| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/26/2009 4:12:17 PM | Well......just a little confused here....
I did meet someone close to my home town...we decided to meet and had chatted a bit...he mentioned to me he would meet me at my work, for our first chance to meet.
We also planned a one day on the weekend to go boating and have a good day....
Well he was a No show.......I just don't understand how someone can make you feel so good about yourself, and then bang....without a call or any explaination he is gone.
I was looking so forward to meeting him and thought this would be great...we seemed to have so much in common. Our chats were great....
Now I am left to feel I did something wrong....how can anyone do this to a person..... | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/26/2009 4:27:30 PM | I have no idea what led him to do that to you, but I am quite sure the chances are that YOU did something wrong are slim.
Have you tried getting ahold of him and asking? | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:22:54 PM | | Hi, I met a guy on a chat line and had a relationship for 19 months, happen less from his side of things. He got a good catch with me, said what he said to make me feel good, and used his words to 'do whatever' -! All he does is use a woman , talk nicely to beg steal or borrow, then drop her when something new comes along - just like a car - he fancies a younger model. Why was I taken in to believin him? Why - because he's a silver tongued man, thinks every woman loves him and if U get 2 know him, he is proud to show off his one and only asset, so dont be mislead by men anymore, just beware! | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:58:26 PM | You didn't do anything wrong, just a few idiots on this site that do it if you let them. Shows what kind of man he is and in a real big need to grow a pair. It hurts like hell but think of it this way, what if he had met you? Imagine how much more it would have hurt if had pulled you along for a while and then disappeared. He did you a favor and you don't need him or people like him in your life. Lesson learned for the next time.
Good luck searching! | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/26/2009 10:38:24 PM | | Why would you plan on meeting at your work for a first date? That's a really bad idea, in my opinion. | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:51:45 AM | | YOU did nothing wrong here. This is all about him. I am betting that he had not moved on with his life and maybe he is better on email than in person. There could be a million reasons. Bottom line, is this was adolescent behaviour and you are better to know this now. Do not waste your time thinking about what might have happened. You are better than that. Take the lesson and move forward. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 7:17:20 AM | I feel your pain. I had been chatting with a woman here for a few days and we decided to go out this weekend. I thought she was excited about it, because she said so. I haven't heard from her in 3 days, Today is date day and I am not holding my breath. Why are people so inconsiderate? Oh well better to learn now than dropping a bunch of cash on a date then have her blow me me off. Anyway, fellow POFers, hang in there and keep fishing!  | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:15:04 PM | Well, I can beat that. I went to another COUNTRY after chatting for six months, spent two weeks with a young lady, made plans for marriage in one year....and three weeks later found her back on the dating site. Talk about having your guts ripped out. I can barely get out of bed. Yeah, why mislead? This puzzles me. I don't see the point of lying to people and hurting people. But then I'm very sensitive to the feelings of others, or at least I try to be. This stuff can be soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard.
You're right, some people are just mean. There is no other way to put it. They don't care about others and are not able to put themselves in someone else's shoes.
I think that both of our "friends" here had buyer's remorse and changed their minds. Oh well, karma is a **** and ALWAYS catches up with people in the end.
Hey, and in your case you found out early. This is a blessing in disguise. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 7:24:18 PM | | WOW... that's just sick..to go to another country for someone, and have them do that to you. I am very discouraged w/ most of the guys I've met on this site. The men i have meet have stood me up, lead me on and all of the above. There's no respect or consideration for anyones feelings....or time for that matter. I guess the good part IS finding out sooner than later | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:38:16 PM | I think you have to have thick skin; that is, assume that you'll probably be stood up or lied to unless proven otherwise. I'm not sure why people chicken out but they do. Perhaps it's just the "disposable" world we live in that anything (i.e., people) can be jettisoned away without warning or notice.
Try not to romanticize this guy or the brief friendship you had. Whatever his excuse (deportation, arrested, spontaneous combustion), he left you floating out there. And that's not a friend.
Like someone has said, it's better than you found out his real (inconsiderate) nature sooner rather than later. | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:45:40 PM | Why are people so inconsiderate?
Simple. The system of pixels, modems, and miles upon miles of cables and fiber optics allow for the dehumanization of an individual. Ergo, it’s easy to overlook the fact that at the other end of that email is living, breathing person. Add the fact there are no repercussions for being discourteous in an online world and voila!
It stings because you, after viewing their profile and deciding to make contact, have developed a slight infatuation for them; you have essentially made an emotional investment - regardless of how small or great. Meanwhile, at the other end of the system, they have no tangable connection to you; you are nothing more than a photo with a paragraph or two about your likes and or dislikes. | |
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| Why Mislead
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:39:22 AM | | as there arev ppl in this world who mantipalte u and try and get wat they want | |
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