| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/22/2009 10:50:04 PM | Not that anyone cares but I'll tell you how GREAT of a week I had last week....
I was dating a girl for about 3 months now and we were pretty compatible.. We got along great and didn't really get into many arguments.. We knew each other since grade school but lost touch for years and once we started hanging out again we pretty much clicked and started dating. She basically moved in with me right away and we spent alot of time together. She was very sweet. Made me very happy. I can honestly say I fell in love with her. I'm a sap like that. Sounds good right? keep reading....
Last week I woke up in a panic because I was doing work to my car and fell asleep leaving the doors wide open and stuff all over the drive way. Now usually every morning I wake up, roll over kiss her and say I love her before I actually get out of bed. But this time because I was so panicked I neglected to do my usual routine and rushed out of bed in a hurry.
After cleaning up my parts and fitting some back in, I started to flash my ECU on the computer while she slept. Well when she woke up, she wasn't to pleased for some reason. The first things she said to me were "You couldn't kiss me and say you love me?!" witch kinda stunned me because it was so random really. I told her I'm sorry and I got up to give her a kiss and she pushed me away and went upstairs. So I kept my distance.
She got all dressed up and took off without even saying bye or anything! It was very weird as this kind of thing never happened before. She called me a few hours later flipping out on me saying rude things and acting very childish. We ended up in a little argument and I just told her I didn't want to fight with her and to go stay at hers moms tonight and take some time away from me. Wrong thing to say.
She started sending me text messages saying ohh I broke up with her and she wants all her stuff and this and that. I tried to tell her no I'm not breaking up with her and to come home but she persisted saying I dumped her I dumped her, calling me names and all this crap. She started demanded her stuff from me like 100 times, I said fine. I got it all packed up and ready to go and off I went to delver it to her moms. Guess what? I had no clue where she lived. I thought I did. But all those houses look the same! So I started calling her telling her I'm near there with her stuff and to tell me where her moms was. She started ignoring me hanging up calling me names and stuff. I called her like 20 times in a row she just hung up every time. I called and left a message with her mother and waited a bit for a response but headed home after about a hour wait.
A few days later...
Guess who shows up? Her and her mother. Right away she got out of the car and demanded to know where her stuff is. I told her it was inside and she can go take it. As she rummaged threw my house I talked with her mother and her mother didn't seem to happy with me for some odd reason. Then she came outside with her stuff saying ohh wheres the rest of it and all this crap. I told her I put everything where she found it and anything else will still be where she left it or she already took it. She started flipping out, ran inside my house and started smashing stuff. She smashed my computer, my walls a bunch of cups, my door. It was nuts! I couldn't believe it! I actually ran away outside and ran to her mother saying omg shes smashing my house! A few seconds later she came outside. She started packing her stuff in her mothers car yelling stuff at me and all this crap. I told her listen I wont call the cops or anything like that I just wanted her to leave and to never come back. As soon as I said that she jumped all over me, ripping my shirt off my back, scratching me like crazy. She slapped me in my mouth and I ran away. She got in the car and left. This happened right in front of my house, right in front of the office witch is next door and like 30 neighbours standing outside. And guess what? I still didn't call the cops. I knew they would just press charges even if I didn't want to and I still didn't think she deserved that. And what happened next??
Two cops show up at my house Monday morning. They want to know where her stuff is. I told them she already came got it. They asked me why I was beating my girlfriend. And I just couldn't believe what I was hearing. This girl made a statement saying the hole time we were together that I was abusing her and hitting her and a hole bunch of bullshit! And for the record.. I have NEVER EVER laid a finger on any girl, child or animal in my life. I am totally against that. I don't like violence period. Not only did she tell them that but she also had them convinced that I was growing weed in my basement and that I was holding her stuff hostage. I almost lost it! I demanded the cops come search my house! Not only that I made it very clear what she had done in my house, done to me and what she was trying to do. They ended up documenting the damages to my house, my computer and to me and added it to the case. They told me if she comes near me to dial 9-1-1 right away and to lock my doors.
I cannot believe what this girl is trying to put me threw over nothing! This is the most ridicules thing I have ever been threw. I swear this girl made me lose all faith in ever finding a real wife.
