| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:04:12 AM | I'm curious about what makes a person sexy. Are the traits of sex appeal different for men and women? Is sexy entirely physical or is it also part attitude? Do you have to show skin to be considered sexy or is it about what you don't reveal?
I'm not asking here about chemisty, compatibility or physical appearance. I'm talking sexiness. What makes your head turn? Makes you notice the person walking on the sidewalk? Makes you approach someone because you think they are sexy?? | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:56:31 AM | | For me personally... I think its part attitude... part that the person has to be attracted to that type... im not one to pick and choose.. but my preference is a guy with a bit of a tummy.. dark hair on the longer side.. gotee... (i have a freind who fits that to a t) but.. just a friend...not saying i wouldnt give any other type a chance... but those are what makes me look twice... also.. if you show confidence... smile.. thats verry sexy... i dont show skin..i dont have anything worth showing... yet the other day a guy in walmart was flirting with me.. when i was buying deoderant of all things... i was just in a t shirt and pants no makup (was in a rush) makes you feel good tho lol but ye.. if you look people in the eye.. if they look at you.. smile.. i think thats alot to do with it (speaking from someone whos extremely shy) sorry if i dont make sense.. its 4 am.. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:01:56 AM | The most gorgeous woman can quickly become very unsexy if she has a crappy personality. In return, a plain looking woman can become extremely sexy if she has a great personality. Confidence in herself, she walks with her chin up and she is strong yet demure.
and for me a great pair of legs doesn't hurt either!!  | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:20:42 AM | | combination of looks, attitude and that certain look in their eyes and smile. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:25:38 AM | imo, sexiness IS about chemistry, compatibility, and physical appearance.
we get a gut reaction when someone we meet tickles those 3 areas of our psyche in a certain way.
what we feel in their presence triggers many emotions and nerve endings.  not everyone will react the same way to certain people as we do.
as far as explaining what gets my primal juices oozing, I'd be hard pressed to list, because for me, it's all about reaction. if you lined up the men that have weakened my knees, you'd have a very motley crew. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:45:49 AM | Sexy is all that has already been mentioned and we can probably come up with more attributes to add to the obvious list.
Sexy to me is something very different to each of us. What is sexy to me may not be sexy at all to others.
It's she looks sexy and is sexy when she..........(fill in the blank)
I feel sexy and look sexy when I..........(fill in your thoughts)
I find so many things sexy about a woman. Could not even describe them. She is sexy because....well, just because. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:59:05 AM | Confidence... without crossing the fine line into arrogance. That is what is sexy to me.
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:08:34 AM | | IMO, it's all in the way you carry yourself, your attitude, and your appeal to the opposite sex and sometimes the same sex. It's not so much of your look but, your personality and your views. But, just like the word kinky it's up to the individual what they think sexy is. For a 18 year old guy its going to be titts, ass, and body and for a 30 something guy, it's going to be a combination, for a 40+ guy it's probably just going to be her mentality and presentation/attitude. Now, I know that's a generalization to men but that also applies to most women (I think). Just my 0.02!! | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:26:34 AM | What is sexy? Coming home from work and finding my woman cleaned house and has a homecooked meal waiting for me!  | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:29:32 AM | | When someone enjoys being sexy, they seem sexy. They have learned by trial and error and example what other people respond to as sexually interesting, and they like that kind of attention, so they do what works. It's doing what they expect will create sexual interest. It can be the way they dress, talk, move, laugh, pour a glass of milk, look into your eyes, touch their hair, pull your hair, or kneel at your feet and unzip your pants, among other things. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:52:03 AM | I get called sexy day in, and day out.
I certainly don't refer to men as sexy. The term is played out.
Sexiness goes beyond physical.
It's all about physical attributes, attitude, and personality. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:55:01 AM | That is a good answer. I believe it works for women of all ages. Thank you for reminding me. I am just learning to be more sensual and less fearful. I love it. That does not mean sex, sex, sex. I like to sensualize a man now. I am over fifty and most men think they want pretty, pretty, pretty. Like puppies.
