| | a blast from the past!...any similar experiences?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Well this is a bit strange i havent written about this for awhile but in recent months i found it kind of funny here it goes.
In grade school i wasnt the most well adjusted person and i got picked on alot but like most people we grow and mature and move on with our lives. So one day i get a message from someone i cant even remember the profile name but whatever, we talked a bit exchanged numbers and that is when it hit me. The person calling was a girl from one of my old classes in middle school who i havent seen or heard from in years. Well i was a bit shocked and asked her how she was doing after all of these years and what was new in her life, but i get this in a response...
"Oh yeah nothing much i just lost so much weight and now im smokin hot, by the way didnt you used to throw chairs when you got angry? god i hope you are not like that now but you are using a dating site to meet women so i doubt you got any better."
giggles were heard on the other end. then i just responded back
"Carly...that was 13 years ago, but hey while we are focusing on the past maybe since now you are a hottie you can start a gig on a street corner downtown, im sure people will pay more than five dollars like my friend Kyle did back in the da-"
then she hung up.
It just baffled me that someone would actually spend their time finding people they once knew a long time ago just to phone them and attempt to hurt their feelings. I know i cant be the only one who feels this way but...for cryin out loud 13 years...in that time i out grew my problems and became a whole different person but some people i guess were more sick than myself.
after a few weeks passed from that call i actually began to feel sorry for Carly and i hope that she has been able to deal with whatever baggage she had.
has anyone else had this experience of people from the past comming back to haunt them on this site? or met any immature stalker types with self-esteem issues? if so please share your tale :P | |
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| a blast from the past!...any similar experiences?
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:56:47 AM | | so she wanted to learn (albeit in a poor way) if you've come to terms with your anger management issues, and you accused her of having sex for $5? Sounds like you've exchanged chairs for verbal barbs. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:00:12 AM | Her call was very immature, for starters. But she didn't call to give you a hard time, she called just to tell you that she was "hot now!" WOO-HOO! 
Just another typical airhead. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:03:46 AM | Why did you have to be so mean in return? All you proved was that you are no better than she is.
This is a perfect example of 'getting even': you got on her level.
How did you feel about yourself after that? Was it like A "I told her!" .. or B "I'm a jerk."
If it was not B, you have no reason to be offended. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 1:24:21 AM | Yes actually i did feel like a jerk cause i dug into a wound that im sure is/was much deeper than mine. This call happened a year ago, and of course i still have some anger management issues no one ever comes baggage free, and if people think they are clean of all such skeletons they are kidding themselves.
I was more disgusted not at her, but what i became because of people like her. besides why would people even be confused on my stance? if i said i felt sorry for how i treated carly after the call i wouldnt write my retort to be proud of it. Another question for people out there:
When you snap at someone out of anger or repressed feelings are you any different than me? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 2:11:28 AM |
Her call was very immature, for starters. But she didn't call to give you a hard time, she called just to tell you that she was "hot now!" WOO-HOO!
Just another typical airhead.
lol even with her newly aquired figure i wouldnt even hit her with a baseball bat.
I love the bleeding heart finger pointers that have come out of the wood work so far as to refer to me as at the same level as her. there is an obvious difference between going out and looking to try and hurt someone and repelling their attack with the same method. it's called standing up for yourself, turning the other cheek works with people who learn their lesson, but if it takes you this freakin long to understand that people do not enjoy being harassed you need a slap across the face. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:11:22 AM |
lol even with her newly aquired figure i wouldnt even hit her with a baseball bat.
Sounds like you still have anger management issues. I would have been more interested in know what she looked like. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:26:09 AM | OP...do you know that she recognized you from school before she called you?
If so, then she is a bent bitter betty...but if she didnt know it was you, and you remebering her is what prompted her to remember you- it almost looks like she was just asking if you still behaved like you did back then (bacause thats all she remembers of you), and then you retaliated out of hurt.
Could be a misunderstandning...I have come to learn that most of what we get offended about is a waste because we assume others actions have anything to do with us, when in most cases, they really dont. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:52:14 AM | I love the bleeding heart finger pointers that have come out of the wood work so far as to refer to me as at the same level as her. Well... you DID stoop to her level! Instead of "turning the other cheek" as you put it, you fired back on an equal level. I would say that was stooping.....
repelling their attack with the same method. See? You just admitted it.
turning the other cheek works with people who learn their lesson Yes. And you haven't. Turning the other cheek when someone verbally attacks you from something WAY back when that shouldn't even matter anymore...would entail something like "haha, yeah well...some of us grow up and change. Have a great evening. goodbye". You didn't turn the other cheek.... you only proved to her that you in fact, haven't changed much at all.
but if it takes you this freakin long to understand that people do not enjoy being harassed you need a slap across the face. so are you saying that she should be slapped? Yeh... maybe you better go talk to a therapist about your anger problems. You might not be throwing chairs or other inanimate objects anymore, but you are clearly still on the defense and that's a mighty big chip on your shoulder.
Granted, her calling just to gloat that she was hot now and lost a bunch of weight was a bit immature. But your goating her and response to her was equally as such. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:39:51 AM | OPie...you do of course realize that it is the adult male's opportunity to act like a man...not like a jerk?
You took a perfectly good situation and when she made light of your school temper tantrums, rather than recognizing any personal growth in yourself and addressing it, you slashed back at her many times harder.
Next time, think of the impact of saying EXACTLY what you just said to her to your mother...or your sister or an aunt.
