| Question on how to tell your date...
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:44:26 PM | | I'm a recent receipient of the lapband and have lost a considerable amount of weight. I have yet to go to dinner with a date. Was curious should I let the person know that I don't eat much; I mean I order from the kid's menu. Or should I just do it without an explanation? | |
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Bluez
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Joined: 6/6/2009
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| Question on how to tell your date...
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:50:57 PM | Congrats on the weight loss!
I'm not sure why you have to order from the kids menu... couldn't you ask for half portions from the regular adult menu instead?? This would downplay the need to explain much, plus it would probably greatly expand your choice of meals.
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:52:14 PM | No explaination needed.
Order what you think you will eat...
It would possibly lead to your date asking if you wanted more... just say "No, Thanks."
Sometimes I order a Happy Meal... If thats all I want and I want the toy to use as a model plane pilot :p | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:52:22 PM | Don't air the negative stuff. If time has it's way with you and whoever...that is when the other stuff should come out.
Sell your good side. Have fun and enjoy. If you get a look about what you ordered laugh about it. Just say the truth...your not actually that hungry.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:55:03 PM | | Order the most expensive thing on the menu, then after you've done eating a few bites, leave it to him to wonder why. That will distract him from whatever sinister plans he had brewing in his mental cauldron. Seize the moment and wield your power wisely. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 5:55:30 PM | | Okay thanks. As for ordering a regular meal, I just hate wasting money especially if the guy is paying. Especially when I eat 1/2 of a kids meal. But to think about it, you are right try to avoid talking about it. I just dont want my Lapband to be the topic of conversation. Thanks for the advice. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 6:11:44 PM | Hell... I order from the kiddie menu to get the nifty toys that they just won't give out when you order a Big Mac meal... and woe be to the guy that tries to take my toy for his collection! 
I know a few other women that order from the kids menu as well - no biggie. There are however a few places that serve fantastic entrees that are not on a children's menu - ask the server if they offer lunch sized portions as well... they tend to be considerably smaller than the dinner sized portions.
Cheers... and good luck...  | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 6:58:12 PM | If he asks, share. If not - worry not. Bringing it up without him asking might make him think you're obsessing too much.
Which... you are... and shouldn't be. The topics should be about you and him, not your portion sizes. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 7:06:25 PM | | No big deal, don't mention it. Just order an appetizer or a salad or something you can split or take home if you like and go from there. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 7:32:28 PM | | Honesty is always the best policy. If he really likes you it won't matter to him. If he has a problem with honesty then he is a d!ck anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 8:53:18 PM | | Wow...what's negative about a lapband? Hell...he's getting to date you now...and you'll only get BETTER???? I'd be celebrating, as your date. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 9:03:40 PM | | This does not require an explantion IMO. But if you feel you need to you can mention it after you get done ordering your meal. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 9:20:25 PM | i often try to order from the kids menu but the always tell me i cant. well, unless its nasty fast food. order an adult meal, let your taste buds run wild. its probably not the best conversation for a dinner date, as it may make you feel uncomfortable.
good luck and congrats to you. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:03:11 PM | I agree with the joker about who said "seize the moment". He's exactly right.
This is NOT your date's issue, it's yours. OWN it, control it, love what you do with it. If you hate dinner dates because of this issue, just don't go on dinner dates. Do lunch and eat a salad. No raised eyebrows there.
Late date? Eat before he shows up. Go directly to the dance club, theater, casino, whatever -- skip the dinner issue entirely.
When he finally asks you why you don't do dinner dates, TELL HIM THE FACTS. He will be relieved. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2009 10:29:48 PM | | I have always been honest and upfront regarding my lap band surgery. Less explaining to do when you get a piece of food stuck and have to make the mad dash to the restrooms. Also, I've never felt uncomfortable ordering my meal then having to take most of it home. I do that anyways when I go out with family and friends. The kid's menu is so limited and most of the food is frowned upon anyways. Go ahead and order what you want and enjoy. My dates so far have been very supportive. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:28:37 AM | | IMO a grown adult woman ordering from a kid's menu (especially if the restaurant has specified an age bracket for that menu) is kind of tacky and will only draw attention to yourself. Eat from the adult's menu no matter what your issue is. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:52:05 AM | | this is your personal business and no one else's. you owe no explanations beyond 'i don't feel like eating much.' and not even that, really. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:56:46 AM |
IMO a grown adult woman ordering from a kid's menu (especially if the restaurant has specified an age bracket for that menu) is kind of tacky and will only draw attention to yourself. Eat from the adult's menu no matter what your issue is.
Tacky? I don't get how it will draw attention. Nothing personal, but food is food. This isn't an issue rather a question. I am pretty new to my new life, but last night I tried it out with some friends that didnt know that I have been banded and I just ordered a taco and they didn't ask anything. One of them said, you eat like a bird. So maybe I am just over thinking this.
I am excited who wouldn't be losing 70lbs and losing 6 sizes so far. But I don't want it to be me - Jennifer the lapband patient LOL I want to be just Jennifer. I want that information to come out later on if the person and I would continue to go out.
This is all new to me. Everything I have learn in the past is the past.
I really appreciate feedback. | |
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