| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 3:55:30 PM | I've tried to make my profile sound like I'm friendly, have interests and can be a fun person to be around.
Is it the education thing that makes men not want to meet me? Or is gardening and cooking just too boring to mention?  | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 4:38:30 PM | Any man intimidated by your level of education might be an "iffy " match anyway. I personally LIKE to see educated women, and if you have more than me, so?
I like your profile ... just keep in mind that men want simple things from women, in a general sense. We want to know that you like us AS WE ARE, and that you are comfortable with HOWEVER we are. That is a big part of RESPECT, which we crave above almost everything else. Most honest men will tell you that we want respect more than love.
I think your profile is fine .... I'd message you if you were closer! | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:04:53 PM | Well, it DOES look like you're choking that chicken in the one pic...got one of you twisting its head off? That'd be classic.
Other than that, you really need to flesh your profile out...not enough info to be intimidated. My advice is to check out the writing tips thread and read LOTS of profiles . Some will appeal, most won't. Use what appeals to YOU as a guide...hopefully that would appeal to your 'type' too. You only need one, right?
As a general rule of thumb, I don't put much effort into emailing someone with little to say...I can talk to myself anytime without risk of carpal tunnel syndrome. | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:00:11 PM | maybe it is the way you have your career spelled that is shooin the guys off. I would expect that a person with a masters could spell 'retired'? =)
Not to much there to be intimitated over.
Being around a 2,000 pound bull with a attitude intimidates me, 3 pictures and a paragraph does not. | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:07:57 PM | | If I might chime in. You can't really see your face in your primary picture. POF is a sea of thumbnails and what is likely to stand out is a good face picture with a smile. Your intetests are a little light. You describe yourself and what you like to do but there's not much about the kind of person you're looking to meet. Profile with 3 short paragraphs tend to work best. Although there is some good information in yours it's a bit brief. | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:23:56 PM | | You are a Scorpio, its intimidating. LOL! JK, I am a Scorpio too. But seriously its just some people try to avoid Scorpios... Sounds stupid but its true... | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:28:47 PM | Your profile says that you are 59 years old and well educated. That is the sort of thing that would appeal to men 55 and beyond. The main picture seems, to me, to be inappropriate for an educated woman with a good income and your block of interests.
My advice to other posters is to indicate those personal characteristics that make you unique. For example, if you were the editor of your high school yearbook or, like one of my friends, a professor of computer art, that would make you unique. Similarly, serving in the Peace Corps makes you unique among women.
What effect does being unique have? Being unique reduces the number of men who will write to you, and that is a good thing. It eliminates the men who are intimidated by your special qualities thereby reducing the amount of mail you must answer while simultaneously increasing the appropriateness of the mail you do receive.
Good Fishing
Leib | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:33:28 PM | No, it's not the education perhaps the occupation? Are you "retried" or actually "retired"?
All the best, its a great profile. | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:12:43 AM | OK, I see it now.
One typo seems to be the biggest issue. Plus the fact that my profile is too short.
And my pictures don't fit what an educated woman should look like?????
Frankly, the pictures show who I am and how I live.
Oh...and the chicken picture always seems to get the "chicken choking" comment.
Thanks for the critique, folks! | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:08:41 AM | Can’t tell for sure but I get the feeling of sarcasm in your comment to reviewers. That could come across in your email contacts. May wish to be careful of that.
As to the photos, they are good. I think your primary is great if you are looking to hook up. My gut tells me that those guys of similar education and status are not looking for that. I know that is not my goal.
Ron | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:33:17 AM | According to your profile you live "in the middle of nowhere".
It could just be a simple matter of not that many men (available or not) within a "reasonable" distance.
I'll assume you've done a search with your basic parameters. If not...do that first. If you find someone interesting, drop them a line....or wait for them to write you. I'd also suggest going to your regional forum (upper left, home page...click USA...then scroll down to your state).
It could just be you're "geographically challenged".  | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:06:21 PM |
Can’t tell for sure but I get the feeling of sarcasm in your comment to reviewers. That could come across in your email contacts. May wish to be careful of that.
Oh, sorry Ron...
I guess I should be NICER 
And I added that picture because one of the folks who critiqued my profile said that my primary picture didn't show my face clearly.
And the "Chicken Picture" gets a laugh but no mail.
I guess I am just damned if I do and damned if I don't.
OK, sexy picture is gone. | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:50:58 PM | I just looked at where you live and it does seem rather remote which does cut down your odds a bunch. I also checked your post to “What do men in their 50's look for in a woman's profile?”. That post confirmed to me that you have a very sarcastic streak. Asking for a review was not a mistake, that is like saying getting an education was a mistake. Sorry that you feel that way.
Sexy photos will draw those guys looking for a booty call so if that’s what you want, go for it.
If you are instead looking for a relationship with someone of education and high intellect then spelling and grammar are important because all we have to go on is what you say in your profile.
When giving a review, we do not always give the reasons for our comments. Maybe we should, but it takes so much more time.
I do wish you luck but your location and what I perceive as a negative attitude are going to be very limiting. By the way I do find that you are a very good looking lady that will surely help you.
Ron | |
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| Am I That Intimidating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:26:47 PM | | I think your profile sounds straightforward and genuine, and it sounds like you are comfortable with yourself. You mention being most comfortable in jeans, but also being amenable to dressing up. All three of your pictures are very casual. Do you have any pictures of yourself (pardon the expression) "dolled up" for a special occasion? A recent wedding? Social event? A clearer picture of you without glasses would probably also be beneficial. | |
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