| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 10:44:56 AM | | I see a lot of mention that people show up on dates to find out their date looks nothing like their picture. Either they are older or heavier or both. This actually happened to me once but I was wondering if anyone has ever shown up to a date to find out this person is actually more attractive than their picture. This has actually happened to me twice so I guess I'm a fortunate minority here. I had talked to both women on the phone and although they had less than flattering pictures the conversation was great. It's quite a nice surprise to find out the person you had so much in common with was actually considerably more attractive than you originally though. Any similar experiences? | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:16:02 AM | Absolutely. I started chatting to this guy, it was rather funny that we actually started off on the wrong foot, but things got better. He did not look very attractive in the pic, but seemed like such an interesting person that I agreed to meet him. Boy was I in for a shock... he was absolutely handsome. Looked nothing like his pic. And we have a lunch date for Friday.  | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:54:39 AM | | Yes, I've met men who were much better looking in person than in their photos. Not everyone is photogenic. In fact, I would bet that most people aren't. I have also met men who used old photos and you could hardly recognize them. But if there is a connection over the phone and online, then looks fade in importance. I look forward to meeting a new friend. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:59:22 AM | | I have found that if pictures are half decent and you find them remotely attractive, they are going to be way hotter in person. You don't get to see someone's zest for life through a picture. In person you can see them talk, laugh, smile, eye contact...all that wonderful stuff! It's like having a picture come to life and bring their personality to combine with their still-image looks. Yum, yum! :) | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:06:57 PM | For the most part I would say that I haven't met anyone that really looked like their picture. Most have been better than, some worse than and equally some have just been different. Not better or worse, just different. They obviously used a current pic but the 2D image just wasn't the same as the 3D reality.
I don't really put a lot of stock in the pic. If someone comes across as a halfway decent person I will meet them and base any potential off my impressions in r/l. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:12:28 PM | Most of those I've met were better looking than their pics.
I was told I looked better in person...meh.
It's all subjective anyway.
But, it is a pleasant surprise to find that the person is nice and normal looking...and not one of those horror stories you hear about. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:28:44 PM | | All of my pics are current (within the last 12 months, some very recent). I always tell anyone I meet that I do look like my picture so I should be easy to spot. They're usually pleased to hear that. I take care of myself and value how I present myself, so I can't imagine letting myself go like many do. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:54:55 PM | Quit whining...if you have issues along this line...put it in your profile that before agreeing to a meet-n-greet that you will want to web-cam with the person for a while...make sure they are who they say they are, can walk and talk and chew gum at the same time...and that you have no issues with them looking like your ex-wife, mother or Joan Rivers.
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 1:15:56 PM | | I have met men that are better in person and also some that look better In the picture....also I some have told me I look better in the pic and others in person too but over all once you get to know the person ..the inside is what counts .. Good luck to all of you. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:17:30 PM | My first online meet-up involved a person who used the magical wonders of cropping to hide her horrid obesity problem. When we met up, I wanted to cry and run back inside into my safe, cozy room... 
Okay, maybe not that.. but it was still a bit of a scary surprise. We got along after a while but things only lasted for a month. 300 lbs, cigarette breath, and a ultra-filthy mouth just doesn't work with me. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:32:12 PM | Dayum!
Pashune: I'm sorry, but you look female in that pic right there!
OP: I'm in this boat.
I thought she looked older in her pics than profile listed. I mean, she looked at least 10 years older in her pics. Then she posted a different pic. All of a sudden, that grey streak looked blonde.
Plus, she didn't sound 50-something on the phone!
We got along great in IM and phone conversations, so I tossed caution to the wind.
We are still together and EXTREMELY happy!
Not everybody is photogenic, but you do the best you can with what you've got.
Only experience teaches you how to recognize those that are being deceptive with their pics. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:41:26 PM |
Pashune: I'm sorry, but you look female in that pic right there!
I knew I should have gotten a better picture... 
Ah well, girls who can figure out I'm actually a male usually go for the whole eyeliner thing. I usually just wear it because it's fun to stare at myself. Kinda creepy, I know. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:06:27 PM | I find quite often that if a person has several pictures posted in their profile, the person in each picture often looks totally different then the one in the others.
So if a person can't look alike in a handful of pictures, they surely aren't going to look like their pictures "in the flesh".
I'm dating a woman now, who looks so much better than her pictures, that when she met me in the diner, I was checking her out for a split second before she sat down in front of me and it clicked that she was my online date.
Unfortunately more often it doesn't work out quite that way. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:51:56 PM | Mr. Provo (and sig. other). Congrats. Your post made me feel like cheering.
Pash, I mean no insult but I had the exact same reaction to your photo as Provo did. My immediate thought was, "Woa, female-female date in POF". Then I checked your profile and that same pic looked different there and I realized my error. You may want to at least change the default photo. You can still keep that one to maintain your personal sense of self. You seem like a cool guy btw. It's just the way the photo comes off when seen out of context like in here, next to our individual postings.
I've had similar experiences to most everyone here (except Provo..yet).
I did note though that in talking with the women I met off internet singles sites the "Pic doesn't = reality" (old photo from high school. That kinda thing), was the #1 thing women I met mentioned when we talked about the negative aspects of some of the encounters. | |
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| Showing up to find out your date doesn't look like their picture
Posted: 6/25/2009 4:15:10 PM |
Pash, I mean no insult but I had the exact same reaction to your photo as Provo did. My immediate thought was, "Woa, female-female date in POF". Then I checked your profile and that same pic looked different there and I realized my error. You may want to at least change the default photo. You can still keep that one to maintain your personal sense of self. You seem like a cool guy btw. It's just the way the photo comes off when seen out of context like in here, next to our individual postings.
Ah, gotcha. That's no problem at all. | |
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