| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:48:44 AM | i seem to be stuck in a dilema and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
me and my ex girlfriend had a pretty bad breakup about 7 months ago after being together for just over a year with her so called friends interfering. during the 7 months i met an amazing girl on here and wound up ending it 2 weeks ago after 3 months because i felt that something was missing and it wasn't fair on her . i talked to my parents about it and they told me that if i was looking for the same thing i had with my ex i wouldn't find it.
my ex sent me a text message the other day and we started talking she told me i was right about the people she thought were friends and they kept on treating her like dirt even when i was out of the picture. she keeps on saying that she hasn't stopped thinking about me and cqant stop loving me. she gets upset when ever she hears my name or the nickname i used to call her and wants to see me.
i still love her and would jump at the chance to be with her even at the risk of getting hurt
but its not so simple she is still with someone and it wont be fair for him to get hurt aswell
if you made it through all that reading lease help i dont have a clue what to do | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 2:31:22 AM | Tell her if she is serious she needs to end it with the other guy..
Make her prove she REALLY wants you and isn't just keeping you on the back burner for now because the other guy isn't giving her his full undivided attention.
Good luck either way! =) | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:29:11 AM | | thanks think were gonna have a talk face to face and see what happens. not gonna get my hopes up and if she's doing this for the wrong reasons i'll just need tell her she cant be a part of my life | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:34:27 AM | and when you talk with her...listen with your ears! not your heart.
the question you have to ask yourself.... if she goes from one relationship to another... when does she take the time to discover what she wants? | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:48:58 AM | | lol definetly going to use my ears still got some stuff i need to get of my chest aswell so even if it just gives me closure and lets me move on it will be worthwhile | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:38:06 AM | | Just remeber sometimes when some girls get hurt or lonely they go back to their ex's that they know will still want them so read thro the bs! | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:24:33 AM | | If she wants you back she needs to prove it and end it with the other guy first. You don't want to be strung along and if she knows you'll jump at taking you back she will use that. then you will get hurt over and over again, so if she is serious, make her prove it or move on hun, i know i have been where you are right now. | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:32:48 AM | My only thing would be what were the reasons you broke up before.
From personal experince usually that same reason still applies and hasnt really changed.
Sometimes its easy to go back to what you know and are comfortable with.
I wouldnt rush things and people have to prove they change, BOTH people. | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:43:28 AM | See what good advice is on here? Pay attention to it!
1. Oh yeah, she needs to end it with the other guy first, definitely. Don't even consider talking about getting back together until she does.
2. Try to remember why it didn't work out the first time. Sometimes all we can recall are the good things, which were obviously overshadowed by the bad that ended up with one of you calling it quits. | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:55:25 AM | | hi there so sorry to hear about your problem. your parent are right when they say you wont find what you had with your ex but what you could find is somthing better but you need to stop comparing new relationships.but if you really want o go back with her you need to clear the air and tell herthat she cant treat you the way she does because of her friends. my opinion is that if she really loved you as much as she says she wouldnt have treated you the way she did and the fact that shes with somone now is not a good sign if she really wants you back tell her she needs to break it off with this new guy b4 even starting anything with you as if she doesnt i dont think it will work i hope this has helped you hope you find what your looking for . good luck take care xx | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:25:06 PM | Run.
Run. Fast.
In my experience, it's not the person you miss, but the person you WISH you had. She's with someone and texting you. She's listening to her friends over you.
Don't let your "loneliness" dictate your decision. Know that what you did is for the best, and you're not going to die over it.
Move on. Take time to recover. Miss your ideal, not your Miss. And bring something to the table the next time.
Lisa | |
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| please help i dont have a clue what to do
Posted: 6/23/2009 1:13:52 AM | thanks guys. well had a good talk with her last night and made it perfectly clear that i wasn't willing to talk about geting together unless she was certian its what she wants and that she isn't doing this for the wrong reasons.
we both relise and regret the mistakes we made and we have both jumped into relationships out of loneliness once we split and im realy sorry for the people that have got stuck inbetween they shouldn't have gotten hurt because of our mistakes.
all in all im willing to give us a chance if she is as sincere as she seems to be and work on the problems that caused this whole mess | |
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