| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:33:04 PM | | I have been on this site about a year and a half. I have only met about a handful of men in person from plenty of fish. Okay maybe two handfuls. Are some of you guys afraid to date women or do we just look funny? Let's have fun with this and get some real dates going between the sexes. There's nothing to lose and everything to gain. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/21/2009 8:39:21 PM | | To be honest, I would probably date, except I NEVER get replies in my box, and everytime I show interest in someone online, my messages go ignored, so thats my excuse! haha | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:17:25 PM | | I've had no luck with online dating. I'm a nice guy most of the time. I've traveled the world, have an education, blah, blah, blah.....but no one seems to care about those things. Girls here (haven't met a real woman yet) are only interested in what I do for a living. Thought it was about the quality of the person, not the quantity. Still after 4 years the search goes on and I'll log more fail dates to pass the time. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/22/2009 9:32:16 PM | | I think I've got you beat scrambleeggs with going on 9 years completely single and pretty much "dateless".. I guess as far as what I do for a living goes, helping poor lost animals doesn't pay much, so I guess women aren't interested in that either! At least in new york state, I would get some interest from women every few years or so, NOT in vegas! | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/23/2009 9:20:38 PM | | If you guys think Vegas is bad, try living in Reno... I've been on here for a couple years now, and I haven't met anyone from this site at all. Then again, I'm pretty picky so I generally won't make the first move (although if something catches my eye, I'll take a chance.) | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/29/2009 1:07:01 PM | P.O.F. is a weird date site. I joined this site and a similar TOTALLY FREE dating site at around the same time last year. I spend the same amount of time on each site (sometimes up to 90 minutes per day), but I have met more than 20 girls from the other site and only 3 from here. It usually shows MORE LOCALS on line on this site, yet I meet WAAAAAY more girls on the other site. (the forums are better, too)
The girls on here seem to be all about BULLSHIT. Half of the females I send messages to have me blocked or (for some reason) won't accept my message. The other half of the girls I message seem to be more interested in themselves then meeting another person! YOU GIRLS NEED TO BE MORE AGGRESSIVE. I will never waste my time chasing a girl around cyber-space. If they don't recognize a good thing when it e-mails them...I move on and DON'T LOOK BACK!
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:42:56 PM | | and thats why it is free... then again if i was going to pay to meet girls id just skip the middle man and go pay a hooker. atleast i wouldnt have to go through all the effort and pay for dinner... | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:09:28 AM | | I don't get any dates because I don't post how much money I got, show pics of my mansion or Hummer. That's what women judge men on in Las Vegas..How much money they got and what they got. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:39:56 PM | ^^^
Naw, it is the same all over, if you are not 6'+ and look like a movie star, you get left in the pond!!
I can't even get a dance in Vegas!!  
But it won't stop me from coming back in September!  | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:42:33 PM | | i really dont know what these girls expect on this site when they have 3 kids, been divorced, and there mouth looks like a construction site. this site has lowered my expectations considerably since i moved out to vegas. i thought id be fishing in an aquarium, its turned out to be a muddy puddle.... | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/14/2009 10:42:10 AM | Guys,
Lets be honest, most of us dont get replies because, from my understanding on past dates, 90% to 99.9% of the girls on PoF. Are bombarded with insain Initial E-mails. That are either insulting, rude, or just plain Obnoxious.
Ive heard some get messages, that are way off, and have no respect. Which for any girl, will probbally leave a bad taste.
Now after that kind of damage done, the few genuine left have to work that much harder to show we are respectful and come with class.
Now on the other hand, when we do finnally break 1st contact and leads toward a meeting each other. We are given the Phone number, and we start start texting or talking to make plans... To then later ask, if everything still on for tonight.. To Never hear from that person again.
So now we are right back to Square one.. "gotta love it" | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/14/2009 12:31:17 PM | If you read the message boards you'll find lots of dysfunctional men and women here. There are people who are shy in 'REAL LIFE' and use the Internet in hopes that will make them popular. WRONG!!
I've read about women who are too shy to send an email, too shy to call a number, etc. What the heck are they doing on a dating site?
Last night I was out with friends and met a female lawyer, her response to online dating and from her work experience as a divorce lawyer, there are lots of married men and women on dating sites.
On another site, I was contacted by a few men. I was going on vacation, they were going when I came back, etc. Never heard from them again.
