| POF babysitter
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:03:12 PM | Have had some nice experiences and some odd experiences from some of the women I have met so far from this POF site. This Saturday I line up a date with a local chitown girl and she seems overly enthusiastic about the days leading up to our face to face meetup. I invited her over to my place to watch some movies, and when she comes she brings her son without even asking me if that's ok. So I'm like wth at that moment.
I try to brush it aside, and start watching the movie with the both of them there, but she gets a phone call about 10 minutes into it, and she gets up, and motions me towards her. I ask her what's up, and she tells me her friend has an emergency and she tells me to babysit her 5 year old son and walks out of the house quickly and drives off.
So now I'm going from having a date, to being a stupid babysitter. This boy was a demon child. I never finished the movie, because the kid was doing so much d@mn nonsense. Ended up breaking a cabinet door by swinging on it like he was some monkey at the zoo.
She comes home 5 hours later and tells me she had a good time on 'our' date and hopes we can do another date next Saturday. You can only imagine I never had a good time. Anybody meet these wacky pof types, only to be fooled into a date that never was? | |
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| POF babysitter
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:12:57 PM | What was the emergency? Why couldn't she bring the kid? And why would she leave her son in a relative stranger's house?
I've found plenty of people on POF that you never think exist in real life, but this woman ranks. Even odds she's a dingbat. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 11:47:12 PM | | Omg i cant believe she would leave her child with a stranger like that, maybe you shoulda called CPS and told them she abanded him on you. It also seems fishy she got the call so soon into the date seems to me she had it planned. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:17:13 AM | Did she even give you an explanation as to what the "emergency" was? Did she call to check on the child while she was gone?
Perhaps those are bad questions that you won't get a truthful answer to anyway. Anyone who would do this in this way is obviously trouble. I hope that you have the good sense to cut all ties and go about your life. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:29:03 AM | I forwarded your profile to Kate Gosslin from John and Kate Plus 8...I hear she may be needing a man around willing to watch her 8 kids....
Ok, seriously...this is just crazy! Who leaves their 5 yr old with essentially a stranger??? I mean, who would have the nerve to even ask someone they met for a minute to do that?!
Curious....what did you say to her when she came to pick up her demon child? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:39:37 AM | Yeah, you should have called someone and reported her. No offense but you have hang out on your profile which indicates you are looking for sex to me, TV dinners, your hobbies for topics of conversation, and your extreme tattoos would make me afraid to go out with you let alone leave a child with you. I am not saying you can tell that someone would be a bad parent by their appearance or necessarily what they write, but put them together and wow. I am guessing you wanted that effect though.
It took a couple months before I let my bf meet my kids. I can't imagine just dropping off a 5 year old with someone you had never been with in person. I am guessing this woman does drugs and had to meet a date... | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 6:48:42 AM | Wow I cannot EVER imagine leaving my children with a man I dont know! For all I know, you could be a bad guy. If it was me, I would simply call famiily protective serviecs becuase I am sure that it is not the first time she would literally dump her child on strangers.
My heart goes out to that kid. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 6:56:56 AM | 1. Who goes to a guy's house on a first date or meet? That's nuts to begin with.
2. People who have their kids for the night should either get their own babysitter, or cancel the date.
3. The actions of this woman make me think that she needs to be reported to child services. Are you sure this kid was hers and not her exes or something? It's really odd that someone who gave birth would do something like that, but there are moms who need not be caring for children.
My exes' ex (say that 5 times fast) used to do this...she was into drugs, stripping, etc...he'd go out for two hours and come back to an empty house - she'd pack the kids up with blankets and pillows and drop them off all over the neighborhood so she could go off and do who knows what. It's a wonder no one ever reported her during that time.. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 7:12:17 AM | | I would not have allowed the kid to stay. They would both have left at that point. It probably wasn't even her kid anyway. It's probably some kid that she got left with by a date, and he got it from someone else before that. The poor kid might have been floating around for years being taken from one POF date to the next. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 7:20:01 AM | As soon as she said she was leaving, YOU should have said no. That's all there is to it.
No one in their right mind would leave a small child with a stranger, especially a man.
She should have taken the kid with her and if she said no, you should have told her you'd need to call the police if she left and then done it if she left.
No offense, but there are hundreds of thousands of sex offenders in our country and even if you aren't one of them, she could do this with any other guy and her kid could be molested, kidnapped or worse. Reporting her could save this kid from being victimized if he hasn't been already.