FML.  
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:14:13 PM | OK sunshine you are all of 21, so instead of looking for a wife, how about just enjoying your youth, and schooling, and all the really great things about singlehood...
I have to say this gal sounds like she has some sort of mental issue, because anyone with a healthy mind, even if they decided to break up with someone, would not turn into a psycho biotch, unless there is a lot more to the story then was told...
I am sure her story would be different, and perhaps you have multiple personalities that one is an abuser... J/K....
Something weird triggered this girls psychosis, and frankly I wouldn't spend a lot of time trying to figure it out... HOWEVER I would suggest before moving someone in so soon, that you take time to really get to know them, and see if they have some mental issues that may end up you and your house becoming victims again...
Sighhhhhh and try and put this behind you... Change your number if you have to, because I have a sneaky suspicion that this is not the end of her drama...
Not all women go nuts like that, so instead of blaming a whole gender for her insanity, take things slow next time... | |
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Posted: 6/22/2009 11:32:29 PM | Yeah.. I don't know.. It's not that Im looking for a wife, I just enjoy having someone around you know? I was in a 5 year relationship before her witch ended in a very good friendship.
Maybe she does have a mental issue, I don't know. She had a rough life. Was addicted to drugs at one point and all that. She used to tell me horror stories if the guy she was with before hitting her, kicking her out of moving cars and stuff. Now I kinda wonder if that was made up too..
I will take your advice on not moving someone in so soon. This was obviously a mistake.
I have already changed my number and for some odd reason I don't think this is the end of the drama either.. But I do hope it is.
I don't blame the hole gender at all, just myself for being so stupid.
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:48:50 PM | I understand where you are coming from...
I just finished an abnormal psychology class, and she has definite behavior issues that suggest some really deep issues from hell...
I had a rocky nine yr marriage, however we managed to make good friends after the divorce, and we are pretty supportive of each other as friends...
Someone that creates that kind of chaos, and turns that abusive has something going on that is going to get worse over time..
Don't be to hard on yourself, most of us have our war stories that make us wonder what we were thinking at the time. Abuse is a bad combination for the dating world, especially if she has NOT gotten help to sort out the emotional damage...
I do hope for YOUR sake she finds someone real fast to turn her anger on... Then again have to pity the next guy...
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:02:15 AM | Now that you're not dating, you have some spare time - you should take her to civic court and sue her for the stuff she damaged. Additionally, go to the police and see if you can get charges pressed for filing a false police report (the abuse accusation). Might want to contact a lawyer and investigate slander/libel suits as well.
If she tries to lie her way through it, saying you were abusive, say these simple words to the police, and make sure she's there to overhear:
"Well, since it's my word against hers, I'd like to volunteer for a polygraph test. I'd also like to pay for a polygraph test for my ex. It's not admissible in court, but at least it'll tell you who's lying and who's telling the truth." Right around this time, your ex should turn very pale, and start looking quite nervous.
Don't be a doormat. This psycho needs to be taught the consequences of such behaviour. She thought she could run rough-shod over you and you'd take it lying down, which you did. Stand up for yourself. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever! /3
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:38:25 AM | | I am so sorry.I had a abusive boyfriend.Do not give up dating.There are some very nice women out there.I thought that I was done with men after my ex husband so I stayed alone for a long time.Then I said to my self one day it is time to find another man and I did and he was abusive.Now I am back to dating and this time I hope to find a good decent man.It is in gods hands this time around. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever! /3
Posted: 6/23/2009 8:21:27 AM | | Wow. It sounds like she has some major issues, having taken an abnormal psychology class it might be caused by the drug abuse in the past. Drug abuse can do that sometimes to people. But definately go to civil court and sue her for the damages she did to your house. As far as the false report, the police will charge her with a false police report on their own when they find out she made up that story. Don't give up, there are alot of good women out there. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever! /3
Posted: 6/24/2009 12:07:42 AM | Hun you'll be back out there trying to date again, and probably succeeding, and failing. You will go through 20+ more dates and women before you find the one that you can put up with her sh1t and she can put up with yours | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever! /3
Posted: 6/24/2009 7:23:59 AM | | never tell them you love them. don't move in right away either... 6 mo-a year at least. Don't take her to court unless you're American. It's a waste of time and they like ruining people's lives for some reason. You could make a complaint about the false charge though. Be grateful you didn't stop her from smashing your place or you would have been convicted. Give up if you want, I have. People notice I have after they get to know me and don't understand why. they don't have to. POF is a great way to keep that open mind about it though, it's free and doesn't take any extra effort. Just remember that your story isn't a rare one, and it could have been worse. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/24/2009 7:38:47 AM |
yea he's 21 looking for a wife- so who is the psyco??
