impress your friends. I expect intelligent and empathetic remarks about LGBT issues from any suitor of mine in return. I don't expect anyone to dwell on it just to get with me though LOL. That's a hint... I hope I've helped in some way. I don't know. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 4:34:24 AM | | If someone goes to that extent and then regrets it needs to have some serious help - because the process is long tedious and emotional! I would have hoped the health care professionals saw this coming long before the surgery and the surgery would not have taken place. If it indeed did take place - I would sue the healthcare professionals that let it go that far! It's thier job to identify people who cannot handle their decision - long before the change takes place! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 4:51:03 AM | if she/he isnt emotionally unstable( i have enuf to deal with in me hehe) then yes... but... then that fullfills both my things.. wanting to be with a woman.. and still having a man there for their 'manly support' since they still feel like and prob act like a man
why? do you know someone | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 4:58:04 AM | I just don't understand the question. So, they regret it? Then they want a relationship with whom? I am confused. My understanding from legitimate statistics is that incidence of regret is extremely low. I should add that it's close to home for me.
I'm bisexual and I can't classify myself that way here. In my opinion, that's not fair to me. I prefer men so I can deal with it. I just think homophobia is sooo last century. People should learn to be good people, good to people. Let love rule. Allow for diversity. That's my opinion. I won't change it. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:08:29 AM | | And already the OP has left the building! Need any more proof that this thread is agenda driven and should have been deleted? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:48:48 AM |
Not trying to be confrontational. ...........
Does the fact that we use our new gender restrooms bother you? Does it bother you that I may be right there next to you? Why would you care where I choose to pee? Fact: as a transman, I look like a man, act like a man, and pee like a man.
No, it does not bother me unless you are a pervert who stares at the guy in the next stall. I don't like that. I wouldn't like it if you were a woman doing it, I mean a woman with whom I have no relationship. You say you are not confrontational yet you are the one who made the next urinal statement. These forums are to elicit responses and that is what I did, and honestly. And as another poster has noted where is the OP? Gone. So is Paul Harvey but anyway "Good day." | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:50:27 AM |
what problems might you anticipate in the relationship and how would you overcome them(less than 30 words if possible)
Real quick  ! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 2:28:31 PM |
You say you are not confrontational yet you are the one who made the next urinal statement.
How is stating that I, as a transguy, use a urinal in a public restroom, confrontational?
My point is that there are transpeople everywhere, and we are normal members of society, who go about our daily business, including using restrooms, and nobody is the wiser. We are not the outlandish freaks you see on Jerry Springer, nor are we amoral perverts. We have families, mow the lawn, shop at Target, attend church, and picnic in the park.
It's fine if you'd rather not date us, but we're really not all that scary. We are just people. | |
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