Although she was clearly in the wrong you were just as wrong to babysit for the kid for 5 hours and I think you should still call your local Child Protective Services/Social Services office and report her. It's not to punish her, but to protect that poor child. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:31:06 PM | Holy Shite! I woulda called the cops to come get the kid! When she comes to get him tell her to pick him up at the cop shop! (or better yet, take the kid to the cops & DON'T BE HOME when she comes to pick him up...SHE will call the cops & they'll already have her kid!)
Honestly tho...what kind of sick b!tch leaves her baby with a complete stranger??????? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:42:15 PM | Wow. Good riddance. I don't fault you for not saying NO, or calling someone, I get the feeling it all happened so fast you were probably pretty much dumbfounded and shocked that you were even asked (were probably still in shock from her showing UP with the kid!). It's pretty easy to think of the things you SHOULD have said and done, after the fact... in the reality of the moment, we don't always think that qickly.
Chalk this one up to a great dating story and move on. I think it's pretty rare! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 12:43:19 PM | OMG, this could not have really happened...
This woman needs to have her child removed from her care immediately. I think you should have called CPS. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 1:53:58 PM | | She just used you for a baby sitting service, she wasn't at all interested in actually going on a date with you. I suggest that you invite her back over, and find the number to child services ahead of time. Department of children and families is the organization here in Florida they are slow to respond though, but if you call the police they will be able to handle the situation until DCF gets there. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 2:04:13 PM |
I forwarded your profile to Kate Gosslin from John and Kate Plus 8
Did you lace it with anthrax? I think it'd be great if Kate Gosselin got anthrax. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 2:39:15 PM | honey, i truly hope youre not gonna take her up on her offer of a second date!!
women like this dont deserve to have children, it took me 6 months to introduce my child to my last boyfriend. with all the strange people out there its not worth taking a risk! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 5:02:29 PM | Whoa! That's just crazy! OP ... don't ever hesitate for one minute to say no to a stranger when put in a situation like that! What was she thinking? Grrrrrrrrr ...  | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 5:06:11 PM | Get outta here! No way!
Maybe you should have called child protective services and have them pick up the kid.
Or maybe a SWAT team since you were being held hostage against your will.
That is some crazy stuff.
It's not true? Is it? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 11:39:51 PM | | personally for ur age u urself should know how to make a decision and how to say big NO now if u really like this female and uthink that shes pretttty well thats u making a big fool out of urself | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 4:44:01 AM | | I think you need to change your username to "LittleBrainMan". This is absurd. Really, really ansurd. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:00:49 AM | Wow, good to see a whole butt load of women on here hating the white males like they do. Its like whoa now, how dare you even mention molestation nonsense when I have kids myself. So what if I have a unique look, doesn't mean crap.
justme1201 was absolutely correct about what happened. Its easy for you all to point fingers and act like know-it-alls. But when you are put in situations, doubt many of you act in a lightning quick manner. If you do, maybe you should be in police force or fighting fires.
Fact is, I have enough problems in life, and not going to piss off some women I met off of POF by calling CPS on her and her lying to the cops and then I get harassed.
Imahotmess, I'm sure you are quite popular in this community with your negative comments. Look at yourself in the mirror and just realize what a mess you really are.
Cheers
bigbrainman | |
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| POF babysitter
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:22:21 AM | | It sounds like it was a set-up. She pre-planned something, probably another date. Nobody leaves their kid with someone unless she knew you were a "nice" guy (didn't object to the kids there in the first place). | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:40:17 AM | | I would've refused to babysit her kid and told her no way and to take her kid with her because she was leaving her kid with a virtual stranger and that if she didn't you'd report her to CPS. I can't even imagine leaving my child with a man that I've only just met face to face. Maybe that call was another date and she dumped her responsibility off on you, OP. Another thing is I would never meet a man the first time at his house or apartment, much less take my kid along. Holy sh*t. That's what a call a dating disaster to put it mildly. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:08:13 PM | Crazy people do crazy things. They even have kids.
Next time do not arrange to have a stranger meet at your house and if a date shows up with a kid you can excuse yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:27:40 PM | | I think you should call Children Services, anyway. This is not normal behavior for any parent, and Children's Services could at least knock on her door and make sure she's not blowing coke off her kid while he plays videogames. | |
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