Uhh... the lady who broke his computer, and called the cops on him? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 5:26:31 PM | I know the feeling on Phycos...not pointing fingers or nothin....but dont give up air. the right ones out there.
stand tall...dont fall for her games if you ever see her again... | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 6:50:38 PM | C'mon...there's gotta be more to the story. Otherwise this chick has an arrest record a mile long as she bounces off lifes unpadded walls. Either the signs were there and you weren't paying attention, or you saw that she was a bit off and decided to ignore it.
The other alternative might be that she's not really a morning person. 
Whatever the reasoning, causes or hidden factors......you picked her, so you can't really complain too much. :) Besides, it coulda been worse...she coulda Bobbitted you or shot your dog.
BUT...the lone positive is this....every gal from now on is gonna look like an angel from heaven in comparison to her.  | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever! /3
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:21:42 PM | yea he's 21 looking for a wife- so who is the psyco??
oh, so if a 21-year old guy is looking for a wife he is a psycho? since when this became a mental condition?
To OP: that was a horrible experience, I would probably ended up in the hospital with a breakdown if I was in your situation...be thankful she showed you her true colors while early - she appears like a devil incarnate. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:39:28 PM | | Hey man don't stress that chick. I know feelings are feelings but start now and you'll be just fine. I dunno why people say 21 and tryin to find a wife. I say well no shit everyone is. Its called a process we date chicks if we like them so much we ask them to marry us. When I went through Army Basic training I met a guy 18 married with a kid. I was like. im 18 and graduated high school like a month ago. Shit I was in shock the only thing is I dont recommend havin a kid till you are like 25 n 30 cause how you gunna raise a kid being a kid. If you married you can have fun together at least. But anyway man. She just cryin for other peoples attention and i say that chick need to see a phsyc. Take care man. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:01:47 PM | The whole issue is that she really wanted to break up with you but didn't have the guts! You're certaintly better off! Get a life, you're young, enjoy it, WITHOUT HER. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/26/2009 11:23:51 AM | You'll meet all sorts of nuts in you're life - you're young and there's lots of SANE girls out there just waiting for you to come along!
I would definitely persue recouping your damages and any legal costs you may incur due to her acting like a nut. Do you have any full names of the ex's who supposedly beat her? If she's making up this much about you I would put money on it that she's lying about them too. They would probably be willing to testify on your behalf.
If I were you, I would be glad that you found out how nuts she really is before you actually married this girl! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 12:22:01 PM | Wow!!
I am sorry you had to got thru that!! I know how men are to on here!! they are sum Losers and it's even very scary to even talk to them!! I hear ya!! They need to do sum kind of background check on this site!!
Sorry!!
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:26:27 PM | OMG! If some crazy **** did that to my son's place, we would all be fighting mvtherfvckers. You should have called the police the moment she showed up with her mother and not allowed her entry into your place until the cops arrived.
But let that be a lesson to you:
1. Don't start that live-in stuff with only 3 months into the relationship.
2. Don't let anyone into your house that you know to be unstable, especially when they show up at your door with other people.
3. Next time, call the police. Pretty sure she isn't going to leave this alone. File a complaint against her, take pics if she destroys anything else, and take that **** to court. | |
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| Thats It! I'm done dating forever!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:03:52 AM | [okay... a quick... cut an' paste in here... "Ctrl+v" and there we...]
Take a break dude....
Take a long... LONG... Break...
You'll be refreshed and ready to jump back into the Ocean of Madness in no time!
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