The same people are on the same sites. It doesn't matter where you live. I have tons of female friends in FL, NY, TX, no matter where you go it's all the same nonsense. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:52:13 AM | | I'm not affraid to date have met 2 or 3 women from here but most seem to want to date for years and don't have a clue what they want. I'm truly tired of dating and want to find that special one woman and not need dating any more. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:22:35 PM | I only met 1 person from here and that was on meetup. She is organizer for the having fun in vegas singles and we both asst organizers for the 40s plus singles. I found her profile while nosing this site after meeting her at a meetup event.
I have had 50 profile views..only 1 mailed me and I never heard from her again after I replied. Thats why I don't come on here often. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 9/5/2009 3:38:09 PM | Blah,
I've been on here I think 3 mo, and only met 3 people in person. 2 looked 0 like their pic, 1 it's just not gonna work with and I have to tell her today.
Talk though? Girls will talk your ear off, someone explain why when it comes time to hook up they loose interest?
And don't tell me I'm too nice Angelo whatever with all the advice. Nice is one thing I certainly am not... wait, could it be because I'm an a-hole? nah, that's not it... | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 10/5/2009 12:39:03 PM | I think alot of people find PoF long after they've subscribed to the pay sites, failed there, and are already jaded to the whole thing.
For us men; it's fatigue. It gets old sending 25 cleverly written and thoughtful emails... nine go unread, 13 are read and never replied, one responds letting you know they aren't interested, and the last two responding cautiously. (over a year, those are roughly my numbers anyway) the women can't or simply don't initiate contact either, had it happen once, unfortunately, I had just begun dating a woman I met in RL, but I did have the decency to respond. Pretend it doesn bother you and go on, but it is in fact a rejection each time and it does get to you in time.
For women; wow. How many dishonest, thoughtless, unbalanced, married, or simply dysfunctional men email them in a week? If they have an attractive pic displayed and put a little effort into their profile, thay are bombarded. Unfortunately, for the guys who are real and sincere, it's overload and they can no longer tell who's for real and who's not. If they can't decide, it's just easier to ignore us altogether. (Especially since even a nice rejection with reasons often nets them stalkerish behavior or continued harassing sales pitches about how they just need a chance)
Net stereotypical result: Men are bored, frustrated, and increasingly believe they don't get a fair shake. Women are tired, frustrated, and increasingly suspicious of anything a man says.
It really should not be this difficult for decent people to connect. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 10/14/2009 6:08:20 PM | I've only been on here for a month.
And so far most of the men I've talked to are either mainly interested in sex.
[which I have no interest in having sex with strangers or anyone else I don't care about]
Or they just aren't very interesting.
Or to put it bluntly, they're stupid.
But I'll stay on and give it a shot.
I'm bound to come across SOMEONE worth my time eventually!  | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:40:21 PM | It's lose interest, not LOOSE interest. They're not even pronounced the same way.
So, they lose interest when it's time to hook up because they realize that's all you're looking for.
You don't think a woman has the smarts to know that the guy is just interested in sex? | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:42:13 PM | hmm, I was stood up from a charmer on this site. He didn't even have the nerve to tell me he couldn't make it.
Met another guy who said he didn't smoke, yeah right. The minute he coughed I knew he was a smoker. | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 10/19/2009 8:12:40 PM | Yeh I Cant remember the last time ive met someone that wasn't dysfunctional is someway or another!
I think TV has given us unrealistic expectation and a mixture of our fallen hearts gives us a fairly screwed up world. But there is hope and it's not in these websites.
chears | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:19:17 AM | | It sounds like a few men are really ruining it for the rest of us. I have had exactly 0 replies to more than 40 unique e-mails in the last month. My profile is honest, but maybe the more honest it is, the more women will think everything is not true? | |
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| Why very few actual dates from this site?
Posted: 11/25/2009 8:53:50 PM | Well, I am new to this site so no dates in the 3 days I have been here. Geesh..you'd think they'd be chomping at the bit. I've been on another site for several months and gotten 2 dates and 1 almost proposal of marriage. For the most part, the men I have met on other sites have as the 18 year old gal said, wanted sex ON THE FIRST DATE!!
And those are the ones that get to the date part. What I find really distasteful is men asking me what I like or what my bust size is before I've even met them. Come on. what happened to at least pretending to be a gentleman?
Now I will admit that it is rude for the ladies to not respond to emails. At least a thank you for the interest would be a nice thing to do. I admit that I am often slow to respond but, I do respond. When I am slow it is because I am thinking about it.
Anyway, I keep hoping that Mr. Right is out there and that by some miracle he will be hanging around one of these dating sites. He has to be because I am sur enot going to hang around the bars or night clubs looking for him.
'nough said...... | |
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