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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:34:09 AM | | I have seen some great advice given here. How about my profile? Could one (or many)of you take a look and let me know what you think? Any ideas concerning tag line, description (or lack of), or photos will be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! | |
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OKRob
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Joined: 6/4/2009
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Posted: 6/23/2009 9:38:48 AM | | There seems to a lot of words about what you don't want in a man or in a relationship. As well as a lot of words about what you do want. But it all sounded very demanding and final. I doubt you intended it this way but some re-writing and relaxing might be in order :) | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 10:29:07 AM | | Thanks for the input and the little smiley face at the end to soften the blow! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:02:11 AM | 1. Mentioning that you don't like playing games...
I see this so much, and it drives me nuts. Are there really girls who enjoy it when guys mess with their minds and lie to them? (I had to do a bit of reading to figure out what women meant when they mentioned games before I found this out.) I don't think there are any such women, so why should you point out that you don't like it. When I read it, I think that the woman who wrote it has had a lot of bad experiences with men, and that she's going to be prejudiced against me just because of my gender. That's not something that sounds good to me.
2. You talk a lot about the serious parts of a relationship you like. I think it would be best to cut back a little on this. Instead, convince guys that you are fun to spend time with. You say that a sense of humor is important. Who doesn't want that? Instead, how about putting a few jokes or (not mean) sarcastic comments on your profile. Prove that you've got a sense of humor, and guys might just send you funny messages right off the bat.
3. You won't let men younger than 46 or older than 51 contact you? If that's all you're attracted to, then fine. I'm 24, and I will accept messages from young ladies ages 19 - 29. Either extreme is pushing it a little bit for me, but if she is incredible, I don't think I'd mind the age so much. I suggest that you set the ages that are at the fringes of your comfort zones. You don't necessarily have to return messages or date the men who respond. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:49:38 AM | Okay, I tweaked it a little bit. I'm not sure I can convey my sense of humor effectively. I come off sounding off the wall - which I guess is the kind of sense of humor I have. I'll give it a try.
Thanks! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 11:53:13 AM | Let's see...
Handle is amusing. Headline works with handle but not so much standalone. So, on a profile, the joke is clear, but in searches, it is not.
Photos are pretty good - good expression, some variety, requisite full body shot (with a good caption to boot). Main photo is well chosen.
I liked the interests as well. About the right number, varied, some with funny descriptions. Interests are usually a good place to give someone a subject for an opening message, and I think you make it pretty easy for someone who is interested to contact you with a good opening line.
I would change the phrase "be better at it this time". Seems to imply a little baggage here, which shouldn't be in profile, especially since your next paragraph mentions that you don't want any.
I'd also remove some of the "nots". The negativity mentioned above seems to be gone mostly, but still, there are a few traces. It is usually better to focus on what you want rather than what you don't. E.g, liking the clean shaven look instead of disliking facial hair, liking someone with variety of interests instead of disliking sports fanatic, liking to communicate in person instead of disliking long chain of emails, etc...
There is too much description of what you are looking for, and not enough of who you are. I'd focus a little more on you and a little less on your partner. Describe yourself a little more, with a paragraph on your interests and one on personality. I'd also expand the first date section a bit.
As mentioned, expand your age range. Way too narrow, especially since this is an absolute restriction. A potential match can't even contact you if he falls outside of the range. And, while huge age differences are usually not good, I'd allow at least 8 years on either side of your own age. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:06:43 PM | | Well, I think I'm a little old for anyone younger than 46 and from my experience (and level of maturity) guys older than 51 seem somewhat "fatherly" when I've been on dates with them. Still, I guess I could raise the latter age a bit.... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:08:06 PM | | Thanks. I'm a little confused about the handle/headline thing. Will look into it. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:12:54 PM | | Can someone give me a for instance on the handle/headline thing? I have a brain glitch or something | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:25:54 PM | Y - okay, after reading your profile I see that I do indeed respect your opinion and I agreed with the woman who said she was careful not to have liquid in her mouth before opening one of your e-mails. Okay, I have one question.... will YOU write my profile?
Make that two questions...
About how much did all of those great testimonials set you back? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:35:14 PM | Handle is your user name "Insert Clever Line Here". It is pretty funny all by itself. Headline is the line of dashes. It works as part of the joke in the handle, as in "the place where to insert the clever line".
But, when you do a search, they don't show next to each other, so the joke is lost. It's no big deal (relatively minor part of the profile), just thought I'd mention that.
As for age restriction, the problem is that number of years is only a part of maturity. You can certainly indicate a preference, but the problem is that someone who is biologically of certain age might have a mindset and energy of someone much younger or older. Heck, my best friend is half my age and in some ways she is more mature than me. And, you can always rule out someone who acts too young or too old - but don't stop them from being able to even contact you. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 12:47:29 PM | | Thanks again Y! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 1:09:20 PM | | Pictures need to be better. Only one body shot and tons of head shots. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 6:21:04 PM | Thanks for your input. I know there are a lot of head shots, but I think the body shots are so that you can show you are not hefty - not that there's anything wrong with that - and I think you can tell by my face that I'm not. Plus I'm proud at how natural the "work" I've had done on my face looks.....now I'm really kidding!
Maybe I'm not showing my "assets" well enough with my body shot. But they are there - just don't want to advertise to the wrong crowd, you know? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2009 8:40:43 PM | | I think you did a great job on your profile! I have one item of caution, though. I think your jokes about heavy petting and playing spin the bottle are amusing. However, guys will wonder if there's some truth behind those statements, even though you're pretty clearly meaning to be funny. I think that you might get contacted more from guys who are just looking for sex. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 2:44:55 AM | | You know, I was afraid of that myself. Thank you - I'll tone it down a bit. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 8:11:43 AM | I liked!!
You have humour and get across what you're looking for and what type of person you are! I think it's a really good profile!
Maybe next time you're out somewhere with freinds get them to take some pics for you to put on here ... some of your pics are a bit too 'samey' (not a real word I know  ) get a bit of variation in there
Caro  | |
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