| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:34:37 AM | With out man bashing here, I just don't get it.
What is the commonality of a 48 year old male, seeking out a 18 or 19 yr old lady.
Is it purely sexual ? I see it more and more on dating sites, Men in their late 40's saying they are only seeking 25 and younger. I know there is a core need for men to reproduce, spreading their seed sorta thing. Seriously other then that, why do men do this? Is it an ego thang. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:36:51 AM | They are superficial, shallow, and happen to have money to throw around.
And what business is it of yours? | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:41:44 AM | Some of it may just be generational/regional.
Some of it may be hormonal- we have them too, and they fluctuate more wildly than a woman's.
More than likely, to be perfectly honest, these sort of men are simply after something superficial.
On one hand I don't blame them- 99% of the women I've met over the years/decades are after the same thing, which for me is a huge turn off.
On the other hand, well, the women dating these men are after something as well- perhaps financial security, perhaps it is superficial and the guy is attractive to her. Maybe their personalities click- I'm not convinced that after a certain point people age much mentally. Sure, there is always the opportunity for growth, and thus maturity (depending on the individual and how one processes experience), but I believe ones personality- how we interact with the world, is mostly set-in-stone early on.
I know in my family I'm the only male to ever date around his own age- all of my uncles married no less than 20 years younger than themselves, and most are now in their 60s and 70s, and both parties are happy (In every single case they met in a bar, fyi). My sister married a friend of our fathers- 25 years older than her, and they have 3 beautiful children. My father, well he dated older- my mother was nearly 10 years older than him.
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:47:15 AM | | Thing is... you may never know. I think there are as many reasons for it as against it. It really is about the two people involved and their personal choices. Funny thing is... some of those couples will make it and some won't - just like any other couple scenarios. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:50:15 AM | | How would this be any different than a girl who is 19 or 19 seeking out an older man in his 40's? It goes both ways, OP. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:54:56 AM | hmmm..I don't get it either, it seems that the men in the 40+ age group want the 30 and under age group. I'd love to date a man my own age, but most of the few (and I mean VERY few) that ask me out are either in their 60's or in their 20's.
It's sexual and it has to do with getting older, being set in their ways and not wanting to have to deal with a woman who has intelligence, opinions or a life of her own. It's also because by 48 they most likely have a career and some cash. A younger woman can be "brought" a lot easier than a woman who's "been there, done that".
These days you are seeing women do this also, so it isn't "man bashing" either!
To each his own. I'm not here to babysit, I prefer men in my age group. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:15:18 AM | There isn't an answer in the world that will justify it to you, so why ask? It's none of your concern. Well other then you not meeting the requirements and being bitter about it. (<-----Maybe thats the problem ) | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:19:50 AM | I think there are more men doing it now because of the Viagra and such. A lot of men nearing 50 seem to run into occassional or habitual problems with their tool. With the miracle of drugs, they are able to keep up with an 18 yr old or so they think. Personally, I think most men do it to try to feed their egos. Then they come on here and wonder why no one replies! There are some that have been in LTR of 15-25 yrs and figure they can still attract what they did when they met their ex. Most can't.
Both men and women do it and while I don't understand it, its none of my business. Though if one of my sons were to bring home a woman in her 40's when they are 18, I'd probably flip. Right now - at almost 16 - they think women older than their early 20's are ready to die - as in ancient. I'm ok with that!
Personally, I prefer to date men between 40 - 52. Unfortunately, it seems the late 50ish - 60ish men are the ones I hear from, besides the 20 somethings-just like JgirlinSD.
If its not sexual, and its not to feed their egos, why would they have an interest in someone who can't even go to a bar? Or are the age or younger than their children? To me, they come across as being a pedophile. I mean - how many 18 or 19 yr olds are really under age and lie?
When I was in my late teens, I was already with my hubby to be. Though we met when I was 17, he was 22. That's about the oldest that I would have dated at the time. Old men (over 25) were just kind of scary!
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:24:00 AM | 18-19 year old women tend to have nicer asses and their boobs aren't sagging. Even if they're a bit overweight, everything is still pretty tight.
It ain't rocket science... and that's not even mentioning that they aren't jaded, nasty creatures like many of the 40+ women.
Of course it's sexual thing. Men see a nice body and want to tap that. But it's not ONLY a sexual thing either. Young women tend to be a lot of fun, too....
Deal with it. Best thing you can do is work on your OWN ass if it's a bit broader than it should be. There is no better way to attract men than to stay slim and fit.
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:24:45 AM |
I see it more and more on dating sites, Men in their late 40's saying they are only seeking 25 and younger.
This is the age range I happen to view frequently on here and I've never seen ONE profile that specifically states they are looking for only 25 and younger.
You may be exaggerating ? | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:30:52 AM | Blaugh..in most instances you are correct, but there are a lot of women over 40 that aren't nasty, that are in great shape and who are really fun! I think you have a lousy attitude. Have any of these men looked in the mirror? There are MANY men over 40 that are sagging, can't make body parts work or who aren't fun...not to mention balding and with beer guts. I know young women whose boobs sag more than mine do and who have cellulite.
