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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:43:10 AM | This thread is not meant to harm, hurt or hinder anyone and I love everyone with the same respect, so this is nothing more then a friendly debate. So lets keep it mature and real!!
Ok, I was talking to a friend the other day about a message she received, it was from a guy who had nothing on his profile to go by, just a few pictures. His profile said that he was honest and caring and bla bla bla.... gave no interest or insight to his life. The question she received in the mail where stuff like, do you live alone, where do you see yourself in 5 years and other finical questions. We both laughed so hard!
This is all fine an dandy, but when I looked at the guy, mind you he was Mr.G Q all buff and so very nice to look at, my friend is a shorter chubby goth girl, they have so little in common, what struck me as off colour was the fact he was in a round about way talking about "long term" as in being committed together forever. Instaly gave his contact information. This guy is not even from our country or even American and I doubt he is even a Canadian Citizen.
If you have no interests the same, or very little, why contact someone?!
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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:45:46 AM | I wonder about the same thing I have had guys message me and this is before I have even had the chance to speak to them at all and they give me all their contact details such as phone numbers, email, skype etc.
It's not good to be that forward because even if you are a great catch it comes off desperate. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:50:23 AM | Hmmmm.........some people are just born players and try to see how many conquests they can actually have in a lifetime. I will not say that it is strictly men because women do the same thing, leaving a trail of broken hearts in their wake.
This guy may see your friend as an easy target who because of her looks or personality style would be impressed by the quick onslaught of sharing and the appearance of being a caring individual.......
I'd run from this so quick, I'd leave a vacuum of air behind me. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:56:55 AM |
I wonder about the same thing I have had guys message me and this is before I have even had the chance to speak to them at all and they give me all their contact details such as phone numbers, email, skype etc.
Ths same type of men also contact me, in spite of obvious incompatable wants, locations, and even sometimes anti- their own must haves. WTF? Over.
I mostly just respond once politely with a "you might want to actually read my profile " and write them off as bored or lazy.
 
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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:59:20 AM | | ^^^^ I know exact;y what you mean I get messaged by people who clearly haven't read my profile and only see my pics when they ask what I do for a living that is the most annoying!!! I'd understand it if my profile looked like an essay but it's like take 2 secs to read it i read theirs. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:01:08 AM | | Delete the player. It's like those unsolicated e-mails you get saying you have won free money. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:02:58 AM | ive gotten the same from hot women "from other countries". it will be a slightly filled profile with super hot pics my fave though...
texan very religous christian girl working at hooters. is from texas but on vaction in nigeria. i think you see where this is goiing. they are very common scammers from africa avoid like the plague. there was a msnbc special to catch a con where they talked about this. they keep it strictly over internet try to talk and act serious from long distance either get you to send them gifts or the check scam. done with guys and girls.
dont be fooled sometimes they try to change things slightly it wont be nigeria it will be a country near it. or like in op friend case will even out right say they are from another country but same deal hot pics and they try to get close. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:07:34 AM | hmm is he looking for a green card?..men like this puts a big sign  i try not to even get any contact info this individual sounds like hes out to get you if you ever watched 20/20 men from other countries try to lewer women to spending money or send money to them....never know what type of people you might run into just keep your eyes open my friend's | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:12:26 AM | | What makes you think those were really the guy's pictures? People lie on the internet all the time. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:16:15 AM | Warning! Internet dating scam detected!
Ok let's see, talking about long term, GQ-esque appearance, very interested in someone that appears to be an unlikely match (your friend), giving out contact information too soon, and who asks for a 5 year plan? Pshh.... I know I'll be pay my car payment next month and maybe buy some food afterward, but don't ask me about 5 years down the road. Geez, what am I? A corporation with a business plan?
Yeah sounds like a great guy, actually. I'd date him. Except I like women. But make sure you get his money first and run for the hills later. It might be in Nigerian dollars, or Euros (or Rubles) but that's what currency exchanges are for.
I'd run from this so quick, I'd leave a vacuum of air behind me.
Not a dust trail, rooster tail, dust cloud, tracks, tire marks. I love geeky nuggets like that. I'll have to use that one. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:27:26 AM | Frankly, I'm a little surprised at how quickly some people jump to conclusions. For all you know, he might have been a very nice guy who just lacked some social skills. I mean, you didn't describe the message as being anything gross or sexual like women usually complain about. The way I see it, the guy sent a decent, respectful email and that STILL wasn't good enough - you girls actually LAUGHED at it! How ignorant is that??
BTW, scammers & players DON'T ask those kinds of questions in an initial contact...
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:27:45 AM |
hmm is he looking for a green card?..
My thoughts exactly, he's on the prowl to make a new life in another country, at the expense of an unsuspecting lady(s). | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:28:11 AM | With the scenario described, it sounds like he is looking for a sugar mama and thinks your friend might be desperate enough to fall for his b.s. if he decides to lay it on thick.
