| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:34:37 PM | Please don't delete this thread. I looked in the history on here and can't find another with this specific topic. At least, I'm pretty sure there isn't one. I couldn't find one. (my apologies if there is somewhere)
I know this is a silly topic but I've seen so many men mention it in posts, I am honestly curious about how men feel about this.
Why do so many men want us to be good cleaners/cooks? What if we're not? What if we grew up on microwaves (like I did) and we're not that handy in the kitchen? Does it truly lower a woman's worth if she doesn't want to cook and clean for you?
I had a lot of dreams as a kid, but I do know that not one of them involved me getting to cook and clean for someone else when I grew up. In my mind, as a man, aren't you capable of cooking and cleaning for yourself? If you don't want to cook and clean for yourself, then why the heck would you think that we want to do that for you?
I don't have a problem with a woman taking care of the house, if she doesn't work and he pays the bills. But that's not how society is these days. A lot of woman work, and then when they get home, they usually end up doing all the clooking and cleaning too. They usually have "two" jobs, not one.
So, I'm curious, since women are capable of much more then this, why are our cooking and cleaning abilities still seem to be the only thing men put a high value on? We could be astronauts and men wouldn't care. But hey, if we can whip up a homemade pie from scratch, then they are impressed.
Before this thread possibly gets deleted or you post an angry reply, I realize not all men are like this. Many men do help out with chores, etc. But I still see quite a few posts from men on here who "want a woman who cooks and cleans" above all else.
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:05:01 PM | You need to qualify it to "some" men.
I talk/have talked to many men who can and like to cook much more than I do. As far as cleaning....geez if someone wanted a maid, he wouldn't be dating me! 
Come to think of it, I don't remember any man asking me about either........well not yet.  | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:14:13 PM | I grew up in a family where my mom and dad split everything. I do know how to cook and clean rather well so I'd like if my other half knew to do just as much and I feel it is good to learn to help take care of your partner, if not yourself. lol. Most guys live through their stomachs(myself included) so cooking is important and just plain cheaper and healthier then eating out 24/7. Although its not necessarily right many guys do think ur useless if you cannot do those two things and do not have other skills to make up for it like...um, I dunno, knowing how to change car oil or being handy in some other fashion. Now I'm not saying its a good way of thinking but thats how it is seen by most men. My stance is what it is because of my environment so I can't say its the same for all but going from most of my friends thats how it is.
P.S I hate cleaning and don't expect you to like it either but there's tons of crap in life you don't enjoy but do for people you care about. If it bothers you so much suck it up and learn otherwise find a guy who doesn't care, there are plenty of those too. Any guy who thinks you should just be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen and conform to those stereotypes is a moron anyhow and you can do better. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:26:51 PM | | A maid and cook? No maid wanted, If maybe we want to cook together a cook is ok, but not necessary, I can cook. I even figured out a couple of buttons on the washy machine ..... Since I only have to cut the grass once a year here i have a little more time to do a few of those things | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:30:24 PM | Maybe those guys should just get a mail order bride? Me love you long time. Personally I enjoy cooking..... the cleaning is just the unfortunate downside...
Things around the house these days should just plain be divided..... everybody needs to grow up and shoulder some of the weight...
Plus I live alone... I would either starve or be living in filth..... | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:01:15 PM | Cleaning is not a big deal as long as my partner is willing to split chores.Somethings I prefer to do myself.
Cooking I can cook but only a handful of things and I cook like a guy.I really don't like to cook at all and I'm limited on my skills.It would be nice to find a good women to cook 70% of the time.I'm a very compromising person when it comes to this kind of stuff.
Everything can be worked out among to two grown adults willing to make a comprimise about chores. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:08:30 PM | | A woman that can cook HEALTHY, tasty meals is huge plus. I can't really cook worth a shit and I have been living like a bachelor for 12 years. Cooking is a skill that too many of my generation of women are lacking. | |
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rhodax
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:16:35 PM | Its important to men because they want to make sure they will get someone who will pick up after them!  Actually, I have only had one man who was concerned about having a clean house. When he came over and saw my condo, he saw for himself that I am not a slob.