It's an individual thing. In my opinion, I don't see how a 48 year old MAN OR WOMAN...would have a lot in common with someone that much younger with them..other than Sex. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:32:24 AM |
I think there are more men doing it now because of the Viagra and such. A lot of men nearing 50 seem to run into occassional or habitual problems with their tool.
I think that a sure cure for E(rectile).D(ysfunction). could very well be Y(oung).W(omen).
I think a lot of guys just can't get it up because of what's being offered....
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:35:59 AM |
Blaugh..in most instances you are correct, but there are a lot of women over 40 that aren't nasty, that are in great shape and who are really fun! I think you have a lousy attitude.
I'm just being honest and telling the truth, sweetums. YOU may not like it, but, so what? No matter WHAT you think of my attitude, what I stated is the truth.
Have any of these men looked in the mirror? There are MANY men over 40 that are sagging, can't make body parts work or who aren't fun...not to mention balding and with beer guts. I know young women whose boobs sag more than mine do and who have cellulite.
That may well be the truth, but it doesn't change anything about WHY men love looking at young women or why we'd love to bang them.
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:39:35 AM |
I think that a sure cure for E(rectile).D(ysfunction). could very well be Y(oung).W(omen).
I think a lot of guys just can't get it up because of what's being offered....
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:46:09 AM | I can't say I agree with a 48 year old guy with a 19-20 year old girl but after she is age 18 she can make those decisions for her-self . Let me tell you a short story.
Back when my older brother was a young man in the navy he met a 45 year old women who flew my brother down to see her every few weeks. He would stay sometimes for a few days then fly home. Then when he got transferred to Pensacola FL she drove to see him alot.
This went on for a year until she found someone new. My point is older women and men play the same game for the same reasons. Both want to feel young again and they want to have the kind of passion you can't get from another 45/48 year old as you can then from someone who is younger. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:53:36 AM | I am inclined to agree with Catkin ... it's an individual thing.
That said, I also am inclined not to judge. If the people involved are happy and treat each other well, I say GO FOR IT! | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:01:48 PM |
I think a lot of guys just can't get it up because of what's being offered....
And that works both ways. So for women that get bothered by such stated truths, you might want to look at the other side of that coin.
For years I have dated women 5 to 15 years older then myself. Right now that puts me up around 44 to 55. For years those same women have commented about "men" their age not being what they wanted or needed in their life.
They are attracted to the young ones for the same reasons I'm attracted to the mature one's! | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:16:42 PM | older seeking younger = wanting a prop, an extension of themselves, a status symbol that represents their virility and social status. Seeking something to be used.
Younger seeking older = wanting something easy, to obtain status, security, control, fulfillment, without any real effort.
So it's the vain seeking the lazy (and vice versa), where both have generally shallow social interactions. So good matches.
Is it purely sexual ?
Nothing is purely sexual. Even sex.
Seriously other then that, why do men do this?
Because they can. There are few actual consequences. And it makes them feel good.
Is it an ego thang.
Not much of a question. Anything a person does can be broken down to an ego driven motivation.
It's not solely an ego "thang." | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:18:50 PM |
and they want to have the kind of passion you can't get from another 45/48 year old as you can then from someone who is younger.
If that's your feelings, you must be meeting the wrong women-even the ones around your own age! If you're with the right person, the passion never dies, no matter the age.
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:20:41 PM | the youngest man that i have dated is 21 yrs younger and the oldest man that i have dated is 18 yrs older
lonliness isn't fun. sometimes variety can beat boredome when Mr. right hasn't popped around
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:24:41 PM |
If you're with the right person, the passion never dies, no matter the age.
Ah, yes, the New Mythology.
I think I'll call this diety, Delusia, goddess of the delusional belief that there is a perfect person for each of us and that when we meet, we will live happily, blissfully ever after.
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:26:09 PM | OP, if a man is specifically looking for young women in their late teens, while he's in his 40s, he's most likely pursuing a fantasy. It's objectifying, but something some men have a fantasy about through a long, unhappy marriage. Most men, once having experienced the reality of the fantasy, no longer are seeking out women, based on age alone.
It's a complex, psychologically, but has a lot to do with external validation of his desirability, etc, along the same lines of a 50 year old getting a sports car more geared to the 25 year old men. The models seen on TV, or in magazines are generally women 18-24, so having a "barely legal" girlfriend might seem like a "totem", and is largely sexual.
There are older/younger relationships that "just happen", from people interacting in the real world, so ont every 30 year age span relationship is about fantasy or just sex. In the situation you described, though, it's a specific target that the man would be seeking, to the exclusion of anyone closer to his age. | |
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| She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:47:30 PM | -He's lookin for a trophy wife (can't blame an old fart for trying
-She's lookin for a daddy (she's usually dumber than a box of rocks)
I prefer the smart milf-y type
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