Right now, the girls on here are picking sides to team up to grab your ankles and make a wish...and dude, you deserve every bit of it.
The only thing I'm glad of is that after a year it is still bugging you...perhaps there is hope.
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Posted: 6/29/2009 11:27:41 AM |
Yes actually i did feel like a jerk cause i dug into a wound that im sure is/was much deeper than mine. That's encouraging, and as someone else pointed out, the fact that it still bothers you is a good sign.
I'm happy to see you're aware, even as you still struggle with anger. I hope you're doing better lately. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:00:03 PM | sidewinder154
so are you saying that she should be slapped? Yeh... maybe you better go talk to a therapist about your anger problems
Yes, yes that is right i really wish she should be slapped....come on It was a metaphor, i like to think that when presented with a mirror of sorts into what the person has done or how they behave through emotional pain that they would somehow realize the folly in themselves. Maybe that is just expecting too much of people, i don't know. and i kinda already did talk to a therapist, that is why i dont throw chairs anymore, i use my words. I feel sorry for hurting Carly, if i did. It is that sense of remorse that separates people who have come to terms with what they are, and meager bullies.
Brown Eyed Woman
OP...do you know that she recognized you from school before she called you?
yes she, called told me her name and where we went to school. Then i recognized her voice and i wish it was a misunderstanding but it was not i was hoping it could have been someone who wanted to get together for a coffee and chat, bury a few hatchets and such but it was just a childish prank call that really hurt actually.
I sent her an email after the call asking her if what i said hurt and if she now maybe understands how i felt back then when people hurt me. she never responded. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 12:06:49 PM | That's encouraging, and as someone else pointed out, the fact that it still bothers you is a good sign.
I'm happy to see you're aware, even as you still struggle with anger. I hope you're doing better lately.
thanks Key :)
Alot of people have the misconception that you can actually eliminate any issue you have. the reality is it never goes away but it will become less and less of a burden as you come to terms with the problem. there will always be that little bit of influence poking at you you will ALWAYS carry it with you. the contents just get lighter. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:48:22 PM | | Rude, ignorant people should be told off, but they rarely are, thats why they continue to treat people like dirt. She purposely wanted to mess with you and hurt you, you let her have a taste of her own medicine, maybe you made her think twice about her behavior in the future. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 5:01:03 PM | War. As A well adjusted adult you shouldnt have stopped to her level.
Matter of fact you should have stopped one beloe her level if she started in.
If someone calls you a name during a arguement just very calmly call them a name thats much worse.
Like i say during a quarrel. "lets bury the hatchet i think we are even, ok maybe I am one up on you.
You one upped her when she should have obeyed the statute of limitation on mental behavior which is 9 years and 11 months.
Now if she remembered you and wanted to stay away from you cause she wasnt sure if you have changed that would be another story but she antagonized you.
You didnt deserve that. Good to see you won the battle with your inner demons. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 8:59:01 PM | | People do that because they are insecure in their own lives so it makes them feel big by putting others down. It's her loss. She's more than likely one of those women who sit and complain that they aren't capable of finding a good guy but the kind of guy she is attracted to is the abusive low life loser. It's her loss. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 2:54:51 AM |
god i hope you are not like that now but you are using a dating site to meet women so i doubt you got any better.
Wow that was a but harsh of her. But in all honesty I really don't think that you handled the situation very well either. What is it with this 'two wrongs make a right' mentality? I would have simply said "I'm sorry, but I really don't have any time for this" and just hung up the phone. Just my thoughts. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 4:19:59 AM | God this reminds me of those Oprah shows where people prance around to show how hot they are now and rub it into the faces of people who hurt them.
Speaking of which, did you do something in school that hurt her specifically? or was it just that she saw you or your behaviour from a distance?
I only ask for the purpose of trying to figure out her motives here. If you had gone out of your way to hurt her in the past then I don't find this surprising, but if you hadn't then I wonder why she would throw it up in your face. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2009 8:35:04 AM | I find that sometimes a person's attempt at humor comes out the wrong way - perhaps she was trying to be funny in her own way and it just turned out worse than she planned...
Seems weird that she looked you up on purpose knowing who you are just to insult you...my guess is she had no idea till you brought it up. In any case, doesn't matter.
'Tis the world of the internet. It's strange. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 6:34:05 PM | | now this is interesting i posted a smackdown before reading after the last post i wrote...all of you diamondgirl2727 and below can at least be respectful even those who do not agree, thanks all of ya guys and gals. im glad there are still people in this world that know if you tease the lions they will bite your hands off. you know who you are ;-) | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 6:38:09 PM | Similiar Experience:
I was working with a patient when the patient looks at me, and says "you know, your eyes look familiar." then he snaps his fingers (while I am trying to put a splint on his hand, very annoying), and says "you use to skateboard alot! Yeah, I know you!"
well, indeed from age 6-14 I did skateboard, and didn't most kids? I asked him what elementary school he went, and as it turned out we did go to the same school. Worse still, he use to stick push pins into my arms when he sat behind me in class. I "accidentally" pressed hard into his forearm that I was splinting, and he says "ah shit, you remember me now."
To make a long story short, he apologized for being an arse back in the day, and wanted to know if I was busy after work. I don't date patients, especially ones who use to prick me. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:59:20 PM | She was an air head. Of course times have changed since your grammar school days.
Good for you for giving her a taste of her own medicine. I work with alot of my brothers' old classmates. For the most part they are respectful. I would hope if I did something goofy back in the day they don't think I do that now.
I did not know what the heck I was doing at 12. | |
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