In other cases, people have reading deficits and think if they e-mail enough, someone will bite. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:46:50 AM | | It's a very, very common scam. I can virtually guarantee it's a Nigerian without even seeing the profile in question. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:59:47 AM | First off, you have no idea if he really is Mr GQ (unless they met)
Second off, if he truly is and he is takling long term before they even met and asking those kinds of questions off the bat; I have to admit the first thing that comes to my mind is scam. Find someone vulnerable, get he or she belieivng in legitimacy; play the cards and then either try and move in or get financed (WAY too many of those things here; don't even get me started on the international people wanting to get married to a citizen and move here).
It could be innocent; but tell her to be careful.
Way too many women and men are being played by the "beautiful people too good to be true".
Especially the ones who are not from here. (not saying all not merican born are scam artists; I know many and they have been awesome) but there are many international people preying on the internet) | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 10:09:10 AM | Yep it is a scam. sorry Navigator but you were wrong on this one. If you want to really have fun with this play along. You will notice that at the beginning the wording of the messages are very clear and concise. But as time goes on, you will start to notice that the "english" language starts getting butchered. It is like someone starts the scam with you, and then turns it over to someone else. And inevitably it comes down to, I need some help getting back home. I cannot cash a check here in this country, but if you will send me some cash, I will pay you back as soon as I get back.... Does this sound like I am speaking from experience... ding ding... you win again.... Yep, I was suckered in... I was caught hook, line and sinker right up until he asked for money. Then trust me, the brakes came on so damn fast, I left skid marks across half of Washington state.... So people please be careful. As my mama used to say "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is." I hope that ya'all understand that it is very embarrasing for me to admit to this.... Here I am with my "training" and all. And yet I was still a victim. I was very fortunate in the fact that I did not spend a dime, or lose a cent in this... But it cost more to my self esteem and my faith in mankind than I could imagine....
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:28:18 AM | | Yep, gotta go with scam here. He probably wants to know about her finances so he can schmooze her a bit and then have her send him some money since he's stuck in some 3rd world country and can't cash his check there but promise he'll pay her back once he gets off the plane. BWaaaahahahaha Yeah.... And I have ocean front property for sale in Kansas..... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:58:45 AM | I am for to be needing monies in America
my internet cabling of connections has become less.
Please send some cashes and I will kiss upon you at my earliest returning!
My english is actually much worse!  | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:48:54 PM | Not all Men From Other Countries who are looking for a women are just looking for a GreenCard, Thats just so judgmental. Ive met some really nice Men who are not from here that are More Respectful and Honest then Most American Men.
But there are warning signs to watch for ANY MAN you meet. They want you to send them Money RED FLAG! that goes for all Not just People who are not from our country.
And Also if you learned that from the Media and not experienced it with more then a handful of people then you shouldnt judge because everyone should know what you see in the Media is Overdone and Exaggerated and Media always wants you to see the Negative in certain things so they can have that "STORY"..When are people going to stop depending on news and TV for Answers. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 1:12:49 PM | | I have been approached by so-called men from other countries mainly Nigeria, I even had one from England. The first one I had saying he needed me to send him some money and I was suspious after seeing the pictures he sent me, he shouldn't need me to send him money. I found it odd that most of the men were from Africa. From that point on I am leary about anyone asking me to send them any money or gifts and quickly stop communicating with them. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 2:31:48 PM | Today I've been getting a lot of short mesages something along the lines of "hi, ur pretty, give me your MSN so we can chat" from supposed 30 something black men in undiclosed areas of my province. They have no profile to speak of, and no pictures at all!
They get a thanks, but no thanks message and a block. I figure at best they wanna know if I have a webcam or something, and at worst are creepy. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 2:41:27 PM | Warn your friend ....
There are way more gold digger MEN on line than there are gold digger women.
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Posted: 6/23/2009 2:50:52 PM | This guy is not even from our country or even American and I doubt he is even a Canadian Citizen. If you have no interests the same, or very little, why contact someone?! "
Remember POF Tropicalfem and all of her alias and male "friends"? maybe same reason: money and immigration.
Not the first one doing it on dating sites, not the last. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 3:07:06 PM |
Today I've been getting a lot of short mesages something along the lines of "hi, ur pretty, give me your MSN so we can chat" from supposed 30 something black men in undiclosed areas of my province. They have no profile to speak of, and no pictures at all!
OK now THIS is classic scam behavior - lure you away from the site to an IM and then sweet talk their way into your bank account. IMO, this is different than what OP described. I stand by my previous post and say that I would question whether or not her friend's guy was a scammer/player, and suggest that he may have just been a socially inept potential suitor. | |
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