So ladies, bring back the goddess in you. It is fun. It is good for the sould as well.
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:56:19 AM | | Attitude is big when it comes to being sexy. When a woman feels she is hot, the way she carries herself, the way she smiles, and the way she talks all change. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 10:38:04 AM |
I'm curious about what makes a person sexy.
IMO and for me it's when it's them being themselves, doing and going after what they want. Rather than seriously adopting behavior they think I (or general society) believes is sexy.
Is sexy entirely physical or is it also part attitude?
Depends on who you ask and how they view other people IMO.
Do you have to show skin to be considered sexy or is it about what you don't reveal?
Depends on a lot of things. Such as environment, personality, person, attitude, intent, purpose, etc.
What makes your head turn?
Movement and/or light.
Makes you notice the person walking on the sidewalk?
If they are in my line of sight, I hear them, accidentally touch them, and/or smell them.
Makes you approach someone because you think they are sexy??
Oh. 180 here. If I have "sexy" on the mind or am looking for "sexy" to approach (being proactive rather than reactive) then it's more about me and satiating my desires, and potentially approaching them based on my sense of success in fulfilling that desire.
So in that case it's less about them, and more about me. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:34:24 PM | | To me, sexy is a bunch of things: confidence, good attitude, how she dresses, intellect and how she carries herself. | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 1:39:55 PM | tbuddha.... oh good.. and sexy for her can be you doing the dishes afterwards | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:58:24 PM | Confidence without arrogance - honesty and compassion - very sexy indeed!! Combine that with someone who smells good - ahhhhh! What a man!!  | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:18:23 PM | | Sexy is when someone appears to be in control of his/her environment, stands straight, is engaging to others, smiles, shows a little intelligence, and is confident in being themselves rather than what others want them to be... | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:39:05 PM | I know what I find sexy. A tall, dark skinned man with broad shoulders. Purrrrrr...
But I've never looked at myself and thought I was sexy. Never. I never felt sexy. I was a virgin until I was 22 and never really dated before then. I'm a big girl. (blahblahblah I've ready all the "fat girls are nasty" threads on here) But guys tell me I'm sexy alllllllllllll the time. Even if I was out with my sexy as hell, thin, long legged friend, men would approach me over her. I used to have long, dark wavy hair down to my ass. I thought that made me sexy, but even after I cut it off men tell me how sexy I am. It's a mystery to me... But I'm not complaining.  | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:50:24 PM | Sexiness is first noticed with physical appearence, I can't see them not being bound together. I believe you can decide within 3 seconds if you are physically attracted to a person. Although I'm sure we've seen some people that at first we're attracted and then they turn around or take off their sunglasses and its like "UGH" hahaha.
Sexiness after physical attraction, I would say attitude....but I've been attracted to some bad guys before(and still dare I admit it).
Sexiness is image, I hate Tom Cruise, but Any man in any military, police officer, EMS, fire fighter uniform can be sexy. So even Tom Cruise can look good in a uniform, for a short period of time.
What makes my head turn? when I've think I've dropped something, but am only taking the last look at a sexy man.  | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:34:48 PM | OP,
JMO, but I go nutz over a sensual pair of eye's! The woman batting them does not need to be loose or , easy. Just the little mischeavious smile and the eye's doing the talking is what turns my head in an instant.
I was a bouncer in a nite club for 4 years PT, and I met woman of every race ,build and marital status. Some patronized the club looking for a specific race, and some for just a hook up? while other's were out with the girls and wanted to just un-wind for the night.
Being a bouncer is a double edged sword, if you are dating someone the other woman know you are and attempt to tease you in the sight of your girlfriend. Respect and trust had to be paramount for both of us in order to work in this field. Woman are just as flirtatious and twisted as men can be.
I challenge anyone to honestly say they never try to tease a man who appeals to them whether they know he is dating someone or not! | |
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| Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:34:12 PM | Sexy is all about attitude in men and in women. It's a confidence, the way they carry themselves.... and a great laugh.
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