| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:03:03 PM | why is it when your interested in someone and they seem interested back and things are starting to go on its way then stuff happens and everything changes.
why are men like this? dont they realize that woman have feelings and they come on this site to find true love. not to get your dreams crashed and stompted on! that they actually wanna meet their sole mate, not to the impression that nothings gonna work and your not gonna find anyone!! | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:20:21 PM | Are you talking about Internet dating, or dating in general?
If you're talking about Internet dating, here are a few quick realities that once you realize and accept you'll be better able to deal with "it."
1. 9 times out of 10 you are not the only person he/she is talking to. It is highly likely that you are one of a few to several. It is not uncommon to be talking with someone, with everything going so very well - in your eyes - then suddenly they're gone. Happens all the time. Usually because they've found something "better" and forgot to tell you.
2. There are a lot of attention junkies out there (on this site) who have absolutely zero intention of actually meeting anyone. They're addicted to their inbox. Once you've satisfied their ego, they're gone.
3. The anonymity of the Internet seems to give people license to be as cruel and uncaring as they wish. Take for instance the read/delete posts where people complain of taking care and time to write a decent, interesting email only to have it discarded like the oh so popular “omg ur hawt letz chat” junk mail we often get. | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:21:38 PM | If may offer you a friendly piece of advice?
You seem like a sweet girl - I realize you're 21, but still, the photos of you holding up a beer bottle don't send a very good message. | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/25/2009 4:46:01 AM | cinsay said: 9 times out of 10 you are not the only person he/she is talking to. It is highly likely that you are one of a few to several. It is not uncommon to be talking with someone, with everything going so very well - in your eyes - then suddenly they're gone. Happens all the time. Usually because they've found something "better" and forgot to tell you.
I found the way to cut through this is to just date casually.. This way no promises are made to date only them, and they are free to date who they want as well and do not have to lie about it!
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/25/2009 5:58:29 AM |
If may offer you a friendly piece of advice?
You seem like a sweet girl - I realize you're 21, but still, the photos of you holding up a beer bottle don't send a very good message.
Speak for yourself, not all of us, mate. Girls who like beer get a +1 to their hot stat by default. | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/25/2009 6:01:49 AM | | This so true your image gives you what sometimes you do not want. What gets me is a user will e mail you and start talking for a few days and then when you are to meet they do not call or show up and it hurts. I ma aolder woman not asking alot just a night out even dutch. So you are only 21 and unfortunately you will have to kiss alot of frogs before that prince comes just let God advise you and lead you and you will be fine. | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/25/2009 6:16:52 AM |
...because they've found something "better" and forgot to tell you...
I dont know about this advice... I guess Im very much into perspective and this is a pretty negative one. Like another poster said, look at it as you are dating casually (which not the same as having casual sex). You go on dates to HAVE FUN, nothing more or less. You meet someone interesting you feel comftorable with, and you do something together. If it leads to a second date, awesome! If not, well, that person was not right for you for whatever reason or maybe even no reason. Did they find someone "Better"? Better fit for them, maybe. Perhaps they saw something in you that they feel is not compatible with them. "Better" than you? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I feel for the other poster who stated she had been stood up on more than one occasion. Ive had this happen to me, and I know it doesnt feel good at all. Usually that passes quickly though, and Im back at the ole fishing hole! Hang in there, not all people are like that and unfortunately, you do have to weed through the bad ones to find the good.
Bouncing right along... | |
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/25/2009 7:56:22 PM | it just really sucks when you hear exactly what you wanna hear..
Im not like the otheres, im different, im actually looking for somone not just to be intimate, etc..
and no matter what... it all ends out the same way!!!
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:59:11 AM | | yea my ex he cheated on me.... then for a month he made me beleive he was sooo different then other guys. i believed it.... i didn't have a clue in the world he slept with my bestfriend. until he came out and actually just told me.... he was really really drunk the night it happen. she wasn't really though | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 10:16:50 AM | Your dreams of true love have nothing to do with real life. I love to daydream but I know the difference between a dream and reality. If what he says matches your dream, great, but at no point will life become that dream. If what you want to hear is a man saying dreamy things, you're bound to disappointment. The one exception is if you dream of a man who says what he has to say regardless of whether that is what you want to hear. Then your dream will come true because it is a dream of reality. It's like that wooden boy with the variable length nose who dreamt of becoming a real boy.
To be mature and responsible for your own feelings is a first step across the divide between fantasy and reality. Listen to hear what is being said, not for how closely it matches your romantic dream, but for what it really means. Then work with what you hear, and go from there. Otherwise all that will keep happening is you will be shopping your dream around, and starting in with men who say dreamy things to start, and then blaming them for deceiving you when it turns out, which it always must, that your dream cannot be supported by what is really happening. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 10:48:33 AM | First mistake- it's not just men, women, and thus all people, do this too.
Second- accordingly all people have feelings.
You have a long, long way to go before you're ready for an emotional commitment, but Four- you're only 21, what do you honestly expect? You're over the cusp of the teens and now it's time for something serious, never having any experience or knowing what that may entail?
As with my response- you'll read what you want to read. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 12:23:23 PM | Sometimes Reality doesnt always appear Rational either. I played by those rules of rationally too, using my minds better judgement to pick & choose who'd I even go out with. It was only through HIS persistence that I chose to. Not only was I shown true admiration and affection from him, I also fell in love with him as well. Only the happiness that I thought I had been sharing with him had turned into my totally unrational reality...
Love is like a seesaw, ones up in the air-while the other decides either to just sit there holding it down-or jumps off it entirely slamming your real owlity right to the ground!
The key is to play (or balance) the board.
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:00:05 PM | lol,im not gonna lie i've been on this site for 6 months an my success has been absolutle an under nothing.i've had no results,this site pretty much is a dud to me its hasnt worked ever for me,say women want honesty its a lie.you tell them the truth an u get shit an such neways peace MMFWCL | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 8:43:03 PM | I don't give a flyin shit how precious or fragile your feelings are. Whenever you put your heart and soul "out there" you are taking a risk. Everything is on you. If some guy plays or messes around with your feelings, that's your fault, cause you allowed it to happen.
If somebody pushes you off the horse and you fall to the ground, then you simply get back up and keep riding. Of course if you have a hard time getting back on, don't expect anybody to help or assist you. Peoples feelings will always get hurt online, whether its due to empty promises, simple sweet talking, or just plain BS. Get the f*ck over it. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2009 1:04:22 PM | jacob8088
hope you get crushed
what an inconsiderate rock thrower you are!
you are the symbol of being bored and in your selfrightious mind think it's cool to preach your obvious "coolness" on a forum like this.
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| you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:17:19 AM | ^^^wow , Im just shaking in my bvd's tough guy. This coolness that you speak of, sounds something of your sort...not mines
Keep your head cool, otherwise you might actually bust a vein.. | |
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