| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:00:34 AM | | I am curious about something. If a woman doesn't like a guy and breaks up with him, why would she be angry if I dated? SHe told me that a person should wait a "MONTH" before the relationship should be considered over! What are all your thoughts on this? | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:16:53 AM | Posted By: stargazer2k
I am curious about something. If a woman doesn't like a guy and breaks up with him, why would she be angry if I dated? SHe told me that a person should wait a "MONTH" before the relationship should be considered over! What are all your thoughts on this?
Tell the woman that she may not be over you, but you are well done with her.
She sounds like she wants to own you even though she doesn't want to go out with you. Definitely she needs to get over herself.
A guy that acted like that would be called a stalker.
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Sometimes I just think she wants m e close by to get back together if she wants that. We have broke up many many times. And end up getting back together.
This changes things a bit.... Your on-again off-again relationship history promotes her idea that maybe its never really over. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:00:11 AM | Most people that are braking up or in the middle of doing so...have already spent as much time needed "thinking about it". Some bounce back right away and others take forever to move forward again. Depends on the person.
On again off again just adds to your problems and promotes confusion.
The past is the past.. either move on or figure it out once and for all.
As for her getting angry?
Anger is a choice...pick another feeling. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:15:13 AM | | Michelle... That is what I am thinking. Seems like every time she splits up there is something that brings us back together. She never wants to make up on her own, has to be either me or some outside catalyst. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:16:37 AM | I think you're ex lady friend needs to grow up a little and start thinking like a mature adult rather than a child. Another thing is that breaking up and getting back together upteen times should tell you that something is seriously wrong in the relationship and maybe it's best that it ends for good. Remember that dating should be the easiest part of a relationship.
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:26:43 AM | It means that in case she changes her mind, she doesn't want you to get involved with someone else during the interim. It also means that she is over you and that she is possessive, jealous, and a few other adjectives that POF would censor. She would also like to think that she was so important to you, you needed a mourning/dealing period to get over her.
Pay no attention to her because it will only cause you grief. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:27:28 PM | My thoughts are why are you talking to her and why do you care what her thoughts are if she dumped you?
If I were dumped, I wouldn't have anything to do with the person who dumped me.
Who cares if she's pissed? I mean really...it's over. Stop listening to her opinions and feelings and move on. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:12:38 PM | | You can date whoever and whenever you want after a break up. But to go back and forth to the same woman? What a waste of time, you miss out on a chance to find the right one while you and the wrong one play games. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:58:20 PM | I think women like that lack self-esteem and because of that are often controlling. Sure we may feel a pinch of ACK!! because maybe we wanted to be so special to you that you can't date until you take long time to heal  but really that's pretty self-absorbed and needy on our part, so while I might have my moments of thinking---how could he move on so quickly!---I would know to keep my mouth shut, that it was my problem and that since I did not want him back it would be stupid to express my twinge of insecurity to him.
Ah, the on-again/off-again relationship, that spells DRAMA and if you like it, have a nice roller coaster relationship, if you don't then move on for good. The fact that you have done this over & over again shows you like it, so why bytch or look for others to date, just wait for the next installment of oh-she-wants-me-again. This is a deal breaker for me, a man who keeps going back to an ex, will continue to go back to an ex so there's nothing for us to pretend to be building because I'd be competing with some controlling ex and I don't play those games. But to each their own, there are many women who would want to compete for your attention, sot here you go. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:54:04 PM | I'm lacking quite a bit of information to be able to suggest why she is angry OP.
How long was the relationship? How serious? Marriage? Any longevity, deep-commitment there? | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:01:11 PM | | All excellent input above. Do a forced move on, delete and block her, if its a good time to make some big changes in your life like school, career, home, car, do it. Change your life in happy ways and in ways that move you to a life that is independent of your history with her. Whatever you do don't engage in her issues anymore. Don't so much as engage inconversation and look up the book "I can heal your broken heart", it has a solid hypnosis program that removes the buttons she knows how and where to push. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:47:27 PM | | Star, in my opinion this is the same type of relationship as FWB. You aren't good enough for her to commit, but she wants to keep you handy in case she "needs something." Grab your self esteem in both hands and STRUT outtathere. | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 9:34:06 PM | msg1 : LOL , I think your ex GF is tremendously controlling, what does she care if you dated ,she already broken up with you. She dare to gave you a MONTH to finalized your break up ? You sound like a spineless man to be treated that way, if I were in your shoes I will say words to her that will turn her face purple..........  msg4 so it is a yoyo relationship so what is the complain about ????????????? | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:10:20 PM | It sounds to me like she was only trying to manipulate you to get something/her way, by breaking up with you in the hopes of having you come crawling back offering whatever she wanted.
I personally am done with someone if I call for a breakup, and actually hope they move on to dating other people, so they don't have to call to try to guilt or harrass me.
YMMV, M | |
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| Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:20:25 PM | | Actually I do not like the drama or roller coaster ride. I am tired of it. Hard for me to just let go. That is why I am here to find someone that is worth giving my love to! | |
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