| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:48:20 PM | | Ok so I never really noticed until now but I don't actually know any single girls in my own area. The closest single person I know is about 6 states away and I don't want a long distance relationship again. I came on this web site to look for some one and I can't really find them so I wondered if any one could tell me a good place that they had success in at least finding a bunch of single people preferably around my age. Mind you I do not like night clubs because they're just way too loud and most people there are drunk/not themselves. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:06:09 PM | You're 20, so...
...school, coffee shops, bookstores, parties, the park, the gym, grocery stores, convenience stores, Target, Home Depot, the gas station, traffic, bike paths, the beach, festivals, shows, art galleries, the sidewalk, Wal Mart, pizza joints, sub shops, parking lots, movie theaters, malls, video stores, gaming stores, Hot Topic, ice cream parlors, doing hobbies, doing activities, volunteering...
That should get you started. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:08:59 PM | | whoa really? I've been in the right place then....I just don't seem to have the right timing! I'll work on it since I'm always free it should be easy to figure out the right days and times to look. Wish me luck! Also thank you sooooo much for helping I've had a really hard time being sure if I was looking in the right places. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:49:37 PM | | At that age just go to Barnes and Noble, meet a girl at work or school, or just wait til you're 21 and hit up a college bar not a dive bar. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:30:17 PM | | Barnes and Noble is actually where I planned to start for a while but my car died and it is just a little too far for me to walk in this heat....I hope my car gets fixed soon! | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:46:18 PM | A great way to meet women and start a conversation is to be at a store and ask them for advice on something.
A good example would be to grab two shirts at a clothing store and say something like "excuse me, I'm going on a date tonight and am not sure which a girl might like better. Which would you prefer?"
Another example would be at a bookstore/record store wandering in the same aisle as a cute girl, find an interesting title and say, "excuse me, do you happen to know anything about this author/band?" It might help if you actually know something about the author or band yourself so that you actually have something to go on if she says she does.
But personally, I think an even better example would be to be in a kitchen or bed/bath department and ask them for their opinion or advice on something. Women tend to know a helluva lot more than guys on stuff like that, so they probably love to help us out.
Other ideas:
*At any store* "Excuse me, do you know where I can find the [fill in the blank] section?"
"Hey, don't I know you from somewhere? Isn't your name [fill in any random name]?" It's lame and overused but it still works. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:50:47 AM | | I can really relate to you OP except I'm willing to try the long-distance thing. If you live in an area where there's not much going on besides partying things (like I do) meeting people can be extremely difficult. You mite not want to join a club, organization, church, or go to some kind of school ect just to meet people. I believe you should be yourself & not fake anything. You should keep your eyes open at work, school ect in case there is someone there who may be right for you. You could also try asking your friends if they know of anyone & you could look to see if there's any kinds of dating sites or other online communities for people around your area. Maybe you'll get lucky & find some kind of dating agency in your area. It's hard not be be discouraged sometimes but trying to stay occupied helps. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 11:50:24 PM | Studioguy29 has the right idea on snagging a cute girl's attention.
Just remember... smell good (be cleanly), smile, be yourself, and you won't be feeling lonely for long. Forget long distance relationships, they rarely turn out for the better, especially with people in our age groups. We're still growing, and so are our personalities. People change all the time.... in order to solidify a bond with someone, it is vital to the relationship to be physically with them as often as possible.
Good luck! :) | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:02:55 AM | | I completely agree! I am very tired of long distance any way the last date I had was like 5 years ago....I always shower etc. so clean isn't an issue XD. As for being me I'm not afraid to show my true colors at all. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:40:39 AM | | There are no women your age in NH? Dude, work on your social skills. Get a hobby, go outside. Check out concerts. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:32:22 AM | finding a meeting place isn't gonna assure you a hook up. if you wanna find singles' go to where the fun is. surely you have a place there that deals with fun? singles' like to enjoy themselves, "they have noone to enjoy it with". fun brings more fun people out in the open.
if you really want to meet singles', try doing something you enjoy, and i assure you, fun will come to you. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 11:59:56 AM | 1. There are plenty of singles out there just none of them that I want anything to do with....at least that I've seen. Most of them are out of shape no job no life and no real rhyme or reason for even still existing...harsh? yes but reality is a beach now isn't it?
2. I do go to places that deal in "fun" unfortunately they are few and far in NH. We are a rather boring state with no festivals or events. Our last concert was like Miley Cirus? I don't think a 12 year old girl is what I'm looking for XD | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 1:48:42 PM | Get a part time job waiting tables or at a coffee shop and practice your social skills. You never know, that girl might just walk in.
I read your profile...cut back on the sarcasm and pretentious joking attitude you referred to. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:57:03 PM | | Yeah sure let me cut back on my personality that built in stuff is easy to eliminate XD | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:31:42 PM | OK wow....... where to begin.........
A couple of things in no particular order
1. Try choosing a screen name that has absolutely nothing to do with anime. (I watch Bleach myself)
2. You come across as a little over the top with your Anime obsession. Try mentioning that you are a martial artist, like to draw, and enjoy other cultures.
3. Did I mention that most girls our age are not the biggest fans of anime? Some are, but they probably tend to hang around the same places you do. And if you haven't met anyone yet, you are going to have to change tactics.
4. While not being the biggest fans of most things deemed "nerdy" by the general population most girls do not mind a guy participating in these activities (as long as it is in moderation). Interestingly enough many seem to view sports the same way, even though the general population deems sports as "cool". Many women tend to find non shared obsessions in general to be a turn off. And as I stated, very few women are obsessed with Anime.
5. Hit some sales at the mall and update your wardrobe. Go to some stores like Abercrombie, American Eagle, Hollister, etc...... When choosing a sales person to help you pick out an outfit try to pick one you would like to date and listen to what she says about fashion. And most importantly...... don't hit on her. Or just find one that's gay and ask his advice. I know its kind of cliche, but I've never had one steer me wrong.
6. Finally I need to re-iterate that it is perfectly fine to be into Anime, but if your going to get a date you need to be able to come across as someone who is not obsessed with it. And even if you know for a fact that its not an obsession, but merely something you do in your free time; you need to realize that most women will ASSUME and THINK that it is an obsession. Which, is bad. And no amount of convincing will make them think otherwise.
7. When it comes to conversation....... wow lots to go over on this topic, but I need to wrap this up. Talk about school, work, future plans (voice acting can be mentioned if you do it right), and most importantly talk about her.
8. Now after all of this has been done. Go hit up a few bars/parties. | |
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| I would like some advice...
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:24:10 PM | 1. I hate bars and parties
2. Anime is my biggest hobby if they can't accept the fact that I love it and it is a huge part of my life then the relationship wouldn't work out. I don't know why every one tries to hide their true hobby or passion on here just because it is weird....women might not LOVE anime but they certainly do HATE lies =\
3. I know how to talk to women and all that jazz I just didn't know if I was going to the right places. It isn't that my ability to meet people fails it is instead that I never know if I am going to the right places.
4. I don't dress like a tool sooooo the stores you mentioned fail. I'll be hitting up real stores like pac sun and hot topic k thanx. Besides the way I dress is just fine.
5. When is the last time you had a conversation with a woman any way? XD I've met a bunch of girls on here that "love nerds" and they want a real genuine person not some fake guy you can find in a magazine (although I have been in one xD) | |
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