At some point men will ask if I cook and what I like to cook. I tell them I cook because I have to, not because I like to. If a man can and will cook.....it is SO SEXY! and if he helps clean the house too..... OMG!! LOL! I would be one happy gal! In fact, it will be a MUST that he helps, this time around! | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:20:51 PM | > Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Because we are flippin' lazy, thats why. I do cook and clean, living on my own, and despair at the junk in most young peoples shopping baskets, but thats another topic. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so importanu t to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:27:37 PM | | We all like to eat, don't we? I am a great cook - I enjoy feeding friends & significnt others. Cleaning is just a necessary part of life - unless you want to live like a slob... Personally I think ability to cook in a partner of EITHER sex would be important to someone who CAN'T cook - not a deal breaker I would hope but it certainly is a plus when a prospective partner has a skill you lack that is so important to every day living! My ex-husband would clean anything to leave me more time to cook wonderful meals from scratch - and he also learned to cook a few simple meals from me quite well. If a guy acts like he takes it for granted - like you're obligated to do it that can be aggravating though. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so importanu t to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:36:23 PM | When a man gets home from a hard days work, who can blame him for wanting a hot, yummy tasty meal prepared for him when he gets home?
It made more sense back when it was typical for a woman to stay home and clean the house all day. Now, a woman who cooks and cleans could be a keeper!  | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:37:31 PM | Because you really don't offer much else. Division of labour and tasks are what ran society effectively for so long. Now that gender roles have been completely obscured, the whole planet seems to be fubar'd. A lot of the women that I know don't cook or clean yet still expect the man to do all the manly stuff like caring for the yard, cars, and do the cooking/cleaning.
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:39:22 PM |
If you don't want to cook and clean for yourself, then why the heck would that we want to do that for you? Speak for yourself. I love to cook for people I care about. I also enjoy a tidy, comfortable home. It's one of the ways I nurture people and express my love for them.
A lot of woman work, and then when they get home, they usually end up doing all the clooking and cleaning too. They usually have "two" jobs, not one. Hire a cleaning service.
I realize not all men are like this. and not all women are like you. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:51:59 PM |
Speak for yourself. I love to cook for people I care about. I also enjoy a tidy, comfortable home. It's one of the ways I nurture people and express my love for them.
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:54:14 PM | I was going to say since you seem to live in the heart of the midwest you may be coming into contact with a lot of rural guys that grew up spoonfed "traditional" values and gender roles. That are looking for someone to help establish their family.
But you live right there next to Chicago. So I don't know who you are running into. | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:52:55 PM |
Why do so many men want us to be good cleaners/cooks? What if we're not? What if we grew up on microwaves (like I did) and we're not that handy in the kitchen? Does it truly lower a woman's worth if she doesn't want to cook and clean for you?
In my little world (yes, I have one. No, you can't come visit!) when I evaluated profiles for possibilities I started everyone out at a "5". If a woman mentioned that she was a good cook or enjoyed cooking = +1. That isn't because I need someone to cook for me - I can do pretty damn well in the kitchen all on my own. But I enjoy cooking and it would be a bonus if the woman enjoyed cooking and it could be something we could do to together.
I had a lot of dreams as a kid, but I do know that not one of them involved me getting to cook and clean for someone else when I grew up. In my mind, as a man, aren't you capable of cooking and cleaning for yourself? If you don't want to cook and clean for yourself, then why the heck would you think that we want to do that for you?
Just a guess on my part but I suspect men that list that sort of thing in their profile have a "traditional" view of what a marriage is and they are trying to match themselves up with the women that mention their desire to be a housewife in their's. Women typically express this sort of thing in their profiles with things like "I'm looking for a REAL man who brings home the bacon. I'll cook it when it gets here." | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so importanu t to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:59:20 PM |
When a man gets home from a hard days work, who can blame him for wanting a hot, yummy tasty meal prepared for him when he gets home?
In my opinion this is a really CHAUVENISTIC attitiude............what about the WOMAN who's been out at work ALL day.......im sure she'd love a nice home-ccoked meal waiting for her when she gets home...!!
But,i s'pose he's been out at work all day,too.........geesh,glad i live alone..........
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:59:55 PM | If you are taking care most of the financial responsibility...Okay! However, come on I have to give you all my money(for bills), clean the house and feed you. How about we make it equal division of labor and even switch roles now and again!  | |
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| Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:06:52 PM | | I guess if the man is the only one working all day and bringing in all the money.Then the wife stays home all day.Its her job to cook and clean. If both are working equal parts then the house work should be done in equal parts.If the woman works and the man dont its his job to take care of the house. | |
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